6 Weeks - Unsure on termination.

[AnnaReid]

Hi there,

I know this is such a trigger subject for people, but anyway.

I was being really really careful, used condoms, etc, checked for signs of ovulation.. and somehow, on my PCOS riddled 50 cycle, I'm suddenly 5 weeks pregnant after finishing my period on the 6th of oct. So, I guess I ovulated around a week and a bit after the bleeding stopped.

Partner and I are about to move to Swansea from Scotland! We don't have a place of our own yet, but we do work, albeit not a lot of money, probably about £30k total from the two of us.

It's a bit of a shock, to be honest. Whilst we'd love to have a child, we don't feel as though we could give it our very best at the moment, so I am considering a termination.

I don't know what do to! My feelings are all over the place. Help.

[missy123421]

You shouldnt have asked for anyones opinion here bcuz its obvious everyone is tellin u the same thing, u and ur partner should ve secretly make that decision. I think what it is is that ur choosing ur partner over ur own child, he tells u that hes not ready yet and told u to ve the abortion, he's gonna leave u someday to a woman who has not committed an abortion, that will give him a child without any medication. Both of u are selfish, be an adult and take respinsibility for ur actions. For ur info, the forum is for ppl who wants their baby and needs support from their fellow women, its not for ppl like u. Goodluck.

[stacey10]

so you dont think that the baby deserves to be brought up by two parents that are in a relationship etc, that may struggle for money for abit,.... you dont want that for your baby, but your ok with removing your baby from you and ending its life? that doesnt add up to me, you posted on here to ask for advice/support I imagine as thats why most people do, so why are you getting very short with the people who are letting you know that babies dont need much, and that you will get by, you really dont seem open to this point of view at all, I understand that you want more for your child, but money doesnt make a child happy no does an iph, etc, its a stable home, and love, if you can provide that, then your giving your baby the best thing possible

[Kimejo_81]

Personally after reading your responses to these other women, you had made up your mind long before posting here. Not sure why you did as u know its a 'trigger' subject for women. Unless you just wanted to get the women on here riled up. Especially those who would LOVE to be able to get pregnant and or carry to term. No matter what situation a baby is a blessing and a gift from God. Every child deserves a chance as it didn't ask to be conceived. If you chose to be selfish and not keep the baby, why not make the choice of adoption? Why sentence your CHILD to death because you are too selfish to 'woman' up and give it the best life you can. Instead of death offer it life with a family who WANTS it and WILL give it a chance to live a wonderful life. It's much better then killing the life you and your partner created out of love. Just my opinion (like you asked), no judgement and I wish you the best in whichever choice you do chose to make. But please think long and hard before taking the life of your child.

[erikamtz]

i think if you aren't stable enough just give birth and put the baby up for adoption theres plenty of women out there who can't have babies that would love to be able to , bt sadly can't . just think hard about what your doing don't do anything your gonna feel bad for later . bt i believe everyone deserves a chance at life . there will never ever be another baby like the one you have in your tummy now the dna is one of a kindd . :)

[Steph_MHModerator]

Hi Everyone,

Just a reminder that we are a support site and while we may not agree with other members' choices, we are not here to judge or to think harshly of anyone.

Best wishes to the original poster.

Steph

[LadyLynch]

Just a few facts for you to think about @ 4weeks pregnant baby's heart is beating, and eyes are starting to show. @ 5weeks baby has arms and legs, its nose and mouth are begining to show, and baby's brain waves can already be detected. @ 6 weeks baby has fingers and baby's heart is beating about twice as fast as your. @ 7weeks baby is moving around, baby's mouth can open, and baby has stubby toes. @ 8weeks all baby's major organs are working and baby can FEEL. Like to other girls said is sounds like you have already made up your mind. I personally feel that aborting or losing a child doesn't make you not a mother it makes you the mother of a lost child. In most places abortion is aloud until  week 12, at week 12 baby has vocal cords, taste buds, ears, and baby has the ability to get hiccups, swallow, make facial expressions, and even curl its little toes. Just some things I think you should know before making your final decision.