Aa
We haven't had sex....
Ok so I am a 24 year old woman and I am in a bi racial relationship with an almost 27 year old man. We have talked several times about sex, but every time it comes down to the real thing it doesn't happen... He says that he has only had sex with only one woman in his life, which is hard to believe with a young black man although I believe him and that I love him... I have preformed oral sex numerous of times and every time he has ejaculated, but when I even hint towards intercourse he changes subject. He is a twin and during the pregnancy there was a complication to eventually lead to a surgery on his right leg... I haven't asked about the surgery and the conditions of it but for some reason I believe this has something to do with the sex thing. Even though he says that I preform great oral sex, why is it that it doesn't feel as hard in the end as it does at the beginning? He tenses up half way through oral and it seems to get hard again but still goes a little limp... What can I do??
It's hard for you to believe he's not very sexually experienced because he's black...seriously? Maybe his reservations are due to his health history or perhaps he doesn't want to risk procreating with you. Negative stereotypes are apparently ingrained in your belief system regarding your bf and I'm guessing that doesn't do anything to foster a closer, more intimate relationship. Sometimes the problem is starring back at us in the mirror. Good Luck.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello,
Your boyfriend may be having sex related anxiety. This usually happens in initial stages and the problem will disappear over a time. This seems to be absolutely natural. If his morning erections are good then the cause is psychological. Mean while he should take protein diet, regular exercise, remain stress free, and remove sex related anxiety.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.
Your boyfriend may be having sex related anxiety. This usually happens in initial stages and the problem will disappear over a time. This seems to be absolutely natural. If his morning erections are good then the cause is psychological. Mean while he should take protein diet, regular exercise, remain stress free, and remove sex related anxiety.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.
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