problem in intercourse

[cybershaman]

Hello,

     I have been married since a month now but I have not yet had intercourse woth my wife.I am 28.I have a very strange problem and I do hope that you can help me with it.
        when I foreplay with my wife I do get errection and its errect as long as I foreplay.As soon as I plan or think of having intercourse I loose errection and cannot get errection again.It always happens.As theres low errrection , i cannot enter my wife.
                    Is it a psychological problem?opposite to that when I am looking at adult content or porno movie I get very strong errections.Please help me in overcoming this as it has been a month now and she might think that theres some problem with me.We do engage in long lovemaking sessions but no intercourse and that worried me.Please help.Thanks


          1.Yes, I am a virgin.
2.Yes, she is my 1st "real" time sex partner.
3.Yes, I used to satisfy myself with pornography (masterbation)
4.Yes,we dont want to have a baby for the next 1 year so I am using condoms as I do not want to make her pregnant.
5.Yes, I tried and tried and for the past few days we just foreplay and when the time comes I do pretend that I am tired, so it can be a case of sexual performance anxiety too.

[crambone]

scared of first time is all,,,when you wake up with that morning hard on,tell her to hop abord!,,you will both have some fun,and you will get over that first time jitters,,,just an idea

[SixStringer]

As long as you are waking up most days with an erection, your organs are working properly, besides the evidence that you gain an erection during foreplay.  Performance anxiety may be involved here, along with some anxiety over the possibilities of having a baby before you both planned on having one.  For the present, you could continue to enjoy an extended foreplay.  Do you ever find success orally?  If so, you could also continue with that until your psychological issues subside.