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Permanent Damage to Clitoris?
When I was a child I fell very hard, straddled on a large bored. I never received any medical attention. But, I am 53 years old and I have NEVER had an orgasm during sex. The only way I can or used to be able to reach any kind climax is if I roll my genital area on a basketball or on the corner of a table with a pillow on it. I have tried to use vibrators/massagers but only one seemed to work for awhile. Now, nothing works. Oral has never worked, but I don't know that I have ever had a partner that knew what he was doing. In some ways, I think my body was trained to please the male and not myself. I have to talked to young women who have not problem, it makes me wonder if I really damaged my clitoris is, it seems extraordinarily small. Did I smash it and now this is the price I pay for that accident?
A lot of women cannot orgasm through intercourse and require other things to be able to. I have a friend who can get aroused, have sex, etc., but she has only once in the 5-6 years she's been with her boyfriend been able to orgasm with him inside her and even then had to use clitoral stimulation. A lot of it can have to do with not being able to let go and just go with the moment.
The fact you *can* orgasm with other forms of stimulation makes me think you need those kinds of stimuli to do so rather than your clitoris was too damaged. None of the stimuli you mention sound like vaginal stimuli and merely clitoral. You may need more pressure, which I know I need quite a bit, which is why unless I'm having a good day and manage to get in just the right position on top or am laying beneath him and give myself a hand (his weight gives me the right amount of pressure), I can't orgasm easily.
My advice to you is to figure out what works for you and bring it into the bedroom.
The fact you *can* orgasm with other forms of stimulation makes me think you need those kinds of stimuli to do so rather than your clitoris was too damaged. None of the stimuli you mention sound like vaginal stimuli and merely clitoral. You may need more pressure, which I know I need quite a bit, which is why unless I'm having a good day and manage to get in just the right position on top or am laying beneath him and give myself a hand (his weight gives me the right amount of pressure), I can't orgasm easily.
My advice to you is to figure out what works for you and bring it into the bedroom.
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