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Hi everyone.. It's been awhile since I have posted anything. Basically I'm looking for advice and experience of others to help me out! I am currently married to the most wonderful man who happens to be in the army. There has been word that he will be deploying fall of 2006(again). Well we just had out first son (laiken) the end of may. he's only 6 months old. We want to try for another baby but is it to soon? There is a possiblity I'm already pregnant but I won't know till tomorrow! Is anyone in this position or has been in the past? I"m worried it's to soon for another baby but I'm also worried if I will be able to handle a 15 month old and newborn by myself. I"m worried i might get postpartum with this next baby just because of the stress with hb gone. I didn't get any kind of postpartum with my first I enjoy every moment of him! How do you share yourself between two very small children? HELP! I just would like some input. Thanks so much . hope all is well with everyone!
Congrats to you - You'll do fine. I kind of wish I had had mine a little closer together rather than 6 yrs apart. Good luck & again Congratulations!!!!!!!!
Hi!! Congratulations on your pregnancy. You will be fine with the adjustment. It IS ALOT OF WORK!!!! I have three boys. One who is 6, one turning 4 on Dec. 27, and one turning 3 January 10!! Yes, three boys within three years of eachother. (I do have a teenager as well). Like I said, its alot of hard work. Non stop running. You will be busy. If you are offered help, TAKE IT!!!! But, you WILL get through it. People often say to me, "I don't know how you do it!" Guess what, you do it. Its fun, and my kids are all buddies!! GOOD LUCK!!! Remember, children are a BLESSING!!! You have been given a wonderful BLESSING (twice now). Enjoy EVERY MINUTE of it!!!
Everyone wonders if they will have enough love to go around. You DO!! More than enough. And try to think of it as your son's new baby as well. I have 5, ages 16,15,13,11,and 10. Yes, my house can be CRAZY, but oh so much FUN!!! They are all very close and we always shared the next pregnancy with the ones that were already here. It was "thier baby" as well. My 13 and 15 year olds are boys and are the best of friends. My 11 and 10 year old are both girls and share everything. My 16 year old kind of sees them all as hers. If that makes since. She was there to see mommy pregnant with all of them and shared everything. She would tell people that they were her kids and helpped mommy take care of each of them.
You will do just fine and you will probably enjoy your first son even more, if that's possible. And if the new baby is a boy then he will have a Best Bud for the rest of his life. And if it's a girl, then he will be the Big Brother that looks after her in school, making usre no one messes with her since they will only be a grade or 2 apart. It will be a BLAST!!
Congrats and good luck to you and your husband. I hope his deployment is short and safe. Tell him he is APPRECIATED!!
--J
You will do just fine and you will probably enjoy your first son even more, if that's possible. And if the new baby is a boy then he will have a Best Bud for the rest of his life. And if it's a girl, then he will be the Big Brother that looks after her in school, making usre no one messes with her since they will only be a grade or 2 apart. It will be a BLAST!!
Congrats and good luck to you and your husband. I hope his deployment is short and safe. Tell him he is APPRECIATED!!
--J
why not congratulations on your new little bundle hope you have a happy and safe nine months.
Well to all of you who have given me great advice I just wanted to let you all know.... It actually turns out I'm 5 weeks pregnant and I'm excited. A little nervous about some of my doubts but excited! We are crossing our fingers for alittle girl but who know's! Another little boy would be so much fun also. I guess we will have to wait and see. Thanks everyone for the advice and what not!
hi there i just wanted to let you no that you should do what your comfortable with. Remember when it comes time for your new baby to arrive you wont no anything different for example i have a just turned 5 month old baby girl and i am nearly 12 weeks pregnant with my second oooo. i didnt no what to think but me and my partner are now over the moon there are some advantages to having your kids close together you just have to think about that.my number 2 baby is due 1 year and 3 days after my baby girl exciting hey best of luck in your choices.
I read a while back that you are from birmingham alabama. I asked you what part of birmingham and you never replied. I too am from birmingham.
Had to post on this one--when my 1st was born, a girl, I thought that the sun and the moon rose because of her--and then when we started thinking of a 2nd, I literally worried that I would never love another baby, or have time for another baby...as much as my 1st. You know, God doesn't give you a certain amount of love/time/energy, and once you use it..its gone--God exponentially multiplies all of those things, so that you have double the love, double the time...and (sometimes !!) double the energy. You'll get through it. I think having them close together is wonderful. My sister and I were less than 2 years apart, and I loved growing up with her. Good luck--MH
Thanks for the help! I'm starting to feel a little better about all this! See my husband is 16 months apart from his younger sister then she is only 13 months apart from there youngest sister. I've always wanted my children close in age. I just didn't think this close. I'm in anchorage alaska! I am going to go see if I can find that magazine though so I can read that arcticle! See my son is going through this thing where he doesn't like to be rocked to asleep anymore. :( he wants to lay down in his crib and listen to his music to fall asleep...He loves to sit and play with his toys and he doesn't really get into to much YET... He's fascinated by other babies so mayeb this won't be to much of a bad thing.. I guess we will see. I am actually going to find out today if I'm already pregnant or not... I will let you know! thanks again!
I dont know where you live and all but if you could get a copy of american baby magazine for this month and on page 64 there is a Diary of a second (surprise!) pregnancy and it is very good. Its a week by week diary of a woman who had a 2 year old and then found out she was pregnant again and she was unsure of how she felt about this child. In the end she loved her new family!
I am personally waiting until my DS turns 2 before trying for another one. I hope to have another baby right before he turns 3. He's 13 months now and I can't really imagine being occupied with a newborn right now. DS still needs to be rocked at bedtime and cuddled just like when he was tiny. People do it all the time, but that is my logic behind waiting.
Thanks! My family is actually where we are stationed right now. So I will have the help from my them when they can help. Do you think it will take away from me enjoying my first son.. as if I was to wait longer like two more years? Is it possible to enjoy him as much as I am now with also trying to enjoy my new bundle of joy? Basically what I think it is, I'm worrying that I'm not going to be able to enjoy my children as much as I do enjoy my son. I know that sounds horrible but I question my self if that will happen? Or if it will be the opposite way around. IF it will be just that much more enjoyable because I have my completed family now... what are you thought's if youw ere in position how do you think you would feel emotionaly and thoughts wise?
Sure- I have a friend who has a brother and sister only 9 months apart and think some people have twins/triplets!
YOU WILL DO JUST FINE...YOU JUST ADJUST
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
YOU WILL DO JUST FINE...YOU JUST ADJUST
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!
My coworkers children are 1 year and 12 days apart. So her baby was only 3 months old when she got pg again. They are so cute, the two kids. She went back to work 24 hrs/week when her second baby was 8 weeks old. It's hard but you get through it. Definitely enlist the help of family and friends!!!!!!
Do you have any family close by or close friends that could help out if you do have postpartum? That might help with the stress of having 2 small children. As far as 2 babies being to close together in age, at least they will have someone to play with later on. My 2 cousins were 5 years apart and they never really played together or got along until now, ones 19 and the other is 14. My husband and his sister are 7 years apart...I mean how often do you see a 7 year old and a 14 year old playing together?
I am sure you will get the answer you want..Best of Luck!!
Jen
I am sure you will get the answer you want..Best of Luck!!
Jen
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