Aa
Depression and pregnacy
I'm 12 weeks pregnant and I have been more suicidal today than I have been in the past 7 years.......my husband and I have been fighting more since we found out I was pregnant and it seems like everything I do I am always the one doing wrong....I can't do anything without my husband complaining about it...i went out with friends and spent $30 of my own money and he throws a fit that I'm not paying bills and blah blah blah...what about him...isn't he suppose to pay too!! I pay my car payment on time every month he is 3 months behind on his because he quit his job...I've beem working 3 years non stop no breaks! By the way I am 19 and he is 21...I don't know what to do I love him with all my heart but I am tired of feeling this way....and it seems to be getting worse every day.....I cry for no reason and I can't stop till I fall asleep....any advice?
I am 17 weeks pregnant tomorrow I make 18 weeks. I have been stressed at work due to a issue were a fellow employee harassed me at work I told management they didn't do anything about I I even over heard my manager tell another manager it's a waste of her energy. Me feeling like my word wasn't nothing being harassed by a fellow employee not only hurt me but I stressed n told myhusband . My husband went to my work place n talked to the guy who harassed me , long story short things blew up now we have to do a big investigation n I'm under so much stress what should I do?
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME
I agree with all of the above, and especially cory.
Your hormones are literally going crazy, and granted, that doesn't condone the behavior of your husband, it does help you to remember that b/c you are pregnant, you feel things in the extremes. When I was pg, the everyday, normal behavior of my husband that I have lived with and loved...his normal behavior drove me crazy. Then I realized that I was so sensitive--it also helps to sit down with him, maybe you can take him to the doc with you. Have the doc explain for your DH what is going on inside your body. It would help him be more sympathetic towards you. Also, men feel strange things when it comes to the responsibility of a child. Maybe your husband is feeling things you don't know about. Is he stressing about being financially responsible for the baby? You never know until you ask. I'm sure if the two of you have worked things through before, it will work out now. You do need to talk to someone, though. And explain to DH that now more than ever, you need an outlet with friends. Because in a few months, you'll be home all the time!!! Congrats on the little one, and try to remember that you're really not responsible for the way you feel...your body is freaking out a little (its normal) and you'll be back to your old self soon enough. Good luck...MH
Your hormones are literally going crazy, and granted, that doesn't condone the behavior of your husband, it does help you to remember that b/c you are pregnant, you feel things in the extremes. When I was pg, the everyday, normal behavior of my husband that I have lived with and loved...his normal behavior drove me crazy. Then I realized that I was so sensitive--it also helps to sit down with him, maybe you can take him to the doc with you. Have the doc explain for your DH what is going on inside your body. It would help him be more sympathetic towards you. Also, men feel strange things when it comes to the responsibility of a child. Maybe your husband is feeling things you don't know about. Is he stressing about being financially responsible for the baby? You never know until you ask. I'm sure if the two of you have worked things through before, it will work out now. You do need to talk to someone, though. And explain to DH that now more than ever, you need an outlet with friends. Because in a few months, you'll be home all the time!!! Congrats on the little one, and try to remember that you're really not responsible for the way you feel...your body is freaking out a little (its normal) and you'll be back to your old self soon enough. Good luck...MH
Hormones, play a large part in how you are feeling right now
contact your doctor asap! He maybe able to give you something to make you feel better or offer you help through other agencies in your area Nothing wrong about asking for help!
Dh needs to shape up! You both are very young to be married and having a baby and its a big responsibility to have
Things im sure will work out! Have hope- see the good in things -things usually work themselves out We just stress in the mean time. As for 30 bucks if it means treating yourself and saving your sanity WELL WORTH IT. Dh needs to find work try to work things out together! Best wishes to you!
contact your doctor asap! He maybe able to give you something to make you feel better or offer you help through other agencies in your area Nothing wrong about asking for help!
Dh needs to shape up! You both are very young to be married and having a baby and its a big responsibility to have
Things im sure will work out! Have hope- see the good in things -things usually work themselves out We just stress in the mean time. As for 30 bucks if it means treating yourself and saving your sanity WELL WORTH IT. Dh needs to find work try to work things out together! Best wishes to you!
Honey, I understand how hard it can be.
Right now, you have tons of hormones racing through your body right now. And the last thing you need is your husband adding to all of it.
You need to call ASAP and request a doctors appointment. The doctor needs to know your situation.
Right after my 1st trimester, my husband left for the Army. He is stationed in South Korea. I would cry excessively and felt all alone. I was going out of my mind. My 3 year old son -- although he drove me crazy sometimes -- is the only thing that kept me sane. I couldn't stand the thought of what might happen to him if something happened to me.
My husband finally begged me to tell the dr. how I was feeling.
i was not to the point of being suicidal, but I was getting very depressed.
My dr. put me on Zoloft. He said it is the safest anti-depressant during pregnancy. He diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. I could not understand why he thought anxiety. I realized after taking the pills for about a week that I did in fact have anxiety too. I had no idea before that. It made things so much easier for me. My relationship with my son got so much better. I realized that I had been yelling and fussing at him constantly. That was where a lot of the anxiety was.
I have never had any problems like this before, so it was clearly pregnancy induced.
