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Orgasm Problems
My husband and I have been having problems in bed. He can have an ejaculation every time that he masterbates, but when we have sex, he can never ejaculate. He always feels close, but he can never orgasm. We are not sure how to handle this. Can you please give us advice?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
This isnt an uncommon problem. A man gets used to the sensations produced by masturbation and then any other feeling doesn't get him into the sensations he needs to have an orgasm. Personally, I don't think it is a big deal. Why not have an orgasm by hand and enjoy intercourse up to that point... The orgasm isnt the point of making love-- it is being together and giving each other pleasure. While I know there is a special zing about having a partner have an orgasm because of your mutual excitement during intercourse, I think the greater pleasure is having them be turned on by you and wanting to be only with you. Sure, you can wean him out of this response by having him touch himself during intercourse or in some other way carry over the exact feeling he gets when he is touching himself, ( clench the vaginal muscles very tight, use the same motion he does etc) but why go through all that... it's difficult, frustrating and makes sex feel like work rather than spontaneous pleasure. You can try some of these techniques but I think accepting things as they are and finding it satisfying to see him in ecstasy any way he can get there- should be enough.
Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.
How frequently does he masturbate? I believe this phenomena is usually the result of the
tight grip one might have on one's penis while masturbating, where as during intercourse, one
does not have the same degree of "tightness" one might experience during masturbation.
That's my theory, anyway. You might try to see if you can get him to keep his hands off that
thing for a while.
Jim
tight grip one might have on one's penis while masturbating, where as during intercourse, one
does not have the same degree of "tightness" one might experience during masturbation.
That's my theory, anyway. You might try to see if you can get him to keep his hands off that
thing for a while.
Jim
well my and my wife are having the same problem, just reversed. my wife can orgasm with a vibrator, but not during intercourse. :(
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