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does anyone have this problem? If I do not initiate sex, I will get nothing. And even with that I am lucky to have sx about 1 time a week. When we have sex, her toes curl so I know I am doing it right so I don't understand. She won't flirt, no nooners, nothing exciting. I am a little overweight so I wonder if that is it. Sometimes I feel I just need to find it other places to give myself some excitment....
I've been with my fiancee for 5 years and when I used to initiate sex early in our relationship he used to withdraw and tell me that he "can't do it that much". Now after hearing this for so long, I really love him but I hardly ever want to do it anymore. Now, he tries to initiate sex and I just don't feel like it, because he pressures me. I know sometimes guys can put too much pressure on women and not put enough focus on what they like...could this be happening with any of your relationships? I think that just seeing what gets your wife/girlfriend/fiancee really turned before sex (even if YOU don't like it-because you know we (girls) do things during sex that we don't always like) and really paying attention to your timing (not when we are half asleep or have been cleaning and running around all day) your chances may be better at getting her to pay the favor back...oh and how about helping with all of the housework so we can focus on having sex and not the laundry that's been sitting there for a week :) When we've been cleaning your dirty underwear and the razor stubble off the sink - there's a good chance we might not be really turned on when you get home.
To All The Guys Out There:
I've been married for 13 years. My husband is a wonderful man. He loves me completely, and I know that with all of my heart.
We do have sexual issues. I have no libido. It makes him feel unwanted and unloved. I feel so guilty about this, because I DO love him. I'm just so tired after taking care of kids, money, and the house all day. I also do not feel sexy anymore. He tells me I'm beautiful, but I don't feel it.
I want an emotional connection to him. I want to cuddle and talk. He wants to have sex and THEN cuddle and talk. If we cuddled more, with no expectation of sex, I'd probably be in the mood more.
Don't leave your wives over sex! If you get re-married, you'll have the same problem! Most women are like this (there are exceptions of course. When we first got married, I had a high libido. My libido is also high when we just get away alone and away from the kids). Talk to your wives. Tell them how you really feel, and keep working on it!
I've been married for 13 years. My husband is a wonderful man. He loves me completely, and I know that with all of my heart.
We do have sexual issues. I have no libido. It makes him feel unwanted and unloved. I feel so guilty about this, because I DO love him. I'm just so tired after taking care of kids, money, and the house all day. I also do not feel sexy anymore. He tells me I'm beautiful, but I don't feel it.
I want an emotional connection to him. I want to cuddle and talk. He wants to have sex and THEN cuddle and talk. If we cuddled more, with no expectation of sex, I'd probably be in the mood more.
Don't leave your wives over sex! If you get re-married, you'll have the same problem! Most women are like this (there are exceptions of course. When we first got married, I had a high libido. My libido is also high when we just get away alone and away from the kids). Talk to your wives. Tell them how you really feel, and keep working on it!
I think it is all about timing. I am 26 married about 3.5 years. My husband pursues sex when I am already in bed ready for bed, relaxed and half asleep. I can't believe he gets mad at my response to his advances if I am ready to fall asleep. I think he thinks since I am in bed now is the time. While in the half an hour before bedtime; we sit on the couch and watch TV with no advances. Try paying attention then.... then chasing me to the bedroom.
Plus I can't sleep after sex and he passes right out. Then I am even more upset.
Plus I can't sleep after sex and he passes right out. Then I am even more upset.
