Are You More Fertile After Miscarriage? True or False

[BearHitch]

Hey ladies... I recently had a miscarriage and DH and I are looking to try again.  I've heard that you are more fertile after a miscarriage- does anyone know if this is true or just rumor for someone who would really like that to be true (me)?!  The bleeding has pretty much stopped, though it picks up a bit after sex but then stops again, so I think my body is done getting rid of everything...  Has anyone else had a m/c and conceived shortly after?  I'd love some stories that would envoke hope :)  Thanks!

[AUSIE SHELL]

HI I HAD A MISCARRAGE (miscarriage) IN DECEMBER 2004 THE FIRST TIME WE WERE TRYING FOR A BABY IT HAPPENED THE FIRST MONTH... WE WERE SO EXCITED, I WAS 11 WEEKS PREGNANT AND HAD JUST STARTED TO TELL FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS AND I STARTED BLEEDING THE DAY AFTER... WE WENT TO THE HOSPITAL AND IT CONFIRMED I WAS PREGNANT AND JUST BLEEDING THE HEART WAS THERE AND IT WAS FINE I JUST HAD TO TAKE IT EASY.. I STAYED IN  BED FOR 2 WEEKS AND THE BLEEDING CONTINUED VERY MILDLY, TWO WEEKS TO THE DAY I LOST THE BABY, I WENT STRAIGHT TO THE HOSPITAL AS THE PAINS WERE SO BAD AND HAD A D&C (CURETTE) TO REMOVE ANYTHING THAT MAY HAVE BEEN LEFT OVER, TWO MONTHS AFTER I HAD HAD THE MISCARRIAGE WE STARTED TRYING AGAIN. IT TOOK US 3 MONTHS TO FALL PREGNANT BUT WE WERE TRYING SO HARD THIS DAY AND THAT DAY IT WAS BECOMNG STRESSFULL AND WHEN WE SAID THAT THIS WAS THE LAST TIME IT HAPPENED WE DIDNT PARTICULARY TAKE NOTE OF THE DAY BUT KNEW ARROUND THAT TIME IT COULD HAPPEN. WE HAVE A VERY HANDSOME BABY BOY (BLAKE JOHN)... HE WAS BORN 10 POUND 10 OUNCES... SHELL...

[msneicynola]

sometimes true and sometimes false. It depends on if the baby did any damages to your body. but sometimes if you are lucky. Yes you are a bit more fertile than usually. that's one reason why they tell you after a miscarriage wait some weeks before trying again

[glb25]

That's what I was told after M/C and after the birth of my DS. If you don't want to get preg again be VERY careful. If you do then still be careful and let your body heal and get back to normal before trying. Otherwise it could result in another M/C. At least that's what the doc told me. Good Luck...

[pfeiferbaby]

I can say that yes it is possible to get pregant right after i had one last year in jan. and 2 days into after i passed it i got pregant with my now 9  month old son and i am trying to have another one with my new husband and we are having trouble now if anyone can give me some input on this please feel free to

[baby_gift_from_God]

Hi, Just to share my experience.  I m/c naturally in mid april 06 at 5 weeks and bled for about 7 days.  Once the bledding stop we resume our sex activity.  Priase God, after 1 week from my m/c i got pregnant immediately after 1 try.  God is amazing and He gave us this wonderful surprises.  So all things are possible.

[mb2006]

Well, my story has a different outcome unfortunately. I had natural m/c very early on end of May with no D & C. I felt good after bleeding only a week and went ahead with trying to get pregnant again when I knew I was ovulating 2 weeks later. Here I am 2 more weeks later and had positive pregnancy test a few days ago but another m/c started last night. Again, very early so hopefully symptoms will be mild and natural discharge. People had told me to wait but I was eager to try again and worried more about waiting long time as I'm 36 and just trying for first time. My midwife was surprised I got pregnant so fast after first m/c so don't know if b/c more fertile after 1st m/c or just like that in general. The first time I got pregnant on 2nd month trying so maybe just my body and nothing to do with m/c. I wish you luck with pregnancy after m/c! I now am eager to try yet again but will wait 1 to 2 months though I don't agree with it. There's really no research to support waiting if natural early m/c. Remember 1/5 women under 35 and 1/4 women over 35 have m/c so it's not that rare to start with. Good luck!

[bee3]

i have just had a m/c last week at eight weeks. i never thought i could get pregnant without help as i have low level of ovulation. however now i am so scared of falling again and going through m/c again how can i get over that fear. my heart goes out to anyone with these bad experiences.

[Brandy702]

the doctors say i had a miscarriage, well 2 doctors and it has been almost 2 weeks ago now, what i have read from some other posts are they conceived again only a week later! how can you're body do that if you were prego and that halts you're eggs from dropping???

really curious, cause if it's true i want to try it!

also i have a question i hope some of you can help with!!

MY HCG LEVELS KEEP RISING, and it has been close to 2 weeks now! shouldn't they have started to drop like soon after???

it has the doctors stumped even!!

they have done numerous ultra sounds and have said they can not find anything in my tubes nor uterus no gestational sac was ever found, that my uterus has thinned back to pre pregnancy size....i only bled for 3 days, but it hurt like heck!! i was 5 weeks along...

can anyone shed some light??

Brandy

[CherBear04]

Your HCG levels should not be rising if there is no pregnancy found. Checkout misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com for more answers

[stonerose3883]

I am pregnant after miscarrying twins in Nov. of 07.  I am shocked because my boyfriend and I used condoms everytime we had sex.  Anyway, my period has come down 4 times in a month and a half.  What in the world?  Huh, my doctor put me on birth control pills to regulate my cycle, but now I am pregnant, what gives?  

[Melanie824]

I had a molar pregnancy 7 months ago.  I had no idea what this was but it turns out that cancer can form (even after a d&c) if not all of the pregnancy is removed/passed.  The only way to tell if you have the cancer is if your HCG levels rise.  The good news is though, that it has a 100% cure rate with a small dosage of chemo in shot form.  Ask your doctor about a possible molar pregnancy.  I wish you the best as I know how hard it was - so emotional.  We had to wait 6 months and then could start trying again.  Best wishes!

