Having sex with a "big" guy

[KellieLynne]

I'm 21 years old and I've never had intercourse before. My fiance is about 6'2 and I'm 5'11. We've been in a relationship for a long time. Sometimes when we're making out, he fingers me and we've had oral (but I've never had an orgasm). We wanted to wait until marriage before having intercourse and next week is the big day. I'm a really sexual person and I'm pretty adventurous but the only thing I'm worried about is that he has a big penis and he's strong. I'm just not sure if I'll be able to handle it. Is there anything I can do to be prepared? And is it bad if I don't have an orgasm? I've heard of guys being "too big" for certain women and I'm just worried he might be too big for me. If he is, is there anything I can do to make it more comfortable?

[Lovilylady]

What she is saying is that she is getting married next week. So she is waiting for marriage.

I would say the best thing is (as said before me) to take it slow. A lot of forplay, and the possible use of lube (non flavored for vaginal use) would be the best to make sure. It will hurt, all first times do, but after a while of working up and taking it slow it will be more pleasurable than you can ever imagine.  
Also its said that about 60% of women will never be able to orgasm vaginally (me speaking from experience, as it has never happened for me) but that doesn't mean that you cant orgasm from clitoral stimulation, You can use hands or a handy-dandy couples  toy!

Congrats and good luck with your life!!

[grannienannie]

If your a virgin why dont you wait for marriage? is it because he cant wait or you just want to show him you love him that much..if his penis is big..marry him so he dont go no where...and then you can take all the time you want with him and maybe he will do it right with respect..men sometimes dont knoe how to take their time with women..they think women like it ruff..but thats not true...tell him to take time with your body and dont be ruff with you..if you decide to do it..remember its not the size of the ocean...its the waves and the motion...good luck and use condoms...cause although your gift is wrapped you want to make sure his is...and he dont give you nothing..for your first time...and lots of foreplay dont let him get in there that easy...ya know..

[CuteNsweeT]

Make sure he spends a ton of time on foreplay so you're really really ready for him, like you'd do anything to have him inside you, and that will help by providing natural lubrication and upping your endorphins so you don't feel the pain of first-time intercourse so much. Obviously ask him to go slowly so you can judge the depth; if you feel pain deep inside then get him to withdraw a little bit, or keep your legs together if he gets carried away, so he can't go so deep. Avoid rear-entry positions as these are more likely to cause pain if he's big, but if you really want to try it that way round, again keep your legs closed. He still gets access but can't go so deep... Hope some of that helps! Above all, relax, have fun, and enjoy each other. Best of luck!