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Orgasm thru intercourse
all i haer is how great sex is and how much they are looking forward to doing it again, when i have sex it feels good, i enjoy it, but i am almost positive that i dont climax. during intercourse i am pretty sure i have never had an orgasm, but everytime i recieve oral sex and thru mutual masturbation i have an orgasm....am i not going long enough, or am i just not ready for full on intercourse? because i was wondering what i could do to help that along, but still have sex just the same as alwaya......no changes made there.....
apparently i have heard that only 30% of women actually orgasm during sex. Most times I dont but when i start thinking about really naughty things while having sex I orgasm and its the best feeling ever! try doing something that you know wil make u and ur man really horny. Just try it, you never know it could work for you! me and my man always make loads of noise, it really does turn you on.
well, welcome to the club! MOST woman do not experience an orgasm during intercourse alone. we need help if you will to stimulate the clitoris. your nickname insinuates you are young so i am hesitant to be descriptive and encourage this.
oh im not thta young, feel free to say w/e u feel like.i am young but not quite that young, but thanks for the consideration
I am not sure of your age, but just remember that it takes time and maturity. Breath, go slow, make it romantic, focus, but not too hard, and always remeber that it won't always happen. In fact, maybe 1 outta 3 at best!
I think sometimes it takes practice to work out what makes u orgasm. I never really used to but once I found what worked for me (only recently I found a new way!) sometimes it happens too quick and I cant control it! Maybe try the idea above and relax!
Hey sweetie, it takes time along with someone (a partner) willing to figure your complicated body out. It is possible indeed, but it may require a little work and unfortunately some women aren't that fortunate to have an orgasim thru intercourse. He!! I say get it, which ever way you can get it. Does it really matter which way it comes? No pun intended! If it's a major concern then talk to your partner and maybe you guys can set aside some time to go exploring! Good Luck!
Wow, this is crazy, I thought I'd be waiting on responses for days.I was wrong.thanks everybody I'll take everything into perspective....and the exploring thing....oh yeah, can do! heh, thanks guys! <3
Ive been sexually active since i was 16... i am 21 now and i have never had an orgasm thru intercourse... always have to do it myself. i gave up long time ago trying to have one, but my boyfriend doesnt know i fake it!!!!
I'm not sure if I really want to say exactly how old I am, I dont want everyone to think they have to censor themslelves or anything like that, because when I talk about an adult issue, I like being spoken to as a young adult not a kid......ya know...i dont want anybody like oooooh, cant say orgasm, oops i said vagina, lol, ya know, i prefer to be spoken to as i speak to ppl.....
About 70% of women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, which intercourse doesn't provide. So, either you or your partner need to use your hands or a vibe on your clitoris during intercourse, if coming then is important to you. You can also certainly orgasm before, after or during intercourse (taking breaks for oral, manual, whatever). However, I'd just encourage you to remember that intercourse is only one of MANY sexual activities, and not the "ultimate" activity our sex-phobic society makes it out to be. So in my book, it really doesn't matter whether you come during intercourse or not :-)
I'll also add that orgasm is a lot like happiness, when you think about it. The more you strive for happiness, the less likely you are to find it. Chasing it only drives it away. Only when you are totally in the moment and fully involved in an activity, not even thinking about whether you're happy (or in this case, orgasmic), can it finally overtake YOU ;-)
I'll also add that orgasm is a lot like happiness, when you think about it. The more you strive for happiness, the less likely you are to find it. Chasing it only drives it away. Only when you are totally in the moment and fully involved in an activity, not even thinking about whether you're happy (or in this case, orgasmic), can it finally overtake YOU ;-)
Just remember you must be 18 years of age to post on this forum, and if you're not... well, then we have that freedom and discernment to censor what we say.
i have just recently started having the best orgasms and im in my late 30s . i just learnt that i can have a squriting orgasm, has anyone else discovered this later in life.