[hayleycam]

i had a missed misscarriage at 16 and half weeks.. had my d&c 3weeks ago and am still bleeding..been to the hospital 4 a scan and they said that all was fine but i had a slight blood clot on my uterus was just wondering if there anyone whos had the same and what the outcome of theres was.

[gemz20]

i had a complete misscarriage 1 week ago, im only 20 but eager to try again:( would a baby stand a good chance if you started trying straight away? only had some light bleeding for a few days and not much pain minus the stress/worry.

[Kim1989]

there have been plenty of women who miscarry and then get pregnant right away and everythings ok. but doctors suggest waitin a cylce or two before trying again

[JonahsMommy]

I have read several post online and even spoke to my doctor.  I miscarried almost a week ago, and he said we could start trying again asap. I was only seven weeks along so he said I wasn't far enough for it to bother anything if I did get pregnant right now.
The reason they use to tell you to wait 3 months is so your body could regulate and start a new cycle and they could track the due date. This later became wait one month so they could track from your LMP but now with Ultra sound Machines they say it doesn't matter because they can track it. I have heard you are more fertile after an MC and you can get pregnant fast. As some women have to wait until their cycle resumes to become fertile again.  I wish you all the best ! GOD Bless!

[slc03]

Hi , I had a m/c on the 4th july i was 7 weeks so i expected my cycle to be like normal but my cervical mucas appeared later than normal and has stayed much longer. Does this mean I am more fertile or is it my hormones playing up. as I should be due for my next period now but I get the feeling it's nowhere in sight. What's going on?
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[sara129]

i had a missed m/c and had to have a medical management of a m/c yesterday it was the worst thing i have ever gone through and the pain was terrible i had morphene which was a life saver i was only 5 weeks gone but we had been trying for a year, it is so unfair and we wanted this baby more than anything in the world i feel so empty this morning and i dont know what to do with myself !! we want to try again but im so scared that it might happen again or that it might take another year because my cycles were so long before hand around 45days!! has anyone with irregular cycles who have had a m/c found that it helped your cycles or made them worse or the same?? and how long can i expect to bleed for?? thankyou

[millymay33]

I had an ectopic or (tubal) pregnancy in July.  I was 6 weeks.  The dr gave me methotrexate to stop the growth of the baby.  I bled for about 5 days very heavy though.  I had my blood tested every week until my hCG was back down to zero.  The dr gave me the green light to start trying right away.  I don't think I've ovulate yet, but I haven't been really paying attention.   We have been trying for about a year.  I was taking a lot of fertility medication and think they may have had something to do with the ectopic from some of the articles i've read.  We are going to try on our own for about 6 more months then maybe IVF.  
  This has been the saddest thing I've ever been through. It's been about a month ago and I still feel really empty and sad everyday.  Best of luck to all.  

[keshakanee]

last sunday I spotted and cramped for about 3 hours. I went to the hospital and they told me I was pregnant and was probably miscarrying. I had a positive test monday and tuesday and negative one wednesday and thursday negative. I went to the doctor today and he said that that the line was so faint and said that I was probably not pregnant and to come back in 6 weeks. I am so confused because most of you have said that that you bled for days and I only spotted for a few hours. The other thing is that when they take my lood I show up pregnant and when they do the urine it comes up negative.

[Yamycal]

I had a misscarriage at 5 weeks, i bled a little than the rest came out and a few days later i had more of it come out i bled for about 7 days and had cramping for most of that. It was hard for me to get pregnant in the 1st place because of my tilted uterus so therefore i have to either put pillows under myself or tilt my body to even get pregnant i have been told that you were more fertile after a miscarriage and am hoping I get pregnant again with out having to do the tilt! anyone else have to do this to get pregnant and have had the same expierence

[polorolo]

hi
i had a miscarriage 5weeks ago i did a preg test 2weeks after as told this was negative so we decided to start trying for a baby again.
yesterday i did 2 pregnanct tests both posative i was so happy to be pregnant again so soon but when i saw my docter he told me theres a chance im not pregnant that its my hormons still high from my micarried pregnancy 5weeks ago im booked in to to have blood samples taken to see if my hormones are increasing and i also have to go for a scan but i wont know for sure for three weeks.
has anyone els been in this situation ? what was the outcome?
im going mad not knowing. does anyone know what my chances are please let me know many thanks xx

[Zett6370]

Hello, Im thirty-eight years old. Married 10yrs (second). A physical trainer. I was told 12yrs ago that I could not have anymore children. My son's are now 19 & 16. However, during that time I had went under infertility to clear up the endo that was located in my tubes and became a cement wall that did not allow sperm to get through. Anyways, after two laps. I was told that there was only 1% chance of ever having another child...again, that was 12yrs ago. Surprisingly in March...I noticed that my period was late..something that had never happened before...but I was told by my Gyno that I was most likely going through pre-p-menapause. Seven days after that news...I went to a FP clinic...took a test, and two hours later..found out I was pregnant! six and half weeks!  Excited was an understatement! Called my husband and my mother first...They told the rest. The pregnancy was going smooth, great infact..I reached my 14th week, was having a little tugging going on below and my stomach had strunked..Sooo, went to the doctors...they had taken some urine and blood...then told me they needed to take an US...I knew something was wrong...just did not know what...Long story short...As the tech was doing the US...she was pushing down hard...There was no heartbeat...NO HEARTBEAT!! all I seen was his little body, but no signs of life...They tried to shock him...three times...Nothing..They had me carry him for two weeks and three days..Dead..They would not give me a D&C because it was a still birth and he was still connected...Finally I had him June 6th, 08...The lost was hard...but wanting to try again...Here it is Sept 08' and my husband will be flying back down during the OV time and hopefully...we once again...our final time...Succeed. Im praying that GOD will allowed us to bring another angel in our lives to stay,  because one of his angels he took.  back...  Nervous but Hopeful....        

