Chances of pregnancy from ripped condom...

[okwellneedadvice]

Recently I had protected sex with a girl I had just met. We were both drunk and I barely remember any of it. We used a few condoms, but I checked them the next morning and I noticed one had a small tear on the side of it. I didn't see any other condoms that were ripped, but had a thought in my head that during the night one ripped at the top, but maybe I was just dreaming, because I always overthink and I couldn't find it. I don't remember flushing it, so maybe I was just thinking / dreaming it. She said she felt that one broke, but not sure what she was talking about, maybe it was the one that tore on the side. I told her to take a morning after pill, and she said she would. Should I trust her?

She has my number and I told her to text me when she took it, and just text me when she got home later that day, but she didn't text me and I have not heard from here since then. She lives a couple hours away. I told her I didn't want to continue anything with her and it was a mistake. She probably hates me that's why I haven't heard from her. I am freaking out and can't stop thinking about the chances. Could you please give me your thoughts. Should I be worrying or do you think she'll take care of it?

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[yesfir]

At this point it doesn't matter if something ripped or not, because she took the morning after pill within 72 hours of the incident. So that should be fine. It's been out of your hands from the start, and now it's out of both your hands, so fretting is pointless.

[specialmom]

Generally speaking, when a condom breaks, it's a catastrophic event. It busts wide open and sperm goes everywhere.  It's a mess.  The idea of a pin hole is really not reality.  I'm more concerned about the way you describe your drinking.  that's not healthy OR safe.  I'd back off such excessive drinking.  good luck

[okwellneedadvice]

thank you for the response. i know and i have quit drinking. i am bettering myself and have learned from this. since i have no contact with her, she has my number but hasn't bothered to call since it happened, and i told her i didn't want to continue anything with her (and it was a mistake) and have another interest, do you think i should worry about pregnancy? she said she was going to take a morning after pill, but i havent heard from her. i told her i would pay for it, but she said don't worry about it. i don't even know her. there is nothing i can do. should i be worrying?

[okwellneedadvice]

any thoughts here? thank you.

[CurfewX]

You have managed to take an unlikely scenario and turn it into a near reality.  This situation is completely out of your control, in any event, and repeatedly asking this forum if you should worry about this event isn't helping.

No one else was there that night, and we can't guess what happened.  It seems unlikely that she would wish to get pregnant from a one-night stand and it seems likely that she would take appropriate precautions.

I suggest you forget about this event, and if you can't, seek professional help for anxiety.  There isn't anything more we can tell you.

[okwellneedadvice]

agreed. those were my thoughts, too. thank you so much!

[okwellneedadvice]

UPDATE:
I did talk to her and she said she took a morning after pill about a day and a half later. We used protection the whole time, but she said she vaguely remembers one of the condoms breaking because she thought she felt it. But she is not certain. And I didn't find a broken one the next morning. What do you think?

[specialmom]

There is really nothing you can do.  When you say "should I trust her", it doesn't actually matter.  It's up to her.  Hopefully she doesn't want to have a baby right now.  I'm glad you used protection---  but it's hard when you don't know a person well enough to figure out if they are lying about the morning after pill.  Time will tell but This is one of the risks of casual sex.  Let us know what happens.  

[okwellneedadvice]

thank you for your response. i checked everywhere and didn't find a condom that was ripped at the top, only one with a small hole on the side maybe half way down. about the quarter size of a penny. my question is, can a woman feel that hole? because she said she felt one rip / hole so wondering if she would be able to tell. thank you.

[okwellneedadvice]

also, i don't remember a lot of the night, but all of the other condoms were in the trash, which i found, but noticed there is one missing from the box, but im pretty sure it is one i used weeks ago and have already thrown away with my old trash. i don't remember flushing one down the toilet from this incident, but could i have? i don't know why i would have? i keep thinking there was another ripped one that ripped all the way off... but maybe i'm just creating this story in my head (which i have done before) because i'm paranoid.

[Duerrgirl]

Sounds like unless you have her number and want to give her a polite call to see how she's doing, (not ask if she's pregnant or not) you should leave her alone. Chances are since you didn't plan on seeing her again she didn't feel the need to let you know her every move.

If by chance she is pregnant she will call you If she wants to share that info.

[okwellneedadvice]

thank you for the response. but would you think she / anyone would have the pregnancy under a circumstance like this? or am i just overreacting you think?