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Sharp Pain During Foreplay, But Not During Intercourse
I know this isn't the correct forum for this, but I'm pretty desperate to find out what is going on with me. I've been sexually active for 8 years now and have only had one sexual partner this whole time (my husband).
For the first 4 years, nothing at all was wrong with our sex life. But when I first went to the gynecologist, he told me that it looked like I had a bartholin gland cyst. He said eventually it would burst, and then I'd have to come in and get it drained. A year later, I began to have sharp pains when I became sexually aroused in the same area (and only this are) as this bump that he pointed out. I also was unable to produce as much lubricant as I once was and had no problem of doing. It might be important to note that this pain only lasted during foreplay; I was able to have intercourse without any discomfort as long as I got through the initial pain.
The next time I was in for my yearly check, I told him about it. He took a look at it and said it had a "bluish-purplish" hue to it. I told him exactly what was going on with the pain, how it was only at the beginning and it was intense enough to stop sex, but he really didn't have an answer for me.
The next year, I again brought it up. He felt around the area and said that the cyst was gone. By that time, we pretty much stopped having sex because of the pain, so I wasn't sure if it still hurt when being aroused. Come to find out, it did still hurt.
When I finally got in to see to the gynecologyst, my doctor had retired. I told my new one everything that was going on and everything my previous doctor said. She checked it all out, pressed on everything you could think of, and she couldn't find a trace of a bump. I asked her if she knew was going on, and she honestly had no answer. She said she would talk with her colleagues and call me back, but I haven't heard any communication with her, and when I try to call, I get the nurse's station's voicemail and get no reply back.
Again, I'm sorry this isn't the right place, but I'm tired of these doctors acting like it's no big deal just because there is no bump anymore. It hurts, and my husband now believes it's all in my head like I don't want to have sex and I'm making this up. If you have any notion, theory, a new idea I can bring up next time I'm there, or maybe a specialist I need to see for this, please let me know. Thank you for your help; I truly appreciate it.
For the first 4 years, nothing at all was wrong with our sex life. But when I first went to the gynecologist, he told me that it looked like I had a bartholin gland cyst. He said eventually it would burst, and then I'd have to come in and get it drained. A year later, I began to have sharp pains when I became sexually aroused in the same area (and only this are) as this bump that he pointed out. I also was unable to produce as much lubricant as I once was and had no problem of doing. It might be important to note that this pain only lasted during foreplay; I was able to have intercourse without any discomfort as long as I got through the initial pain.
The next time I was in for my yearly check, I told him about it. He took a look at it and said it had a "bluish-purplish" hue to it. I told him exactly what was going on with the pain, how it was only at the beginning and it was intense enough to stop sex, but he really didn't have an answer for me.
The next year, I again brought it up. He felt around the area and said that the cyst was gone. By that time, we pretty much stopped having sex because of the pain, so I wasn't sure if it still hurt when being aroused. Come to find out, it did still hurt.
When I finally got in to see to the gynecologyst, my doctor had retired. I told my new one everything that was going on and everything my previous doctor said. She checked it all out, pressed on everything you could think of, and she couldn't find a trace of a bump. I asked her if she knew was going on, and she honestly had no answer. She said she would talk with her colleagues and call me back, but I haven't heard any communication with her, and when I try to call, I get the nurse's station's voicemail and get no reply back.
Again, I'm sorry this isn't the right place, but I'm tired of these doctors acting like it's no big deal just because there is no bump anymore. It hurts, and my husband now believes it's all in my head like I don't want to have sex and I'm making this up. If you have any notion, theory, a new idea I can bring up next time I'm there, or maybe a specialist I need to see for this, please let me know. Thank you for your help; I truly appreciate it.
What was the cure? This problem has gotten increasingly worse for me over the past decade and since we are trying to get pregnant (and have been for four years) its even all the more frustrating and depressing. I'm at my wit's end. Everyone keeps telling me we'll get pregnant when we stop thinking about it and I want to say "nope, not really, b/c we don't have sex unless we are trying!" I'm desperate for an answer or way to make it more bearable.
I know how you feel. I am the same way, but its only began recently. I just found out im pregnant, but i dont know if thats the cause or not. It isnt when we are having sex, but simply when we are "messing around." Sex is fine.. I came up with one cure for it...but i am into more things then most people.. it may be a little weird.
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