[beci84]

i had a miscarriage on sunday i was about 6 weeks gone according to the docs dates i have very irregular periods an it is very hard to track ovulation,  i was thrilled when i became pregnant after 8 months of trying then when my baby was taken from me on sunday i couldn't contain myself i am longing for a baby.....i want to start trying asap the bleeding has nearly stopped is it safe to start trying again? i am sorry to hear the stories that every one has been through its a horrible tragic situation and i wouldn't wish it upon any one is any one can gove me any advice about this i would be very grateful thank you.  big cuddles for you all :o( XXXX

[Determined2try]

It is some what comforting to know that I am not alone in what I have been going through. I had a miscarriage a week ago today and it has been really hard trying to cope with the loss. I was only 7 weeks pregnant but i had just begun to get used to the idea when we lost it.

I was wondering if someone could give me their opinion on some thing. My job consists of looking after two toddlers. I have no problem looking after them but one of the moms just had a baby and the other is as pregnant as I was. The thought of going back to work and being surrounded with babys and pregnant ppl scares me to death. Is it stupid of me to not want to go back to work on Monday? Or should I just suck it up and deal with it. I'm confused as to what I should do and any input would be greatly appreciated.

Also, i want to start trying again, is it safe to say that once all the bleeding has finished it is ok to start trying again?

[datbxbiggurl]

i had a miscarriage 2 weeks ago i was 20 weeks n i was so excited about having a baby i had tried so long when i was married and had no luck with him but was so happy to find out i was prego when i got with my now boyfriend .. i just wanted to know if im more fertile now after a miscarriage ???? has any one gotten prego right after a miscarriag ...i mean ive been trying snice 2 days ago is it ok ?

[jayne1]

I was 9 weeks into my second pregnancy I started spotting on friday then had an ultrasound on monday which revealed I had a missed miscarriage, my baby's heart has stopped at 6 weeks and 5 days.
I am also eager to start trying again, we tried for this pregnancy for 7 months.
A close friend of mine miscarried last year and fell again after 1st cycle, and now has a healthy baby boy, she put's it down to being more fertile after losing her baby.
I was told by the midwife that they do prefer you to wait until you've had 1 normal cycle, but if you do fall before then it doesn't necessarily mean that the pregnancy will end in the same way just that it makes it more difficult to know how far along you would be without an ultrasound  x

[bec85]

i am/was 5 weeks pregnant but started bleeding two nights ago all the doctors are leaning towards m/c but i have still got pains like period pain i was just wondering how long everyone had there pains/cramps for after m/c.

[RockRose]

bec, I'm sorry you're struggling with this.  Your question is confusing,  though.

It sounds like you are in the early process of miscarrying.   If you are,  likely your cramps will get stronger until you actually miscarry.  It doesn't sound like you have done that yet.  Then,  the cramping will stop almost completely but the bleeding will go on for awhile - likely as long as a long heavy  period.  

Best wishes.  Does your doctor want to save what you miscarry so they can be sure you've passed it all?

[loz502]

im 6 weeks pregnant for the second time, first resulted in an ectopic! not something i would wish on anyone, resulting in my left tube been removed, 4 months later im hear again, only not so straight forward doctors thought i was having another ectopic, so went to theatre found nothing. hcg going up slowley sometimes doubling, ive baffled the docs but know ive got quite red blood, thinkin i could be loosing! i no how ya all feel, ****!

[loz502]

so basically would be good to hear if ya are more fertile after a m/c? what should come so natural to all, so painfull when it doesnt, like an emotional rollercoaster!

[tra1977]

i just had a miscarriage at 8 weeks i started spotting lightly at 6 weeks went in for us everything was fine bleeding then picked up at 8 weeks 1 day went back in for ultrasound everything looked great hb was 164 beats a minute the dr said i prob tore some placenta and to take it easy well the next day i miscarried complete no d&c i bled for 3 weeks mostly spotting in the end i was wondering when will i get my cycle it has been 6 weeks from miscarriage date i had unprotective sex once but do not think i was ov  my breast are sore and i feel bloated like i am going to start my period but no spotting or any other sign if anyone can answer please do i am ready to get regular so i can try again this has been devestating feels as if something was ripped from me my sympathies are with you all

[loz502]

hi, sorry to hear your sad loss, the docs told me within 4-6 weeks can excpect your next period and everything should go back to normall. But if you are getting pregnancy symptoms and have been tryin quite poss you have fallen on, they do say with all the hormone you are more fertile after a m/c. Dont think i will be waiting for my next cycle and missin the chance to have something ive waitied so long for. They only like you to wait for a cycle for dates. hope you have good news!

[SimplySarah]

I am so sorry to hear so many stories of loss.  I had a miscarriage too, around the beginning of September.  I can relate to the very empty feeling as well as the feeling of having something ripped away from you.  Even with the support of my husband and other family members, I felt VERY alone.  It certainly doesn't help that there are two women I work with who are pregnant, the wife of one of the guys I work with is pregnant, my sister is pregnant.. the list goes on and on.. it seems like everyone I know is having babies but me.  It is disheartening.  I got so tired of everyone saying "Don't worry, it'll happen".. because it feels like it never will.  After the miscarriage, I decided that I was going to try waiting until January before trying again, but with the arrival of my first normal period, I'm starting to get anxious about trying again.  I'm hoping that I will be more fertile after my m/c (I was about 5 1/2 weeks when I miscarried)- though we were pretty lucky before- I got pregnant after just a few weeks of trying.  Good luck to everyone.. cross your fingers for me!

