Help with bathroom use

[Aimee_Maree]

My boyfriend age 31 had a massive hemmoragic strok he has been home for about a month now but cant seem to control his blatter, and he gets really mad quick. Im just wondering how do I help these issues Im so sick of him peeing everywhere???HELP

[Aimee_Maree]

Thank you so much for your anwser it really helped me because I think alot of times as an outsider (meaning non stroke patient) I dont relize just how hard it is to one day not be ablie to do any of the thing I used to. My boyfriend has just recently started hitting me and hard...I dont know what to do when he does this but some people tell me hit him back, although I feel horrible for it sometime Im scared if I dont hit him he might really hurt me. Any good suggestions on that one?

[moxyrock]

i had a stroke (ischemic cerebral) in april '09 at 31, and i wet the bed very shortly after the stroke.  it's the only incontinence that i have experienced, but i have a terrible fear of it now because of that single instance.  he should definitely discuss this issue with his neurologist or gp just to make sure that there isn't something else going on.  

i can tell you that as a stroke survivor i get frustrated so quickly because i feel that i "should" be able to do the things i did before, as quickly, as well, as easily, etc. and that i shouldn't get tired by things that used to be simple tasks.  my brain shouldn't get scrambled and the wrong words shouldn't come out of my mouth when i know exactly what i'm trying to say.  i get upset if my boyfriend tries to help me or tells me i'm in need of rest or help, etc. and i get upset if he doesn't.  it's a double-edged sword and though his patience is stellar, even he gets absolutely worn down by my anger and mood swings.  i had never really screamed at him before, but now i fly off the handle so quickly and i feel totally justified!  then i realize i've been as ***, but the anger is so real and so quick to take over.  don't ever let your boyfriend hurt you, but understand that he is probably in a state of shock (i still am) and his frustration is likely very high and that leads to a volatile mixture that just needs the smallest stimulus to burst.  i hope things get better for you and your boyfriend!