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I have always been embarassed of my body. And im am deathly afraid of going to the gyno.. and everyones saying wow your 20 you need to and make sure everything is okay. But I cant, I dont believe things are normal down there at all. I am married tho, i found a guy who loves my body and doesnt see anything wrong. But i do. For the longest time i could have sworn i had deflated balls lol.. but i did more research online and discovered that my inner labia just sticks out more.. so that made me more comfortable.. but im still worried about a couple other things. I have a bone down there that doesnt seem like it should be there. Like right where my vagina opening is right above it in my inner labia mess there is a bone. And ive seen babies born and i dont think bones just move out of the way lol cause where the bone is is where the baby would be coming out! So im so scared, and i know people are just going to say suck it up and go to the doctor, but id rather die then do that! im serious.. also.. my periods are very irregular but within the last 2 yrs things have gotten worse.. it went from being couple weeks late to months late... and right now is the worst.. im 4 months late! and im not pregnant. but i did go through a **** load of stress.. my wedding, death, honeymoon and much more.. but im so late and im so scared!!! can anyone help me and make me feel a tad bit better!
ohh i know what you mean.. i am deathly afraid also.. its awkward and what if something is wrong i am so nervous.. and i think i might have something strange with my clitoris!!=/ i dont have a clitoral hood but i do have an enlarged labia.. its awkward
That is your pubic bone. If you reach down, you yourself, and grab ahold of that bone your hand will rest on the outside of your vagina and on your clitoris but your fingers will be gripping the other side of the bone from inside of your vagina. That bone is supposed to be there and it's normal. Your getting paranoid about it and that's why you think it's different. If you have a good friend then maybe you can go with her. But obviously you need to go to the Gynecologist this is a very important part of being a woman and quite frankly I say 'shame on your mother for not taking you once you started having periods' she should have, this would have gotten you into the routine and it would have killed all of these fears and phobias. It's a mother's responsibility to make sure that once her daughter is in puberty to start taking her to the gynecologist. We take our kids to the docs for shots and check ups and to the dentists for cleaning and for girls the gynecologist is also on that list from about age 12 up. You're just going to have to get the strength and support to go and rest assured it's not something to be afraid of and it's something you should take very seriously. If you were mature enough and ready for sex then you have to face it and be mature enough and ready to go to the gynecologist. Good luck.
thanks for answering.. that makes me feel a little better. And you pretty much answered what I wanted. I still think the bone there is a little diff than most girls.. cause its right there next to the vagina! But if that means i will need a csection then oh well.
maybe im more normal than i thought.. i always thought there was no girls out there with problems like me.
now to get over the doctor phobia!!! thats a whole other thing lol..
maybe im more normal than i thought.. i always thought there was no girls out there with problems like me.
now to get over the doctor phobia!!! thats a whole other thing lol..
need help - I think what you're talking about is your pubic bone. If you're feeling with your hands, I can see how you could think that bone will block the baby's head.
This is going to be graphic, sorry. ;D
The baby's head will come out where your husband's penis goes in. He has a clear path there. You can feel up where your rectum is, and there's no bone in there. The bone doesn't start again until about where your butt crack starts in the back.
So you have ALL THAT room there for the flesh to move out of the way and allow the baby's head to pass. Your birth canal kind of moves toward the back, which is why women in the later stages of labor feel like they have to have a bowel movement. Because all the pressure on their rectum.
So.
This isn't to say that there is always enough room to allow a baby to pass - a lot of women need c-sections for narrow pelvic openings. If that's the case, you just make the best of it, and do what's best for the baby.
Rest assured, if you have normal sex, you don't have a bone sticking out where the baby will be coming out.
This is going to be graphic, sorry. ;D
The baby's head will come out where your husband's penis goes in. He has a clear path there. You can feel up where your rectum is, and there's no bone in there. The bone doesn't start again until about where your butt crack starts in the back.
So you have ALL THAT room there for the flesh to move out of the way and allow the baby's head to pass. Your birth canal kind of moves toward the back, which is why women in the later stages of labor feel like they have to have a bowel movement. Because all the pressure on their rectum.
So.
This isn't to say that there is always enough room to allow a baby to pass - a lot of women need c-sections for narrow pelvic openings. If that's the case, you just make the best of it, and do what's best for the baby.
Rest assured, if you have normal sex, you don't have a bone sticking out where the baby will be coming out.
i live in oregon.. its a little far from you.. i wish we had a planned parenthood here but we dont.. i live in a small town with one hospital that my mom works at.. and id prefer if she didnt know. but that wont happen, i went there once before for some other reason and she found out..