[JHLyles]

My DH and I were TTC #1 for 11 months.  We found out we were preggers early Sept.  For about a week, I was spotting brown.  i was told that was 'ok' b/c it was brown - which meant old blood.  On Oct 15th, after 1 week of continual spotting, I felt that something wasn't right.  I made an appt. for Oct 16th and during U/S, there was no heartbeat and the yolk sak had started to flatten.  I chose a D&C b/c not only could I go through days of waiting to 'naturally M/c' I wanted the tissue sent to the lab to try to detrmine a cause.  Went back on the 24th, DH and I were given the greenlight to try again & pathologist report showed no known cause for m/c.  I have heard from my Dr. that ~80% of women are more fertile after m/c.  Since I have a 'fairly consistent menstrual cycle' (anywhere from 24-36 days) that fertility drugs are not rec'd.  DH & I REALLY want to be preggers soon.  I have found online places that sell clomid (fertility drug with great results).  I am thinking about getting clomid w/o my MD prescription if we do not concieve within 2 months.  Any suggestions?  DH & I are really ready for a child.  Our age is 'getting up there' and we are just ready.  Thanks.  My heart  goes out to all who have lost a little angel.  may we all get to see them one day.  God    Bless

[Yabithimo]

I found out I was pregnant with our first child early August.  I went for my 8 week appointment and the doctor could not find a heartbeat, so she sent me to the ultrasound office the following day for a closer examination... and the ultrasound tech found a heartbeat!  She said the baby was only measuring at 5 weeks, 3 days, so we must of calculated wrong.  We followed up 2 weeks later for a repeat ultrasound just to make sure the baby's heartbeat continued to get stronger, and we had lost the baby. :(  It had only measured 6 weeks, 3 days... so the little guy died only a week after the first ultrasound, which of course had given us so much hope.  
That was Spet. 19... I didn't want to have surgery so I opted for the less invasive pills to carry out the miscarriage instead of a D & C.  I bled for about a week and a half.  And then the bleeding stopped for about a week... and I started spotting soon after.  It wasn't really "bleeding"... it was more brownish spotting.  Some days were heavier than others and sometimes it would be more "bleeding" than brownish spotting.  I had my HCG levels checked periodically after the miscarriage and they were decreasing "nicely" as my doctor put it.  I also had an ultrasound and examination immediately following the miscarriage and things looked fine.  I was worried that this lengthy bleeding was my hormones still trying to get back to normal and I would have to wait for a period to come on top of that.  But I just had my HCG levels checked on Oct. 29, and they were at 3... so I am assuming this was just a freakishly long period!?
As you can imagine, it has been a difficult time of grieving and processing the loss... and despite the fear that this could happen again, I am anxious to start trying again.  I feel like I want to take charge of my life again... and feeling proactive about trying to conceive again is one step I want to take.  But my doctor always ends her phone calls with "be sure to use condoms until you have had two periods."  I want to start trying again (even though I might not even ovulate this cycle) because I want to have hope again that this can work for us... and not trying makes me feel hopeless... but I am afraid that trying so soon after a miscarriage might cause another one to occur.  Why else would my doctor tell us to wait?!  But I have gone online and read up on it and there seem to be so many different opinions out there... I was wondering what you think...

[loz502]

hi, just been reading your post sounds like kinda what ive been going through only they think my pregnancy was a blighted ovum when the sack keeps growing and your hormone level keeps rising, wasnt until last week were i excperianced really bad pains to went to the early pregnancy unit, that they examend me and confirmed i was m/c, in the kneck of the womb i had placenta and pregnancy tissue. was dreadful wouldnt ever want to have to go through it again. this was my second pregnancy first was an ectopic, me and my chap are devestated been goin on for 5 weeks, scans blood tests know its all over, where in the same situation as regards contraception, really dont wanna have to wait, we got told to wait for one period which could take 4-6weeks. Find it so hard cos no you can be more fertile straight after a loss, but my doc said with my previous history, they ned to know dates so like you to have one period. So just gotta wait for a bleed. Know its the wright thing deep down, then we know our dates for next time, Touch wood all goes well 3rd time round and we dont have to wait as long for another posotive test good luck t you! x

[Mommynurse151]

Dr.'s really reccomend waiting after one period to try again after a loss. I got miscarried Jan.'03 and got my Feb. period and then missed Marches period,cuase i got pg with my son.

[cherylannh]

I have a question about ovulation. I had a miscarriage the beginning of Sept. 08, metho shot Sept. 17th, and finally HCG levels bottoming out on or before Oct. 6th and bleeding one more time for about three days. I just had my first period, which was about 29 days from when I bled starting Oct. 3rd-5th. My question is will I ovulate around day 14-15 with this cycle, or could I still be very irregular with my periods for the months to come? Could I ovulate sooner than that or later? As of now I believe my cycles are on track (every 28-29 days, but not for sure). I was pretty regular before I had the miscarriage. We would like to try again as soon as possible. Any advice would be great!

[lisadam]

You are more fertile, I had a M/C at 10 weeks after trying for a year and  a month of loosing the baby i fell pregnant again, this time i have a healthy 3 month baby boy, my partner and i are now trying for a girl as i have 4 boys! they say to have intercouse 3 days leading up to ovulation and stop 24 hours before you ovulate, is that right?

[celest44]

Well, I understand a Miscarrage (miscarriage) can be a stressful thing. I had one and I was devasted. I wouldn't worry about a Moler pregnancy though. They don't happen every offen. and even less women get cancer from them. There are some women who have them. But I woundn't worry about it. Just make sure and keep you doctors appointments. And just let it happen naturely. when feel like you want to have sex again just go ahead and see how everything turns out. Don't stess its the worst thing you can do.

[chychy29]

hi/i'm in the same boat/i had a missed miscarriage on 10*20/spotted for only 3 days/i've been naughty and me and hubby bd everyday until 11*15 then on 11*20 i spotted only when i wiped the next day i didn't spot but the day after that i spotted gain/i took a hpt and it was the bfn/do you think it was to soon to test

[ArielW]

i went through an mc at 4 months at the end of june. being this far, it was the most painful  thing in my life i have ever or will ever go through. I had no forewarning, no bleeding, no pains, and the day of my ultra sound i took my 3 year old step daughter with me so she could see her new baby brother...they had no idea what happened, no theories, no assumptions, nothing at all. all i got was "these things happen are you going to get dressed?" i was a pile of emotion on that stupid bed and still know nothing more of why the mc occured. all that is to say, i started birth control but stayed on it not even a couple of weeks. im still not pregnant and am curious if anyone might have the slightest idea....is something completely wrong with my body? after my d n c ihad all my follow ups, everything was fine and normal, and no irregular bleeding occured...do i just have all the bad luck?

