My 19 yr old has swollen lymph's in his groin and other issues

[MotherOfKain]

My 19 year old son just came to me and told me that he has "lumps" in his groin area, I checked and he has 8 swollen lymph-nodes. He also says he has 3 "bumps kind of like a white heads but a little bigger and won't pop) under his scrotum which he has been tearing at for days trying to pop. They do not hurt, and not inflamed unless he is trying to pop them over and over. After checking he also has a lymph in his neck swollen a bit. His gums have been swelling, hurting and bleeding lately more then usual. He just started brushing regularly again though. No changes in bathroom habits but did say it burned once when he urinated 2 days ago. No change in appetite, mood, or sleep schedule. He has had 4 partners in the last 8 month that I know of and by the one pregnancy scare and now a definite 12 week pregnancy I can tell my sex ed talks were not listened to. Any Ideas? Getting this "man" to go to the doctor is as close to alligator wrangling as I ever want to get. So any ideas and suggestions would be great to either not worry so much on my part, and/or make him more aware the the need to seek a professional immediately, oh yeah, and the need for safe sex or abstinence, if kids can even compute that word anymore. Thank you for your time.