a project for my neice and i

[daprincess21]

I was wondering if anyone knows of a project that my 14 year old neice and i can do togther. she looks up to me and i am about the only one who can influnece her at this point. within the last two weeks she has threatned suicide, started councling, medication, and last night she got caught shoplifting. (which she dont ned to do because money is not an issue) She falls into peer preasure very quickly to make her "friends" happy. she is a beautiful girl and doesnt relize it. i would like to help her gain some confidence and self esteem. Even help with her trust issues. we found out alot we did not know. i just want some ideas, i cant think of alot myself . thanks in advance.
Sara

[morgan95]

well i have suffered some of the same things your neice has suffered and i find that sometimes when i go and do something like wass climbing i don't feel bad or or how ever you want to put it. If she has a problem with her apperence  (even if she is buitful ) take her to a spa and then go to a nice store like lululemon or some other store and show her that she is beutful adn make her feel that way to. I also know what she is going through and wall climbing does make me feel better emotionaly and mentaly.   sorry im a bad speller.

[April2]

I'm thinking find a volunteer project you can do together like help out in a soup kitchen, volunteer in a hospital or nursing home. Some people don't get visitors and would love a visit from someone! If you have a pet, you could investigate doing pet therapy in a hospital or nursing home. There's so many things out there. Habitat for Humanity - you could help build a home for a homeless person. Many churches have missions trips to places like Mexico, etc. where they go to build homes for the poor. Find something that you think would interest you both and try it. You would be helping others less fortunate and it would make you both feel good! It would open your neice's eyes to how much she has to be grateful for and how little others have. It really can have an impact on teens!
Our church youth group went to Mexico one time to build homes for the poor. They were gone about 10 days. They came back totally changed. They had them come up to the front and talk about what impacted them. They all said just seeing that kind of poverty. These people lived in shacks with dirt floors! They didn't have enough to eat. They were just so grateful for the simple things. It made these kids think about all their IPods and designer clothes, etc. and realize just how fortunate they really were.

Anyway, that's what I'd do. Start investigating all the different ways you can make a difference in your community and step out and try it. You will both be pleasantly surprised at how good it will make you feel. She might not feel that way right away, but she will once she gets into the swing of things.
I think it's great that she has an aunt who cares so much about her that she doesn't want to see her go down the wrong path! She's a lucky girl! Best wishes to you both.

[Captain_Rit]

can you give us more background information.