[adeyemo]

hello everyone  i had a m/c in november and i had to wait a month to see a doctor to make sure everything pass, i seen the doc and my doc told me everything looked good and to wait two months before trying again but me and my husband  didn't want to wait so we have been trying , a couple of days ago i took a pregnancy test and it came out pos. i am not sure if it is from the miscarriage or if i am pregnant again but i hope for the best good luck to all of you out there that are trying to conceive again.. i believe that doctors should put more information out there about pregnancy after miscarriage for those of us who want to get pregnant again as soon as possible

[Ses]

I too agree that doctors should put more out there about miscarriages and the post-questions..I am 29 years old and recently went through a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks. It was our first pregnancy and I had gotten so attached to being pregnant and planning our life with a little one on the way...no complications, very healthy, I even quit drinking caffeine!! When my husband and I went in for our 8 week first visit everything was fine and we could see the fast little heartbeat. At our 12 week, we were excited to actually get to hear the heartbeat and see how much bigger she had gotten. We were devastated as my doc told us there was no heartbeat and the baby was the size of about 8 weeks. No signs...no cramping no spotting nothing. My heart goes out to anyone who has to feel this emptyness and pain. I thought I was gonna lose it. No words can express what a woman feels when she has to go through this. I know that now and I'm so glad all of you have posted all these stories bc it makes me feel less alone and more understood.....anyways, my doc scheduled a dnc for a week later and prescribed me some pain pillS. 2 days before my dnc I woke up to excruciating pain I can not explain....even contractions every 5 min. I thought I was gonna die it was so bad! I was not prepared for it at all. I was never told it would be that bad am a little bitter about that....I too wondered when to start trying again AND did all the research. My doc said to wait at least a month but my husband and I are trying rightvsfter I stopped spotting....only 2weeks after our 12week appt! God has a plan and I heard we are more fertile right after so why not?! Wish me luck....I can't wait...has anyone else gotten pregnant right after mc??? Love hugs and best wishes to all!!
---s

[susan_1981]

I heard that you are more fertile after a miscarriage because your cervix remains open for longer and also because your body is already prepared for pregnancy.  Not sure how true it is but it worked for my SIL.  About 7 years ago, she had a missed miscarriage at about 7 weeks, had an ERPC and then got pregnant again straight away.  My nephew is now 6.  I think it works for some people and not for others.  I recenty had a MMC.  Went along for my 12 week scan on 23 December expecting to see my baby happily growing inside me to find out the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks 2 days.  I'm now booked in for an ERPC on Monday and plan to start trying again straight away, as soon as bleeding stops.  If I miscarry again, then I will just assume my body wasn't fully recovered and will then wait a few months before trying again.  But I definitely don't want to miss my most fertile period if this is straight after a miscarriage.  I'm not sure if there is any medical reason for not trying again straight away and if the doctors are just telling me to wait to make their lives easier to be able to date my pregnancy without scanning, then it's tough luck to them I suppose.

[garciatam]

I am 40. I had a miscarriage on 9-22-08, I was 6 wks. I went to Dr on 10-2-08 and all was ok. A couple weeks later on 10-18-08 I took a preg test and was pos. That soon!? I had bloodwork and ultrasound on 11-10-08 and saw a heartbeat. I made my first obgyn visit for 12-1-08. After my appt Dr wanted another ultrasound to make sure of due date. I was not prepared for what happened next. No heartbeat. D&C scheduled next morning. Gone. In one Dr visit I lost my baby at 10 wks. It measured only 7wks. How can I have no symptoms of miscarriage and it be gone? No bleeding, no cramps, still sick? I am too afraid to try again after being preg since Sept and no baby yet. It has been almost a month since my D&C and I am still so hurt and lost. Do I have any hope or should I give in and stop trying?

[Iwantamiracle]

We were very excited with 1st pregnancy and went for scan on christmas eve before telling family the news.  My heart broke when the doc revealed our baby had died at 7 weeks.  I was 9 wks at the time.  All over xmas was the most horrid time of my life and I had to wait till New Year's Eve to have the ERPC, which went much better than expected.  I feel so sorry for all of you that have gone through this, I thought that because there was no bleeding, all was well.  I am so worried now about falling preg and same thing happening.  But I was soooo looking forward to having a baby this summer :-(  GOOD LUCK everyone, my heart goes out to you all and wishing that we are all lucky and have our own tiny miracles in our arms very soon.

[BooBooBearo1]

I was just told by the nurse that I am most likely having a m/c my levels keep going down I a, bleeding but not that much and my cervix is closed and i barely have any cramping, the DR said they want to see if my levels continue to go down to see if they need to do anything else. But I dont know what to think, I am bleeding but I dont have pain and my cervix is closed whats up with that? I am about 5 1/2 to 6 weeks

[kak77]

I just went throught the same thing.  I had a mc Jan 7...it was the most painful thing ever.  I was about 8 weeks along when the mc happened.  My mc was natural and everything passed on it's own.  Today is a week laster and I've completely stopped bleeding/spotting.  My DH and I really want a baby, so I think we're going to start trying right away.  My OB said it'd be good to wait until I had at least one period, but told us it'd be ok if we got prego right away.  I'm ready to be prego again, but scared to death at the same time because I don't think I could handle going through a mc again.  My heart goes out to all who have been through this bc I know how hard it is.