I dont think the other ladies are trying to be rude Im sure they were scared the first time....Put it this way....With all my problems i have at the age 30, I have been with a wonderful man supports me in every way,I really cant have sex i hurt so bad and i feel bad cause its not his fault and when i do have sex right after i have to get the heating pad out and take a pain pill and cry....I hate putting him thru that cause then he feels bad cause he wanted to have sex and I cant do the things with my 9 year old that he wants to do and my wonderful boyfriend plays mom and dad everyday...I slept all day and thats not me....I beg you to go. I thought about you last night after i left you a message and i got out Pic's of 3 of my best friends who lost their lives with cancer 2 had ovarian cancer and 1 had cervix and waited to late to go to the doctor. It scared me cause i was next so i had everything removed but my ovaries now im working on my ovaries cause one day im getting married and i want to see my grandchildren.Im not going to tell you "GO NOW OR YOU WILL BE SORRY" Thats not the kind of person im but i will beg you...Where do you live? Please say Lawrenceville,Ga
Honey, If you live near me i would sooo take you..I dont wish on noone what im going thru...Iam in sooo much pain...I had my preop's today and i was scared and i have had 5 surgery's. I wish you would go once you get there and you see that it is okay you will be fine...If you fine the right doctor they will support you in every way....I have had 5 doctor's and i finally found the right doctor....I know you are scared and worried but putting it off wont help you in the long run....Maybe you can take your mom...My mom has been with me lots of times im sure she wont let nothing happen to you...Just think about it.Do your pro's and con's....Think good health....Your so young just take care of your self...
I will take your honesty any day of the week/I am very scared to have a D&C..I can understand her feelings about being scared.I am with you she needs to go to the dr....................Try Planned Parenthood...It does not cost anything............Good luck
Every single person here is encouraging you to go to the doctor. Every single one. I'm sorry you don't think I'm being nice to you. I'm just honest. I assumed (incorrectly again!) that you wanted honesty, not just "nice" responses.
My apologies again.
My apologies again.
My bad. I assumed if you weren't going to the doctor, then you wouldn't be on an effective form of birth control like oral contraceptives or Depo or an IUD. My apologies if you are.
If you are not on an effective form of birth control such as those, then you might very well wind up pregnant.
If you are not on an effective form of birth control such as those, then you might very well wind up pregnant.
i came here to get help not have people be mean towards me.. this is why i dont ever want to get help!!! people are rude about things!! for the rest of the people who post please dont be mean cause those things are sure not helping me get the courage to go to the doctor ever!!! thanks for those who are nice and trying to help me.
If you have no insurance and no money, then you need to correct both of those things before you even think of having a baby. They cost money, and plenty of it.
I'm trying hard to be compassionate towards you, but you are ducking your responsibility in more than just the area of your own healthcare. Get your priorities straight--get your health in order by seeing a psychiatrist about your doctor phobia, then see a doctor about your health, then get a good job and/or health insurance.
Then think about a baby. There is plenty of time. Many, many years. Best of luck.
I'm trying hard to be compassionate towards you, but you are ducking your responsibility in more than just the area of your own healthcare. Get your priorities straight--get your health in order by seeing a psychiatrist about your doctor phobia, then see a doctor about your health, then get a good job and/or health insurance.
Then think about a baby. There is plenty of time. Many, many years. Best of luck.
The whole world will not know if something is wrong. Only you and your doctor will know. And no the doctor will not judge you or laugh at you. That's not what they are there for. If something IS wrong, wouldn't you want to know now rather than later when it may be too late to do anything about it? Don't take this rudely but if you were grown up enough to have sex and get married, then you damn well should be grown up enough to get a pelvic exam.
but what if something is wrong! i dont want the whole world to know and im afraid the doctor will laugh at me or judge me.. im sooo scared just thinking about it.. i wish one you guys would take me there lol!! i cant have my husband there id be too embarassed. i know i need to go but its easier said then done. and i dont have insurance or money! oh god im so scared im even crying right now lol..
Honey - whether you think you might be pregnant or not, you really do need to go see the doctor every once in awhile. If you are nervous, why don't you have your husband go with you and sit in the room with you? As with anything else in life, the best way to get over a fear is to deal with it face to face....then you will probably realize that it's not all that bad. And going to the gyno, especially if you see a woman isn't all that bad. The exam itself, where the doctor is all up in your shi*t (LOL) only lasts for 10 minutes tops. The recommendation is to see the gyno at least once a year, and really.... 10 minutes of your whole year isn't too bad. God Forbid you have a health problem in your female organs, it will be a lot worse - and many more doctor visits down there - to get the problem fixed. So in order to prevent that, you really should just take a deep breath, think of a 'happy place' and let the doctor check it out. Plus you are 4 months late.... even if you aren't pregnant, there is probably a health issue that needs to be taken care of. You will probably feel a lot more comfortable with your body if you can reassure yourself that nothing is wrong. And the only way for that to happen is for a trained doctor to check it out. Believe me - it's not that bad. :) Good Luck, and get your butt to the doctor, girl!! :)
The time to go to a doctor if you are thinking of conceiving, is PRIOR to trying. They will give you preconception counseling, look for problems that might be correctible prior to conception, sometimes will do bloodwork, and give you lots of good advice about optimizing your chances for a healthy baby.
