I'm 40, healthy active male; married and monogomous. Ten years ago my wife had genital herpes outbreak; never had one myself. I'm active in walking a few days per week and general exercise. A month ago, noticed opening of my penis was getting red and irritated; never any discharge or pain during urination. Wife and I have sex usually once per week; oral and vaginal. Three weeks ago just after sex it was very inflamed and swollen around urethra. Thought this might be my outbreak, because it can stay dormant for years. Went to urologist who examined, took urine speciman (found nothing) and said to "leave it alone" and prescribed anti fungal cream 3X/day. Applying has made no impact; only getting worse. Said if it doesn't get better in three weeks to come back for full STD panel. I was shocked and because it's not getting any better, actually worse, I had full panel (all neg) myself. Can't believe wife gave me anything, but this is strange and really worrying me.
Three weeks now; leaving it alone, no sex, no masturbation, keeping area clean, applying cream as directed.
The soreness and swelling has grown from just the lips to about the size of a thumbnail around urethra. I'm having a hard time urinating at night, really have to push to get it out. Swelling area sometimes stings like hell now, with no visible ulcering but it's a darker color more, red than grey. Still no discharge in any manner. It's been three weeks; cream is not making any impact and its' getting slightly worse. Two days ago my tongue swelled up with two, 2 inch ulcers out of the blue; may not have any connection other than stress. They are subsiding now, but between the two of these areas, I'm getting nervous. What the hell is this and can you recommend how to proceed?