.. i have been with may partner for nearly two years now and i cannot orasm through sex! its fustrating because i can orgasm through clitoral stimulation and i dont really understand why i cant through sex! i would really like to enjoy it with my partner as he orgasms everytime but i think it would help our relationship to enjoy it together! its not just that i dont orgasm either it actually doesnt feel pleasurable at all! should i seek help with this or is it a normall issue some women have! thanks x
This isent a comment but..I NEED HELP!..Ive just recently started having sex and i just need to know how to orgasm thru intercourse!..i dont like the whole going down on a girl thing so I NEED HELP!! PLEASE!!
Wow, I'm suprised that no one can orgasm through sex. Not even from being on top? I orgasm every time, sometimes 2-3 times while on top.
well this is turning into a well-worn topic. indeed it is worth mentioning that half or most women can't orgasm only thru intercourse, and those who do often only while on top (something to do with blood flow to the clitoris?) on the other hand i have been acquainted with women who right off the bat were multiorgasmic via intercourse, even as teens! or how about women who can come at the same time as their boyfriends from the same act? or who can come just by grinding up against the object of their desire, fully clothed! lucky them, huh? but really, who cares how you get there. if you want to feel great about sex, find out what works to give you optimal pleasure, adn a partner who's caring and attentive enough to help you get there. if you need encouragement, read betty dodson. she has the most realistic and encouraging outlook on female sexuality i've seen. personally i don't come from intercourse alone either but i love the orgasms i have when my partner stimulates me during intercourse. i don't know if i will ever come without the extra stimulation but it's very satisfying nonetheless. also, i hate to slam them but if you're real worried about how to have orgasms, or how to make yours better or easier, vibrators are more of a detour than an aid. i think it just gets you used to a level of sensation no human being could ever duplicate.
im 22 years old but only just recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend. although i can achieve amazing orgasms through oral and manual stimulation, ive never been able to through intercoure alone (and we've tried every position in the book). since hes my one and only i wonder if its me or him. and if theres anything i could be doing to help myself out...
one thing i've figured out that works for me, is reaching down and stimulating your clitoris yourself. it feels amazing, and your guy will think its hot ;)
Look - I am older than you and didn't realixe that - this was an orgasim. Are you sure - only happened twice but I thought it was something more disgusting.
Well I am that 30% of women that climax. That is because you should climb on top have him put his legs together and raise up his pelvic area. Its GREAT. I just had my first orgasm after 4 years of sex this past feb. that is because i never took control and always expected him to do it for me. Now oral sex i dont' climax but if you do that and grind on his penis when he puts his legs together and pelvic area up you'll do it promise. let me know!!! lol much love
Well I feel ya on that one. I lost my virginity at 18 and no guy could make me ***. Only I knew how. I met my boyfriend 2 and a half years ago and he couldn't either. I would lie to him when he'd ask me if I came cuz I felt bad. Then only about 2 months ago I confessed my lies. He felt bad mostly for me cuz I couldn't ***. You won't believe how hard he tried and how much longer he lasted after I told him that. My first orgasm came June 22nd. I think woman on top is a good position. Don't go up and down, rock yourself forward and backward so your clitoris rubs against his lower stomach/abdomen. I figured this out thru reading cosmopolitan. You have to focus and concentrate on what's going on. Turn the tv radio off so your thoughts aren't interrupted. Take somewhat deep breaths and exhale fast thru ur nose. Stay focused and have your man grab your hips and caress your breast I like when my man does this. And lo and behold you will achieve an orgasm. It took me a long while before I got mine and now I *** even faster. It is such a great feeling. I love having sex....I think I want it more than my man. I'm always pouncing on him. Lol!!! GOOD LUCK AND KEEP US UPDATED ON NEW TRICKS OR WHAT WORKED FOR YOU!!
Here's a comment I posted in response to another forum user: "A great way to achieve orgasm during intercourse is first get your bf to bring you to orgasm first, either through oral sex or manual stimulation, then immediately have him penetrate you - him on top, so there is good clitoral contact." and continue the orgasm. A cheat's way? Who cares, it still gives the desired effect.
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