Masterbation - from a woman's perspective

[awkward]

Hi.  I have a few questions about masterbation (masturbation) from a woman's perspective.  Every post I've seen about masterbation (masturbation) has been from guys.  Do the effects of masterbation (masturbation) differ w/ men and women?  I've only masterbated twice in my whole life and I'm 19.  I don't think that's bad.  Actually I think it's quite good.  But anyway, I've been getting mixed feelings about masterbation (masturbation).  Some say it's healthy, some say it's a health hazard.  Some say it's only addicitive if you do it 5-10 times per day others say even if you start off with a little bit you'll get addicted eventually.  

I'm just trying to find ways to relieve my sexual tension w/o hurting myself.  As of now I'm thinking about ruling masterbation (masturbation) out.  Sex is out cause I'm waiting until I'm married.  Is it true if you masterbate too much you'll lose sensitivity in your vagina?  Are the effects of masterbation (masturbation) the same for men and women or do they differ?

Thanks for your help.

[Fourpaws]

Masterbation is completely normal! Good for you that your waiting to have sex until marraige. Masterbation (masturbation) isn't going to make you lose sensitivity, it will only get you in tune to your body and you'll know what makes you feel good. The ony thing I have heard is when you use vibrators all the time, you can develope a tolerance to the vibration, but if your not using it everyday you'll be fine. I prefer doing it without the toy anyway.

[jociadam]

I would have to agree with Fourpaws.  Masterbation (masturbation) is completely normal and I've never seen any hard evidenct that it is harmful.  It will help you get in tune with your body and will help you have more pleasure once you do start having intercourse.  If you have sexual tension building, your heart starts beating faster, your blood pressure rises, among other things, so I can't imagine that those things would be all that healthy for you.  I say go ahead and maserbate.  You'll feel better.

[Dontneed2tell]

First of all, IMO, you're not a woman yet. 19 is still a teen. Legally you're an adult but that's just my opnion. I've always considered myself a "gir;" up until my 22nd or 23rd birthday. Now to what you're saying...masterbation (masturbation) is bad if it's done too much to where it effects your daily life in terms of your job, etc. Masterbation (masturbation) is bad if it starts to get sore  you know where (in the private areas/groin). Our culture thinks too much of sex because sex sells but it does not mean that masterbation (masturbation) doesn't have repercussions.

...Also if it involves dangerous tasks like in a bondage situation where the blood supply or breathing can be cut off.

[coolkid1996]

Well i am an 11 year old boy and i only masterbate like sometimes 4 times a week!!! at the most now i think to believe that masterbation (masturbation) is a ok but even a boys Penis gets sore sometimes and it really hurts but then it feels good after awile!!! and you should get a boy friend and have Sex if that is your hearts desire!

[aa27231]

I am 28, and I masterbate at less six time per week since 1994, and I feel good and sexually I feell more then before, but, i am suer that the adiction (addiction) of masterbation (masturbation) has a bad sideeffects, cause having overdose of somthing even air could kill you.

[izzyroze]

if you want to masturbate then do so , and like all things do it in moderation . Those who do it all the time and say there addicted want to do it all the time its a fact.
Wanting to feel nice things with our bodies is natural and anyone who says its a health hazard are retarded and living in the dark ages.
Its good you want to old out for sex after marriage but rem that even if you wait it doesn't necessary mean your relationship will last forever. Why not have sex when you fall in love and take it one step at a time and take the pressure off of a future partner who you'll be telling no sorry we can not be close unless we are married. I have been with my partner for over 15 yrs and have three children and we are not married and are not bothered if we ever do so maybe think of love instead of a ceremony !!! . I also will add I have a regular sex life and maybe once a week i might do a little something for myself and I feel no guilt and no i am perfectcally normal .
So stop worrying and start living

[ddaisie00]

My apologies to those hoping for a response to the original question.... this is in response to a previous comment with a harsh/judemental tone.

I totally respect that you have a right to an opinion, however, strongly need to voice mine too.

The tone of your post is extremely 'right and wrong' with a 'yes or no' absolute type of tone.  Every person is different, so even if you believe something strongly for spiritual reasons (which some do, i'm not saying that you do) it's still a personal decision and not to be looked down upon because someone else chooses to live differently.

I don't know if your absolute tone is one of firmness in your personal value system or one of past hurt which has left a sour taste.  However, I can speak to your comments about bondage with the knowledge that all sexual acts are dangerous on some level.  As with anything that we choose to involve ourselves in (being a passenger in a car, getting our ears pierced, or even having dental work done) we're making decisions to let others have an impact on our physical being.  It's a decision we make, and should be an informed decision..... not to get in a car with someone who is irresponsible or has no training, not to let someone pierce our ear in the bathroom instead of having a professional do it, to seek a dentist who listens and will respect possible pain issues.  

Bondage (and all others aspects of a BDSM lifestyle) are the same way.  Yes, some couples can start to slowly learn things and introduce them into their lives.  However, one should NEVER jump into anything without first learning if their partner has training, is safe, has experience.  Those are things that should be discussed with any partner on ANY level.

[The_Don]

I'm a 20 year old woman and even when I'm in a relationship I masterbate at least once a day. As i'm currently not in one, I masterbate up to about 3 times a day!! I don't think it's unhealthy for the following reasons:-

1. It takes my mind off men and sex, which is a nice break and means I don't feel the need to sleep with just any guy.
2. I don't think about it when it's inconvenient. I only do it in my own home when I'm by myself and not busy.