[sarah_love]

ok i just found out i was expecting and i had a m/c 2 years ago and now im pregnant again i really dont like to think about misscariges im still sad about the loss of my baby but i hope i have a healthy pregnancy this time so i hope everything goes great and im sorry for everyones loss

[Aimee88]

I have just had a miscarraige last friday (16.1.09) i was about 6 weeks pregnant! I was so so happy when i found out i was expecting. I told my dr and they done another test for me but when i called for thr results they told me it was boarder line! Well i didnt really understand what that ment so i went for an appointment! The dr told me that i was def preg and that i could be in the earlie stages. I went shopping thay night and started to feel very tired and had a very slight tummy ache. When i got home i noticed i had a bit of very light spotting, i was very scared i called the 24hour dr, they told me to go straight to a&e! When i got there i started cloting i think by that piont i new something was wrong! Later that night the dr confermed that i had lost the baby! That the test they done there came back negative, I was so shocked and didnt think i would ever get over it! Its now been a week and i have stopped bleeding. The dr said to wate a month before trying agen but thats only so they can track it easer. We have started trying agen now and am very excited and scared at the same time but cannot wate to fall pregnant agen! So fingers crossed it will be soon!

[Cari227]

I'm am 19 years old and I just got married 6-21-08. We have been together since the eigth grade. We started trying for a baby in October. We found out we were pregnant December 17th. We were so excited we told everyone right away. My first prenatal appt. was scheduled for January 22nd. On January 16th I started to spot. I got blood work done to check my hcg levels and they were in the 5,000's. On January 18th I started bleeding a little more and they sent me to the ER. I had more blood work to check my hcg levels again and they had droped to just under 5,000. They did an ultrasound and found no heartbeat but said that it may still be a little early. Also the baby measured 6 weeks, 2 days when I was 8 weeks, 3 days. They called it a threatened abortion because my cervix was still closed and put me on bed rest hoping that the bleeding would stop. The next night around 8PM I started having intense back pain and heavier bleeding. As soon as I saw that I had passed some tissue I headed straight back to the ER where they did MORE blood work and found that my hcg levels had dropped to about 3200. They checked my cervix and confirmed that it had opened. They told me with the amout of tissue that I passed that I had a complete miscarriage and sent me home. They were VERY wrong about it being complete. Overall it took me about 9 hours to miscarry and it was the most painful thing I ever been through. The only thing I have left are my confirmed pregnancy paper, 2 ultrasound pics and my hospital braclets. I went to the doctors on January 21st and she told me that it was nothing that I done wrong and that as soon as my hcg levels are below 5 and we are emotionally ready we can try again. I go in to have them tested again on January 26th and I hope they'v dropped fast because I really want to try again ASAP. I hope that am more fertile and we get pregnant fast and end up with a happy, healthy baby. Wish me luck, I know I'm wishing all of you luck.

[tracey1234]

I had my first m/c in nov/06 at 10 weeks and had a d&c.  i bled really, really heavy for a long time but managed to get pregnant again in early feb/07, but m/c's again at 11 weeks in march/07.  That time the bleeding was much, much lighter and didn't last too long, though my hgc levels stayed high for quite awhile.  Husband and I decided not to "try" but to just let nature take it's course, and I was pregnant again before I ever got another period.  Had another beautiful baby girl (#2).  

Became pregnant again in December and just m/c'd last week at 8 weeks.  The bleeding is more like the second d&c I had, not too much.  I really think the doctor did something bad to me in my first d&c that caused my second m/c.  I am praying that I will follow the same course and have a healthy pregnancy before I even get a period after this one. I am almost 39 and don't want to wait!!!

[candycane24]

i know the pain you r feeling if u r going thru a miscarriage i just had one 3/1/09 . its been 7 days n im still bleeding but not as much as 4 days ago. i dont wish this to happen not even to my worst enemy. it is awful is terrible to go thru this espiritually n physically. fortunatelly for me it wasnt that painful i just felt pressure n a lil bit of cramping. it started with a lil bit of brown spotting i had just comfirmed with the my ob- gyn  the day before the told me i was 5 weeks exactly.(when i miscasrried i was 5 weeks 2 days) i was so exited but for some reason i felt something wasnt right. since  i was peeing some white tissue the week  before but i didnt know i was preggo. i thought it was normal since it always happens to me when im about to have my period. i didnt pay attention to it ( but it was more than normal). i  knew i could be preggo when i was at work n i started to feel dizzy my period was like 2 days late n i was feeling alot of fatigue.i had to go to the ER because like i said it started spotting brown the it turn pinkish color but it never was heavy bleeding so i tought it was normal since i searched online n it seemed to be normal. it expalined the uterus was expanding n that could cause bleeding. in the ER they told me that  it could be a threatened miscarriage cause my bhcg was very low but my cervix was still closed. they did a sonogram they coulnt find the heartbeat or the yolk or gestational sac. but they still gave me hope so they sent me home for bed rest for a couple of days but i knew something was wrong so next day i went to my ob - gyn he did another sonogram n he comfirmed i was  havin a miscarriage. i just hope that my next pregnancy will be a healthy one n that i can have a healthy baby like yall wish too. god bless us all and baby dust for yall. good luck!

[kel231982]

hi
i just had a missed miscarriage ( blighted ovum) 10 days ago and im not bleeding anymore does anyone know if it ok to start trying again i really wanted this baby and i am so anxious to try again will it increase my chances of having another miscarriage?

[LJC100]

i was nearly 14 weeks pregnant and i started spotting on friday and was scanned on sat, ultrasound found a heartbeat and baby was moving. i was told the baby was fine and to go home and rest. Bleeding got worse so did pain so returned, i was told my cevix was closed and it was a threatened miscarriage and the majority of people go on to carry full term, i miscarried the following day and passed the pregnancy. Never felt so sad in my entire life, desperate to get pregnant again but dont know how long to wait as dont want to go through this again, does anyone know the best time to wait?

[puddin1979]

i know how you all feel. i never thought i would have a miscarriage. i have two healthy children. i went to the dr to get bc's and they even tested me to see if i was pregnant..the test was negative. i took the pregnancy test 3 days later and it was positive... a few days later i started spotting and the doctor said i was miscarrying. he said my sac was so small. do you all think that the annual exam caused me to loose thebaby??????