You clearly have a phobia about the doctor, and burying your head in the sand will not help. See a psychiatrist first and discuss your phobia, and do it with a willing spirit and work hard at overcoming it.
Your statement of "if and when i get pregnant i know i will have to go to a doctor then" is not true. You have to go NOW, prior to conceiving, to be sure your body is in its best condition to carry a baby. Reread the other responses about women who discovered they were at risk for cervical cancer. They were smart and adult for going to the doctor and finding out in time.
Go to a therapist and discuss your doctor phobia, and get help. It will get worse if you don't.
You clearly have a phobia about the doctor, and burying your head in the sand will not help. See a psychiatrist first and discuss your phobia, and do it with a willing spirit and work hard at overcoming it.
Your statement of "if and when i get pregnant i know i will have to go to a doctor then" is not true. You have to go NOW, prior to conceiving, to be sure your body is in its best condition to carry a baby. Reread the other responses about women who discovered they were at risk for cervical cancer. They were smart and adult for going to the doctor and finding out in time.
Go to a therapist and discuss your doctor phobia, and get help. It will get worse if you don't.
well if and when i get pregnant i know i will have to go to a doctor then.. but im not and afraid to go now!!! no one understands its harder than u think!
Hey, Im 30 years old and i really wish you would go to the doctor and get a check up...This is something you cant mess with....Iam only 30 years old and i had a baby via cs at 21years old and cause i didnt go to the doctor like i should of i had many problems and i lost a twin which wasnt my fault but i was scared to and i waited..Now i have more problems in 2003 i had a tumor removed off ovary and i had surgery in 2005 for a large cyst on ovary and in 2006 i had everything removed but my ovaries cause of HPV i was at risk for cervix cancer . Now i am having surgery on Oct 29,2007 To have a large cyst removed along with my left ovary and lots of Endometriosis and Endo....So please go to the doctor and get a check-up.....If you let it go to long you could end up with problems and it is painful if i wouldnt of waited i could of maybe had another baby and i would not be on all this pain med's which i hate soooo much cause i have been taken out of work for a few weeks and drugged up... just go!!!! Good luck....
I am 23, and never went to the gyno for the same reason, but then one of my friends said that because of my age and because I am sexually active, I really should go. I scheduled an appointment with a female gyno in my area and she made me feel really comfortable about everything and explained how important it is for me to take care of my health. I had a pap smear done and it came back abnormal. It turned out I have HPV, a virus that causes cervical cancer. Because I had not had regular pap smears, I did not know how long I had the virus and did not know if I had cervical cancer already. I scheduled another appointment for a colposcopy where they performed a biopsy. Thankfully, the results came back negative for cervical cancer. But as I said I have HPV, which can cause cancer and so I have to get regular pap smears every month to make sure cancer does not develop.
I know that is not what you want to hear, but that is the reality. If you wait too long to see a gyno, it could be too late and you could end up with severe consequences. . . . . having your cervix removed, not being able to have children, or even death. I know you mentioned that you'd rather die than see a gyno. . . think about that statement and what you are saying, because seeing a gyno just may save your life!
I know that is not what you want to hear, but that is the reality. If you wait too long to see a gyno, it could be too late and you could end up with severe consequences. . . . . having your cervix removed, not being able to have children, or even death. I know you mentioned that you'd rather die than see a gyno. . . think about that statement and what you are saying, because seeing a gyno just may save your life!
If you could be pregnant or want to have kids in the future then you will HAVE to see the doctor. Really, I never saw one until I was pregnant and I didn't want a doc anywhere near that area but it's just something we all have to go through so just do it. It would be horrible to get pregnant now that your married and have something be an issue and then your stuck. Go ASAP and get it looked at. It's no big deal and you can have your hubby go with you if that would make you more comfortable. Docs don't mind that at all.
Are you scared they might find something wrong and that is why you don't want to go? That would make sense but I'll be you go and find out that you are completely normal and worried over nothing.
Are you scared they might find something wrong and that is why you don't want to go? That would make sense but I'll be you go and find out that you are completely normal and worried over nothing.
the thing is i dont want to see anyone.. im afraid to have someone look down there except me and my husband.. and ive looked up womens anatomy and the bone doesnt seem like its in the right place.. and seeing babies born the babies head comes out right there where my bone is.
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Well, maybe the bone you are seeing is normal. Have you looked up something like anatomy of the vulva on google? There are a lot of drawings and things showing where the bones are and stuff.
If you won't see a doctor, how about a nurse practitioner? They are often really good and gentle about things in the gyno region compared to a doctor.
If you won't see a doctor, how about a nurse practitioner? They are often really good and gentle about things in the gyno region compared to a doctor.
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