I posted this reply today to Little Tiny Me's post, but it is an older post (I think it was 8/25) so I'm not sure it would have been seen. So, I'm reposting it on new thread:
Please check out Vaginismus. It sounds very much like this is what you're dealing with. Look up vaginismus.com & Also check out Yahoo Groups: Vaginismus & Primary Vaginismus. (If you haven't joined a group before, it's easy, just go to Yahoo Groups, search for Vaginismus, and then you can see which group (there are several) you might be interested in. You have to join the group, but the moderator's are really good at