[lesleyh]

By lesley.
How sad to read all your shared stories, young and older mums my heart goes out to you all. I had a first healthy baby in 2007 and got pregnant the first month trying at age 38. we decided to try after one yr.  then in June 2008 i was pleased to be pregnant again but in July I started cramping and bleeding with severe pain. It started off brown spotting for a few days I thought ok as I read so many other stories the same and people were ok. But bleeding soon got worse so I went to hospital and had a confirmed miscarriage. They couldn't see baby just collapsed gestation sac. I was gutted and very sad for a while as the baby was so much wanted. I immediately wanted to try again but I just was not getting pregnant. My periods were real messed up so after 9 mths of ttc i decided to research fertility naturally. I started taking agnus castus and helonias and eating healthy, and after taken herbs for  3 mths  my periods regulated i could feel ov again  and see cm and got pregnancy positive test after one whole year trying in June 2009. I decided not to announce and wait to see. I was worried about miscarrying again. Then at 9 and half wks I started spotting again. I was worried but friends reassured me they had too but had had healthy babies. But l booked in for an scan a few days later, They told me there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped beating heart at about 6 and half weeks. I was devastated again. Immediately after the  scan the bleeding got worse I decided to let nature take its course naturally like last time.
That eve I was in same emmense pain for about 2-3 hrs with heavy blood and matter loss.  I took helonias and lobelia as well as blue and black cohosh. The first two together can help clear out the uterus and the latter two can help with contractions. It certainly worked alot faster than the last time I miscarried. I started bleeding bad on fri but by Monday eve I passed out the gestation sac with baby in which I caught in my hands still warm. So sad  we wrapped him/it in silk and dried rose petals to bury later. I bled for five more days then it stopped. Ist miscarriage i did not pass gestation sac for ten days after the cramping and bled for 7 more. Herbs definetly helped me.
The nurse/midwife told me you can get preg straight after miscarriage but best to wait so they know dates. Also they don't know why most miscarriage happens but that if the baby was healthy it would have lived. Nothing you ate or done or did not do that caused it.  I know thats true as I know herion addicts who continued on methadone thru pregnancy ect physically abused womenand alcoholics and so on who have conceived and gave birth to babies. The stats are 1 in every 5 pregnancies for m/c so its a frequent natural occurence. So all out there don't give up. I think it is natures way. I know its so sad to go thru, but to let you know that my first baby i took red raspberry tea at  5 mths preg, went to gym and sauna regularly up to my 7th month and nothing much bothered her. She was delivered naturally at home with no gas or med and right on time. I would do the same again if God blesses me again. Never give up, until your body says you can't do it anymore, meanwhile if God has given you ability to keep on having periods to conceive do it, and enjoy it. Good luck to everyone.
Re:ultrasound scans I refused one for my first born they are a relative new phenomenon and I did not trust them. I have been informed I could have one at 8 half wks if I got preg again to save waiting so long if I was M/C. I was naturally concerned after reading so many people go on and bleed after one  in fact even i did. But my baby was already dead, and plenty people have scans in early preg and go on with successful pregnancys, so I would not  worry and will probably go for the check up to save all the agony again not knowing your baby was already dead  and thinking your pregnant like this time. Im 41 now, time is getting shorter so wish me luck please.( Was not my choice just met all the wrong horrid partners till later in life.) But older mums please go and read up on mums conceiving naturally at 42 & 43! hope yet. Love light and baby dust.

[MelissaRenee06]

I have had 2 M/C in the pass 2 years. One at 9weeks and the other at 13 weeks. I have had a DNC after both M/C. We have been trying for about 7 months now with no luck. Im starting to think if it is even possible to get pregnant anymore. My doctors say there is nothing wrong with me or him. He alreay has 4 other children.

[Curious1003]

I had a miscarriage July 18, 2009, I was 5weeks along and only bled for 7 days. My boyfriend came home to visit and we had unprotected sex on July 31, 2009 and August 1, 2009 because we wanted to try again. A few days later I start having sypmtoms like sore breast, mild cramping, nauseua throughout the day, sleepless nights, heat flashes throughout the day and night, and I had a white discharge. I took a pregnancy test August 10, 2009 (Monday) and another that Friday and both them came back negative. On Sunday, August 14, 2009 I began having heavy, mucuos-like bleeding with clots and tissue. Could I have gone through another miscarriage and not known?? I'M VERY WORRIED!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!

[beausmum]

I want to let everyone know there is always hope, i have a 13 year old and had an ectopic pregnancy 10 years ago. We were told about 9 years ago it would be a miracle to fall pregnant naturally and that we should try ivf, we decided not to try ivf as i didn't think i could handle the emotional side of it. Over the years (12 in total) of trying we have seen many specialists who all said the same thing. 2 weeks ago I got my miracle a BFP!!!! very exciting, sadly we celebrated too early as 1 week ago I had a m/c. But I did fall pregnant dispite what the specialists all said and we will be trying again. So what i'm trying to say is that while you should always follow your drs advice, they don't always get it right and you know your body better than anyone. Goodluck to all of you

[Breezy300]

Hi. I just wanted to let everyone here know that a good friend of mine recently miscarried very early in her pregnancy. She bled for 6 days, ovulated on day 11 and discovered on day 21 that she is pregnant again! She is 42 years old and this will be her 2nd child (daughter is one year old). I am also 2 weeks pregnant--I started with an hCG of only 25 and hoped it would double today. However, I learned that it is now at only 13. My doctor told me to prepare for miscarriage. This is very depressing, since I've been trying TTC for a year and a half and was only given a 1% chance (high FSH levels and advanced maternal age), but it's also great to know that I can, in fact, get pg, and I'm hopeful that maybe I'll get as lucky as my friend and some of you here and conceive shortly following miscarriage. By the way, I tried clomid and follistim to no avail, and I'm not a candidate for IVF. I finally got pg naturally, just by monitoring my ovulation. I'm 43 years old, and pray it will happen again and this time "stick."

