i need help.

[trippie94]

hi im 16 yrs old and ive been dating my boyfriend for now 8 months . we've went threw so much i could write a whole story about it but long story short is he really likes to go off party getting messed up not call me turn his phone off and expect me to be there waiting for him.. hes went to stripp clubs on me which really hurt the most. a nurse at gateway told him he was a problem drinker... hes not an alcoholic they but i dont think so.. he is everything to me and all i try to do is help him in life and try to make a better life for him, and for our furture, he knows i care so much but when he hurts me or goes days without callin me or talkin to me i loss it when i see him.. youve got to understand wen we first started dating he said i was not aloud to talk to guys look at a guy not say hi to a guy . cant b friends with them on facebook i cant party drink smoke anything. but he would sit here and do it to me all the time. so after he would mess up after a couple months of so of him doing it over and over i started punchin him i dont try to beat him tho.. but its gotten worse , and im scared that i might hurt him really bad next time.. i threw his phone at his face and busted it cuz he went to the strip club and had a stripper txtin his phone n the whole time he tried to say he didnt know her but finaly at the end he tells me the truth. i already have problems of my own with depression but am i a bad person? do i need to seek help for this ? what does he need to do?

[trippie94]

thank you for writing me. its okay i have to put up with this i choose to. i understand that im 16 im young ill find someone else everyone tells me that everyone tells me to kick him to the curb and find someone else. but the problem is i cant run from him.. ill find him or he'll find me some how.. hes the first guy ive loved , and i want to try to make this work for as long as i can.. ive done gave up everyone for him he means everything to me.. he tried to go to rehab and now he has been going to AA meetings .. i just want to know do u think he'll do it again? i have hope he doesnt but i got that feeling he will,,  i know i can do better but im a really nice person well i think i am.. i put everyone else first ill give out chances until im dead.. and hes someone want to help and see him do better in life.. he says he wants the help but i dont know if he rlly wants it i mean he just tried to go to rehab 3 days ago so im thinkin he does.. or was it just a act?
this is so hard.. i truely love this guy,

[scaredlonelady]

You are not a bad person. You have every right to be upset about this. I am sorry that you have to have a boyfriend who is very selfish. To be honest guys who are young (under 25) ALL of them are like that. They just want to play around and lie to girls. Guys do not know what they have until they are much older and smarter. You will have many dudes come into your life ....you are only 16 and this guy is not going to be the one. Kick him to the curb and find a rare dude (hard to find but is out there) that will treat you like the amazing girl that you are. DON'T PUT UP WITH HIS CRAP...you can do better. Trust me.