My husband attempted suicide 20 yrs ago by shooting himself in the head....he came out of it all pretty well considering, he is hemiplegic and blind in one eye, has no use of leg arm but can walk with a leg brace....but has many mental issues. Math for one, so I've had to look after all the household finances etc. and got accused of stealing etc from him, he still believes he is head of the house and consquently has full use of our bank account, since he has a generous disability income, I had no right to stop him. he has also been given credit cards and has abused both over the years.....He is too close to being NORMAL and I can't certify him incompetent so you can imagine all the problems we have suffered for 20 years!
About 2 yrs ago he decided he wanted to move out and be on his own looking after his own affairs!
And he did ...we separated after 40 yrs of marriage, it has been a God send for me! But he has hit many road blocks, financial problems the biggest of course, he moved 5 hrs away but my son (here) has had to take over his bills, he just couldn't remember to pay any....
anyway after a year of being PO'd at me and all the family, he is now accepting help and phones or emails me everyday, just to talk...general things, how to do this or that or abt his cat or medical problems etc.
He is very lonely, he would never admit it but I know he regrets leaving...and now he knows just how much I did for him everyday. I'm scared I think he's going to ask to return, now that I finally have a calm and happy life.
But if he becomes much more unfit mentally there is no way he can survive on his own, I feel obligated to allow him to come back, what do I do??