i am only twenty three and married for four years and i don't initiate sex because after i feed the kids, clean the house and play my little pony and G I joe i am just too tired and i don't feel sexy when i smell like kid puke and grilled cheese with the lingering smell of pledge in my hair. so if you guys want her to initiate sex draw a bath for her light the candles let us get nice and clean and help us get there wash our backs or throw in a load of laundry just those simple things can make a woman feel good and then want to have sex. Also pick up one of our girly books we a reading it or watch a disney movie because no matter how old you are you want to be swept of your feet from 1 to 100 from gay or straight all woman want to be a princess for a night. and more then just once a year on the wedding anniversery
I've been married to my husband for 20 years. I've tried initiating, but he responds by backing away. He only wants to have sex when HE wants it, and is unwilling to try to get in the mood when I want it. I feel rejected, unattractive and humiliated when he doesn't respond to my advances, so obviously I no longer initiate. If it were up to me, I'd have sex everyday. He can go without it for weeks. I spend many nights either not sleeping well, or resorting to solo sex so that I can sleep. One thing I think is important for every man to remember....Making love to your wife begins in the morning when you wake up. Give her hugs and kissess with plenty of sincere compliments throughout the day. When her interest in sex returns, you can then talk to her about your fantasies- one of which is for her to initiate. Give her all the details of how you'd like her to do it so she feels confident. (Keep kissing and hugging her and stroking her skin while you are talking) and for goodness sake, when she does initiate- don't turn her away! Make sure she knows how much you are enjoying it and be sure to enthusiastically give her pleasure she'll never forget. If that doesn't turn her into an initiator, I don't know what will.
My boyfriend and I have always had a pretty good sex life, but in the last few months he’s been full of surprises doing loads of new things that I never even new existed and It’s been the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. A few months ago he was surfing online and found these ebooks at themenschamber . com. I don’t know why he didn’t want to tell me this sooner but hey I’m not complaining In fact I’ve never been happier Lol..
Back to your question though, I enver used to intiate sex before he made this major turn around. The fact that I know Im going to get toe curling fun and give him toe curling fun too makes me more motivated to persue sex with him, I now initiate sex 1-2 times per day just because he got these ebooks and learnt how to give us both more mutual pleasure and taught me some moves to please him as well.
I can’t fit everything I’ve learnt lately in this post but here are a couple of very simple bedroom tricks that really worked for me.
The Experi Mint
This technique really packs a huge payoff for very little prep work. Some
women claim that different cough drops provide varying degrees of
stimulation. It seems to be purely a matter of personal preference, so
don't be afraid to experiment with a variety of brands and flavors.
Here's What You Need:
One mentholated cough drop, any flavor.
Here's How You Do It:
Get your woman naked.
Unwrap the cough drop and put it in your mouth. You need to give it a
couple of minutes to partially dissolve; so use this time to pepper her
belly, bikini line and inner thighs with little kisses.
Swirl the cough drop around in your mouth, making sure to rub the tip of
your tongue against it. Now, keeping the cough drop in your mouth,
gently begin to lick around the vagina, paying special attention to the
clitoris. In a few moments your woman will begin to feel both the hot and
cool sensation of the menthol penetrating her body.
For added stimulation, pause every minute or so and gently blow on the
clitoris (the air reactivates the cooling properties of the menthol and
provides a sensation most women find immensely pleasurable).
Women all over the world have gone absolutely crazy for this little ditty.
Done properly, it will have her yodelling!!!
Walking the Wall
This is a great way to find just the right angle to stimulate her G-spot.
Here's How You Do It:
Get your woman naked. You, too.
Have her sit on the edge of the bed with her legs apart.
With you standing, enter your woman.
Have her bend her knees, letting her feet rest on your stomach.
As you continue thrusting, tell your woman to "walk" up your chest,
placing one foot in front of the other.
As she does this, you'll stimulate different areas of her vagina. It's up to
your woman to determine exactly where she should be on "the wall" to
achieve an indescribable orgasm. Watch for the screaming orgasm though!! a towel underneath her usually helps keep the bed clean…
Oral Stimulation
Most of my female friends I have talk to about this say men don’t really understand where to pleasure a woman the best around this area.
Yes the clit is very sensitive but the underside is even more sensitive as are the outer and inner lips.
While working the tip of your tongue along the outer lips up one side and down the other side all the way to the bottom and back up again doing this a few times you'll know your doing it right but the sounds your partner will be making.