Masterbation (masturbation) can become unhealthy but only if it's excessive, which is to say only when it becomes an obsession. But you've already done it twice and you don't sound like your that taken by the idea, so your unlikely to become addicted to it (judging on what sounds like a non-addictive personality). Think of masterbation (masturbation) like alcohol - it's ok to do as long as it doesn't affect your ability to live your life!!

And good on you for holding sex off until marriage!! I was only 19 when I started having sex and, tbh, it's overrated. You sound like an intelligent individual. Whenever you start having sex i'm sure it will be the right time for you, and I hope it will be special!!

[sexbeast]

i masterbate at least once a day. i am an 18 yr old girl, with a ton of raging hormones. but when my bf goes to work...(hold that thought) before he goes to work we have hard sex for 3 hours and then he goes to work. after he leaves i  have this sudden urge for a clitoris climax, so i get my viberating tulip out and put in on my clitorious. and let it go... while doing so i watch a little bit of porn hub and get off in like a min or two, and prepare myself for another round of hard sex when my man gets home. so i belive that if you keep your ***** ready all day long for your man he will love you.

[Divine4801]

To awkward: Thank you so much for asking this question. I'm 22 and I have been wondering about the same questions and didn't know where to ask them. So thanks for putting a voice to the issues at present.

As for the rest of these comments. Thank you for your answers they helped too. I really appreciate it.

[ntd420]

Masterbation is actually considered good for a girls clit. The more you have an orgasm the more sensitive the area will become (not to excess).  Think of it like a muscle, the more you work it out the stronger it will become.  

[aeron]

masterbation is very relaxing..

[uukzrz87]

Masterbation is, for those who do it everyday, definitely an addiction.
Try stopping and if you have a hard time...your addicted.
I'd say even once a week is an addiction.

Also; if you don't want sexual desires to run your life don't stir them.
Basically no sexual thoughts, no porn, no masterbation (masturbation). Don't get to touchy with guys...be honest right from the start.

I think it's interesting to see a girl ask if it's ok.
What would you think if your future husband masterbated while looking at porn once a day minimum, up to say 15 times in one day...had seen millions of porn vids and had so many thoughts of other random bodies?
But had vowed not to have sex before mariage?
You might be sickened at the idea if your not an animal in the sentimental realm (sorry girls but if you masterbate all the time it's not love or respect you'll get from your man; it's desire but that's it).
Even I who am basically the guy cited above, abhor this practise, it disgusts me.

from a guy, 21. I've asked around and read random discussions like this one all the time. There are no specialists on this question:
even doctors are biased in favor of a set of values or another.
If you strive for purity: don't masterbate.
You make me happy, a girl that doesn't want to be a human-dog hybred's so rare; it gives me hope to find a wonderfull wife some day although I don't think I'd meet her standards.
Take care ;)

[Do_Or_Die]

OMG! Masturbating it awsome..It is in NO way harmful for your body, internally.. maybe a few sores from time to time.. but that's because some people get  carried away. I am a 21 year old woman... and I masterbate almost 5-6 times a day.. and I am sexually active.. Just not frequently enough.. I actually prefer masturbation sometimes more then sex, because I know what my body likes.. and if anyone knows how to please me, it is myself. I say go for it.. MASTERBATE, get that frustration out.. better then to hold it in.. which causes higher stress levels.. sexyal frustration... mental frustration... I think NOT masturbating is more hazardous to your health. :) Go enjoy.

[enjoyit_more]

UUKZRZ87 said that if you don't want sexual desires to run your life then don't sir them up by masturbating. That's like saying, if you don't want food to run your life, then don't eat. Doesn't make much sense. Sex is a natural desire. And obviously, like anything, it can become an obsession. However, eating for some people has become an obsession, but we don't refuse to eat. Can I say, DUH!!! Sorry to be so juvenile. I'm a 34 year old woman and have done my share of masturbating, but in no way have become addicted to it. WTF!!! He also goes on to say, "What would you think if your future husband masturbated while looking at porn once a day minimum, up to say 15 times in one day...had seen millions of porn videos and had so many thoughts of other random bodies? But had vowed not to have sex before marriage? " I'd say, Congratulations! How the hell did you manage that?! Besides, not everyone who masturbates watches pornography or thinks of random naked bodies. Anyway, I was just trying to add a sense of normalcy to this forum. Seems like there were either those saying that they masturbate a million times a day(obviously I'm exaggerating), or they are saying that you are a porn freak or into bondage if you masturbate. Let's get a grip on reality people. So, in response to "Awkward's " question; What you are experiencing is a normal part of being a human with a healthy sex drive. You should enjoy it while you still have it. As some of us get older(Not me of course, lol), we lose the ability to enjoy it like we could in our early twenties.

[frog83flys]

Ok so I was reading the reply, and I just wanted to say that having urges is a normal thing. Every teen gets them no matter if you are actually thinking about sex or not. I think that it is defiantly okay for you to relieve those urges with a little self pleasure. I can understand not watching porn, but I'm pretty sure that every woman who marries a man already knows that they have probably more than one time in their life watched porn and or masturbated to it. I respect your thought to stay pure, but sometimes those urges can build up and you might do something you could regret. If masturbation keeps you from having sex, then I'd say go for it.