Need opinion about virginity

[yourcuteness]

Ok, this may be a silly question, but I was talking with my boyfriend about this. Well, I'm 22 and a virgin, but I've had oral sex and mutual masturbation (only recently been doing these activities). I haven't had vaginal sex though. The other night, he did slide his penis in me (with a condom on), he only got halfway in because I said it was hurting, so he stopped. He just wanted to slide in, we weren't going to have "full-on" sex that night.

He was saying that I was no longer a virgin because I had a penis inside of me, but then he retracted his comment and said that he didn't break anything because there wasn't any blood (and I know that not all people bleed their first time), but he did say I was very small, so he said I was still a virgin.

So I just wanted to know what you all think. He has asked about "sliding" into me a few times before, but I said no theo ther times. I'm so paranoid about a pregnancy. I come from a family who doesn't believe in sex before marriage, so if anything were to happen, it would be pretty bad.

I know that nothing is 100% safe other than staying abstinent. He has "potent sperm"... he got tested and instead of the average 1 million sperm, he has double. He has gotten ex-girfriends pregnant on their first time (that's without protection), since he has a latex allergy. He knows there are alternative condoms, but they're more expensive. But he did use a condom with me, despite the internal pain he experienced afterwards, but if didn't use one, I would've never let him go inside of me.

So, am I still a virgin or not??

Thanks!

[yourcuteness]

So the condom thing, if we were to get serious sexually, he and I will find away to afford other condoms. He used a latex condom that time even though he's allergic, but he knows if he didn't use one, I wouldn't let him near me, and he doesn't want to have any accidents happening. He's probably left with less than $40 each week after he pays for everything that he needs to in order to survive. So he is a hard worker and does what he can to get by. So if he wanted to be with me intimately, and didn't have another type of condom, he'd have to suffer the pain afterwards, but he's willing to do that. Like he said, he's learned his lesson, and again, it's not totally his fault because those girls should've been on birth control or something... it takes 2 to make a baby.

The mother of his child was a virgin and that one time got her pregant. She comes from a conservative family also, and that's why her father forbid her to see him afterwards. It wasn't that the father put the court order in because she wasn't underage when the baby was born, but he urged her to put some kind of restraining order for whatever reason. I mean he should be able to see his daughter, especially if he is supporting her. And that's where the corrupted court systems come into play, if someone has money, anything can happen.

[cugirl]

If he can afford to pay for child support then he can afford the latex free condoms.  Youve said that his ex's have cheated on him so how do you know that this kid is even his?  Wad a paternity test done?

[yourcuteness]

Thank you for your comment.

And yes, this post has seem to revolve around his past mistakes lol.

But I know, protection is must. Especially since I don't want to have a baby at this time of my life. I know that nothing is 100% safe except for not having sex.

[yourcuteness]

Thank you so much for your heart felt comments. Not once did you bash my bf. And I know no one is perfect. When I first met him, I was a little overwhelmed with his past (not that he did anything terribly wrong) but our backgrounds and how we were raised were very different. But I care about him and his past has made him a better and stronger person today, and I can't let the things in the past put a road block in our relationship. And for those people who are 'perfect' out there, they may be the ones that we should be weary of! lol. Yes I know the story about the restraining order doesn't sound all that legit. I mean he's told me the whole story, I just don't remember every bit of it, but it was to that tune. Either way, he would like to see his child, but he can't. I don't know the child's mother, so I don't know why she won't let him see their child. It's not like he was ever abusive, he would never hit a woman, no matter how angry he would get, he would never lay a finger on one in that way to hurt them. And like you said, it's really none of anyone's business to know the exact detail of the circumstances.

Again, thanks for all the comments. I really appreciate them!

[mslkpage]

Her father started the process for court order? Hmmmm....just how old was the girl that he got pregnant? If she was an adult, then only she can petition the court to deny his visitation. Something ain't right here.

[yourcuteness]

I know, I am reading every comment posted on here... about the red flags and what not. I know that there are people with more life experience than me on this issue. That's why I came here in the first place.

I am an analytical person, and I often over think on things (maybe that's why I love psychological research lol). So I am hearing and understanding what everyone is saying on here.

Again, thank you for all the comments so far!