With your thumb and fore finger slightly open the lips and lick the inner lips and flick your tongue as it licks the inner lips basically tickling your partner.
Most men try to suck their partner, just use your tongue to lick and gently tickle every inch of her as though you are tasting her.
Make your way to her clit and kiss and nibble on it with the tip of your tongue flick the front of the clit ever so gently and lick the underside with a little extra pressure after a few strokes of your tongue increase the pressure as your partner moves to meet your every stroke of your tongue.
Here is where the fun really heats up insert a finger or two as your stroking the underside of her clit with your tongue.
I have found that using toys vibrators works the best to give a earth shattering screaming orgasm.
You'll know what your doing to give your partner that screaming orgasm by the way she moves, moans, purrrs, breathing.
Back to your question though, I enver used to intiate sex before he made this major turn around. The fact that I know Im going to get toe curling fun and give him toe curling fun too makes me more motivated to persue sex with him, I now initiate sex 1-2 times per day just because he got these ebooks and learnt how to give us both more mutual pleasure and taught me some moves to please him as well.
I can’t fit everything I’ve learnt lately in this post but here are a couple of very simple bedroom tricks that really worked for me.
The Experi Mint
This technique really packs a huge payoff for very little prep work. Some
women claim that different cough drops provide varying degrees of
stimulation. It seems to be purely a matter of personal preference, so
don't be afraid to experiment with a variety of brands and flavors.
Here's What You Need:
One mentholated cough drop, any flavor.
Here's How You Do It:
Get your woman naked.
Unwrap the cough drop and put it in your mouth. You need to give it a
couple of minutes to partially dissolve; so use this time to pepper her
belly, bikini line and inner thighs with little kisses.
Swirl the cough drop around in your mouth, making sure to rub the tip of
your tongue against it. Now, keeping the cough drop in your mouth,
gently begin to lick around the vagina, paying special attention to the
clitoris. In a few moments your woman will begin to feel both the hot and
cool sensation of the menthol penetrating her body.
For added stimulation, pause every minute or so and gently blow on the
clitoris (the air reactivates the cooling properties of the menthol and
provides a sensation most women find immensely pleasurable).
Women all over the world have gone absolutely crazy for this little ditty.
Done properly, it will have her yodelling!!!
Walking the Wall
This is a great way to find just the right angle to stimulate her G-spot.
Here's How You Do It:
Get your woman naked. You, too.
Have her sit on the edge of the bed with her legs apart.
With you standing, enter your woman.
Have her bend her knees, letting her feet rest on your stomach.
As you continue thrusting, tell your woman to "walk" up your chest,
placing one foot in front of the other.
As she does this, you'll stimulate different areas of her vagina. It's up to
your woman to determine exactly where she should be on "the wall" to
achieve an indescribable orgasm. Watch for the screaming orgasm though!! a towel underneath her usually helps keep the bed clean…
Oral Stimulation
Most of my female friends I have talk to about this say men don’t really understand where to pleasure a woman the best around this area.
Yes the clit is very sensitive but the underside is even more sensitive as are the outer and inner lips.
While working the tip of your tongue along the outer lips up one side and down the other side all the way to the bottom and back up again doing this a few times you'll know your doing it right but the sounds your partner will be making.
With your thumb and fore finger slightly open the lips and lick the inner lips and flick your tongue as it licks the inner lips basically tickling your partner.
Most men try to suck their partner, just use your tongue to lick and gently tickle every inch of her as though you are tasting her.
Make your way to her clit and kiss and nibble on it with the tip of your tongue flick the front of the clit ever so gently and lick the underside with a little extra pressure after a few strokes of your tongue increase the pressure as your partner moves to meet your every stroke of your tongue.
Here is where the fun really heats up insert a finger or two as your stroking the underside of her clit with your tongue.
I have found that using toys vibrators works the best to give a earth shattering screaming orgasm.
You'll know what your doing to give your partner that screaming orgasm by the way she moves, moans, purrrs, breathing.
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