I am like my old self again. I still cry every now and then, but with my husband on the other side of the globe, that can be expected. It is no more now than what would be expected of anyone in my situation.
Please talk to your doctor. I was embarassed to, but I am so glad I overcame that. I feel so much better now. I am sure you will too.
Take care,
Amanda
Right now, you have tons of hormones racing through your body right now. And the last thing you need is your husband adding to all of it.
You need to call ASAP and request a doctors appointment. The doctor needs to know your situation.
Right after my 1st trimester, my husband left for the Army. He is stationed in South Korea. I would cry excessively and felt all alone. I was going out of my mind. My 3 year old son -- although he drove me crazy sometimes -- is the only thing that kept me sane. I couldn't stand the thought of what might happen to him if something happened to me.
My husband finally begged me to tell the dr. how I was feeling.
i was not to the point of being suicidal, but I was getting very depressed.
My dr. put me on Zoloft. He said it is the safest anti-depressant during pregnancy. He diagnosed me with depression and anxiety. I could not understand why he thought anxiety. I realized after taking the pills for about a week that I did in fact have anxiety too. I had no idea before that. It made things so much easier for me. My relationship with my son got so much better. I realized that I had been yelling and fussing at him constantly. That was where a lot of the anxiety was.
I have never had any problems like this before, so it was clearly pregnancy induced.
I am like my old self again. I still cry every now and then, but with my husband on the other side of the globe, that can be expected. It is no more now than what would be expected of anyone in my situation.
Please talk to your doctor. I was embarassed to, but I am so glad I overcame that. I feel so much better now. I am sure you will too.
Take care,
Amanda
My depression got worse with this pregnancy and any conflict with my husband makes it so much worse. Talk to your doctor and try to avoid the arguments creatively. It's not easy but then again neither is always being upset. Also talking with a friend helps when things are rough.
Suicidal thoughts are VERY serious. You need to talk to a professional. You could call a suicide hotline and they can help you. Look in your local yellow pages and make that call.
I know what it is like to be young, married, and pregnant. I got married 5 days after I turned 18 and was pregnant about 4 months after. Went on to have 5 children and just celebrated 18 years of marriage. So let me tell you, you are married to a boy. He is 21? Yeah he is a boy. No offense to men, but it takes them a while to grow up. Took my husband into his late 20 before he finally woke up and GREW up. They are scared of the HUGE responsibilty and so instead of facing it, some of them just run and hide, blaming everyone else for the messes. He will most likly, eventually, grow out of this fit throwing, tantrum, blame game. But you have to be the strong one and don't let him push you around. Let him know that he has to straighten up, get a job and hold up his end. Your money... Do whatever you want to with it. With us it was always OUR money. And sometimes, when things are just too much, you have to splurge and go buy a pair of shoes, or have lunch with a friend. Don't feel bad about it. It was 30 bucks. Was that 30 buck REALLY going to make that big of a difference. It isn't enough to pay a car payment or even a gas bill, so sometimes you just have to say.. Well you know.. And have a little fun.
But please remember that your actions are not only about you anymore. There is another person to think of, and if Mama ain't happy, baby ain't happy either. Baby knows mommy is upset and stressed. So please for both of your sakes, talk to a professional. You can start on the Mental Health Forum. It costs like 5 bucks but a doctor will talk to you and they address depression etc.. And keep coming here. The ladies here can be a GREAT support system to help you thru the tough times. And we are terrific listeners when you just want to rant and rave. Take care and like I said, keep posting!
--J
I know what it is like to be young, married, and pregnant. I got married 5 days after I turned 18 and was pregnant about 4 months after. Went on to have 5 children and just celebrated 18 years of marriage. So let me tell you, you are married to a boy. He is 21? Yeah he is a boy. No offense to men, but it takes them a while to grow up. Took my husband into his late 20 before he finally woke up and GREW up. They are scared of the HUGE responsibilty and so instead of facing it, some of them just run and hide, blaming everyone else for the messes. He will most likly, eventually, grow out of this fit throwing, tantrum, blame game. But you have to be the strong one and don't let him push you around. Let him know that he has to straighten up, get a job and hold up his end. Your money... Do whatever you want to with it. With us it was always OUR money. And sometimes, when things are just too much, you have to splurge and go buy a pair of shoes, or have lunch with a friend. Don't feel bad about it. It was 30 bucks. Was that 30 buck REALLY going to make that big of a difference. It isn't enough to pay a car payment or even a gas bill, so sometimes you just have to say.. Well you know.. And have a little fun.
But please remember that your actions are not only about you anymore. There is another person to think of, and if Mama ain't happy, baby ain't happy either. Baby knows mommy is upset and stressed. So please for both of your sakes, talk to a professional. You can start on the Mental Health Forum. It costs like 5 bucks but a doctor will talk to you and they address depression etc.. And keep coming here. The ladies here can be a GREAT support system to help you thru the tough times. And we are terrific listeners when you just want to rant and rave. Take care and like I said, keep posting!
--J
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Women's Health Community
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
Bumps in the genital area might be STDs, but are usually not serious.
Chlamydia, an STI, often has no symptoms, but must be treated.
From skin changes to weight loss to unusual bleeding, here are 15 cancer warning signs that women tend to ignore.
