I am having a huge dilemma. I'll be including lots of background info, so sorry if I start to ramble! i found out 2 days ago that i was very unexpectedly pregnant, while using condoms and rhythm method. I don't think I am any further along than possibly 3.5-4 weeks. I've been married to dh for 12 years.he just started a residency program after med school and finances are more than tight. we have two children 8 and 5. my 8 year old has moderate functioning autism, my 5 year old is normal. with my 8 year old, i was put on bedrest at 29 weeks for preterm labor, and with my 5 year old i was pre-eclamptic(toxemia) (had to be induced because my bp went sky high, and remained high for a week after birth). Obviously it's only been 2 days since we found out, but I am confused as hell. We didn't plan on having more kids for several years, if at all. dh doesn't want to risk my health with the pregnancy, which is a very valid point I really need to be there for both of my kids. I am just absolutely undecided. we are talking about terminating, but again, had not made a concrete decision. we could make a good home for it. but the risk of autism is greater with each birth. i am 35. risk of pre-eclampsia is greater with subsequent pregnancies. input desired.