Alright that seems like a good solution, thankyou for your comments
you're not alone! I have had the same problem. For years i was unable to have an orgasm during sex, but alone i could. I always faked it (i know bad) so the guys didn't feel bad. I never told my current bf but i didn't have to, once i stopped worrying about whether or not i was going to be able to finish..well i was able to. It really is a mental thing. Since i have been with my current bf ( 2 yrs) i haven't had any problems with orgasms during sex. Once i stopped worrying about finishing i discovered that all the stress was the problem. Even if you don't finish keep in mind that you're still enjoying the act(s) and it still feels good and it can still be fun and romantic
Alrigh, thank you for your comments x
I would try having do to you what you do to yourself to orgasm... tell her how you do it and see if she can do that.. Maybe you have tried that and if so then it can be a mental thing just let it go and relax dont think about it I guess... just enjoy what she is doing .. and yes try a toy..
Maybe she can use a "toy" on you.
Orgasms happen mostly due to mental status...it isn't just a physical thing. This can be a good thing or a bad thing
bad thing: the more you focus on whether or not you are having or going to have an orgasm the less likely you are to have one.
Good thing: your mind can also make you orgasm. What do you think about when you are doing it yourself? Focus on everything that feels good and exciting...even if you kind of have to fantasize while making love. Dont stress about having an orgasm, focus on how good it feels...