Female ejaculations IS NOT URINE. That's a very irresponsible and completely erroneous reply. Female ejaculation comes from the female prostate gland, just like a man's ejaculatory fluid comes from the male prostate gland. Asking your wife to orgasm, but not gush is a lot like her asking you to do the same. If it's part of a person's physiological make-up, then that's just what you have to deal with.
I have read that female ejaculation is more common with women who stimulate their g-spot during masturbation, perhaps with her hand or a dildo.
Please be understanding regarding this issue. No one wants a husband who is mean, impatient, judgmental or controlling regarding our sexual responses and involuntary ejaculation.
Female ejac. is urine. I would make an appt with an urologist or maybe try kegel exercises.