Good luck to us all!

[Breezy300]

P.S. I forgot to mention that my friend had her first child at 41.

[jillianhopeg]

Yes it is possible, I got pregnant ONE week after I passed the m/c.  I was not expecting to! But everything happens for a reason!  PLEASE if you want to start trying to concieve again go ahead and start taking prenatal vitamins you can get them at walmart/walgreens/cvs etc... or can get some persrcribed by your doctor.  The vitamins help women before during and after pregnancy.  While you are pregnant it makes sure the baby is getting proper nutrients for developement, & ttake lots of folic acid very important! stay healthy!

[Cass213]

Hi, been reading all your comments and have to say a lot of them have helped give me the courage to start trying again as soon as possible.  I started spotting very lightly on Friday at 9 weeks pregnant and went to hospital for a scan.  There was no heartbeat and the baby had died at 7 weeks 5 days.  I didn't miscarry naturally and to be honest couldn't stand the thought of waiting for it to happen and being forced to witness my longed for baby being miscarried like that so had a D&C on Sunday.  I've never been through anything so devastating and at the moment all I want to do is hide away and not speak to anyone but I know that as soon as possible I want to try again.  I'm almost 42 and this was my first pregnancy and I'm terrified it won't happen again, or that I'll miscarry again but I don't have the time to wait so no matter how scared I am I can't give up.  I really wish you all the very best of luck and hope everything works out.  With lots of love

[JJValenz]

Hello all so sorry to read about so many losses but atleast we are not alone.  I had a m/c 5 years ago and have not had a pregnancy since, i have been with my husband the entire time and we never used any form of b/c our theory had always been if it happens it happens but after such a long time you start to wonder if you will ever have the joy of a child.  I will say the pressure to conceive was there for both my husband and myself, we were ready and we wanted a child and i started charting my ovulation time but every month it was a let down.  Well December 1st i had an incredibly incredibly heavy period, there were a lot of clots and i was changing every hour for the first day, dont know why but just didnt think that much of it, told my hubby my period is heavier than normal and really clotty and he said were you maybe pregnant and i said i dont think so because my period was right on time just heavy and i didnt feel any signs of pregnancy.  Well the hubby and i decided to just start enjoying each other and being spontaneous and having fun, no pressure!....low and behold January 2nd i took a test and it was positive!!!  I went to the Dr. on the 12th of January and she verified "oh yeah your pregnant!" I expressed all my concerns and my previous miscarriage, she was VERY sympathetic and said i want to take the worry away so lets send you for a u/s.  So that afternoon i went and had a u/s done and the tech and Dr said everything looks perfect and everything looks right at just under 6 weeks, there was no heartbeat but he said that is normal for this early, sometimes you see it and sometimes you dont so they scheduled to see me 2 weeks later, I go this friday...Well yesterday i received a phone call from Veteran Affairs wanting to discuss my blood work (i am a veteran and when i got out i had to do an appt with the VA so they gave me a physical)  The nurse told me to stop taking my medication because my blood work came back that i was pregnant.  I couldnt remember when my appt was so i asked her and she said November 20th.  I got off the phone and was dumbfounded and really confused because here my bloodwork on November 20th showed i was pregnant and i had a heavy heavy clotty period December 1st, so the only conclusion i can really come to is that i was indeed pregnant, had a miscarriage and now i am pregnant again!!  So considering for 5 years i did not have one scare one nothing and then i got pregnant in November, miscarried(not knowing), and got pregnant in December i would say that the chances of being more fertile are HIGH after a miscarriage!!!  Now finding all of this out it does kinda concern me as to the viability of this pregnancy but i have to take into consideration that the Dr. said the u/s looked perfect and if my hormone levels were not right they would have informed me...so i am trying to just take it a day at a time but i should know more this friday (29 Jan) as that is my next ultra sound i will be just over 8 weeks...please wish me luck and pray as i want this baby so badly and have gotten to the point of being very excited!!!!  For all of you trying i shall pray as well and for those who have had loss i shall pray!! For those wanting to try right away after m/c i say go for it, it worked for me and i didnt even know it!!!!!! Good Luck and prayers to all!!!!!!

[JJValenz]

Well as an update i went for my ultrasound this past friday and sure enough there was my little gummi bear...thats what he/she looks like :)....he/she had a strong heartbeat and everything looks great and on schedule so my theory is that YES you are very fertile after a miscarriage and my little man or little girl is perfectly fine so i see no harm in trying right away. Good Luck to all!!! :-)

[rocci]

hi my heart goes out to all of you that have been through this heartbreaking situation,as words cannot explain the feeling.i am 23yrs very excited about being pregnant after my regular check-ups with the doc.at 25wks pregnant my BF and i decided to go take an ultra-sound to find out the sex of our baby(sat.Jan.16th 2010)there was no heart beat i had no cramps no bleeding etc.i went to the ER they induced labour the day after.the pain was so much!!! but nothing compared to ME as the lost of our little angel(boy) i want to get pregnant again but will consult a doc. before.God is so...great that in my heart i know he will give us that bundle of joy we so much desire.keep praying as i will for u never give up! love and God Bless!!!!!!!!!!
                  From:R.Q

[rocci]

hi my heart goes out to all of you that have been through this heartbreaking situation,as words cannot explain the feeling.i am 23yrs very excited about being pregnant after my regular check-ups with the doc.at 25wks pregnant my BF and i decided to go take an ultra-sound to find out the sex of our baby(sat.Jan.16th 2010)there was no heart beat i had no cramps no bleeding etc.i went to the ER they induced labour the day after.the pain was so much!!! but nothing compared to ME as the lost of our little angel(boy) i want to get pregnant again but will consult a doc. before.God is so...great that in my heart i know he will give us that bundle of joy we so much desire.keep praying as i will for u never give up! love and God Bless!!!!!!!!!!
                  From:R.Q