Leaving the site

[laura1977]

I am taking this chance to say nice talking to you all, and I hope everyone gets help with whatever issue they have at the time.  I have decided that this site is just not right for me.  It is upsetting to me that there are so many young women that are asking for help, and yet there is hardly anyone on here that is telling them to respect the bodies that the good Lord gave them.  I'm not saying that I have any right to say something to them, I just know that as a mother of two little girls, I would hope that if they reached out for help from someone, that the person that they reach out to realizes that they are children and need to discuss this with their parents.  
I met some really nice ladies on here and I enjoyed talking to them, I just feel it's not right that this site lets 13 year old girls come on here asking strangers for help.  I understand that many of you may not agree with me on this issue, and that is why I have decided to leave this site.  I understand everyone makes mistakes, but lets understand that when these girls come on here asking questions about sexual stuff, it's not wrong to tell them to not worry about sex and worry about getting a good education this world is hard enough for girls without adding children into it.  They are coming on this site to ask YOUR advice, so it's alright to take the chance to make a difference in a young womans life, maybe they don't have a mother or maybe their mother doesn't bother.  You all can be the person that they look up to.  It just upsets me to see 12 and 13 and 14 year olds on here and people tell them to get on the pill.  That shouldn't be the answer, it could be a time that a woman that made the mistake of getting pregnant too soon, takes that girl and talks to her regarding what she went through.  You all can make a difference.  Just imagine if one of your teen daughters got on here and was getting advice about sex, wouldn't you rather someone tell them that they are worth waiting for?
Good luck to you all.

[Maggie2007]

Good points. I think there should be a "teen health" forum, but that each question should be gone over by a doctor and/or clinical social worker. I wonder if that would ever happen though because of the liability of it. Either way, you guys are all right...if a teen (or anyone) is posting here for guidance...I only hope that they get a decent response back.

[Evie1963]

I hear you. Maybe it's time for a specific forum to open up for teen pregnancy so other women's questions can be answered too.

[lkw-lkb]

I completely agree, and not to be callous or anything, but there are problems on this forum besides young pregnant girls. I feel bad not only for the girls (I was in that position myself at one time, and it's terrifying!) for the people whose inquiries go unanswered because the site is flooded with questions about teen pregnancy.

[bip]

Ya I agree.....I remember when someone posted  here and she got Raped she didnt even know I think she was asking for help and she was young.  I felt bad.  Its alot of  teens. post on here and I personally think its not good...    I think  the parents should make sure  what there child is doing on the computer its alot  of bad things on the computer but sometimes the parents are not home to see this.......I hope my children will ask me about sex and other things not go on a forum and ask quistions.........


WISH YOU THE BEST

[Evie1963]

I understand what you're saying, I really do and in a perfect world everyone wold follow the 'rules' but sadly this isn't the case. I totally agree with AnnieBrooke, these girls are not going to listen to us if we tell them to stop having sex, get an education etc and do the right thing, even if that's what we would hope for.

I have two teenage sons and a teenage daughter and I try my best to guide them in life, these young girls probably don't have that support and they're crying out for help. I feel offering them realistic information is the kindest thing to do and responsible.

Offering help to minimise more underage pregnancies, I believe can only be good for a young girl who is having sex irresponsibly because of reckless risk taking or naivety. Unfortunately alot of these girls are having sex too young because they are looking to be loved, however misguided because they lack a loving environment at home.

[AnnieBrooke]

Good luck to you as well.  The young girls who are genuine tug at my heart; they know so little and are so stubborn and certain that they are being grown-up to have sex with their boyfriends and they will keep doing it because their boyfriend is pressuring them or because they think that's the way it is, and nothing a website poster says will make a difference, it will just turn the girl away.  Sometimes getting them a little accurate information is the best that can be done in the one chance this site gives at straightening them out.  Speeches about what they actually should be doing just go in one ear and out the other, they think the speaker is out of touch with their reality.   There are also trolls, fakes and gamers who post on sites like this.  When I answer someone who sounds legitimate (not a fake post) I watch for a chance to put in a word against them having sex at a young age, or having unprotected sex, or being stupid in some other way.  But the sad truth is that so many have no sex education and no trusted adults that they can rely on for help; they know so little and it does no good to hammer them.

[kimbie]

I do understand what you are saying. It is sad! But is also the reality of what is happening in this world. I have 3 girls & know I would be upset if they did not come to me. The girls who don't have no where to turn to but these sites that us as adults will advise & try to help as much as we can. I really feel for these young girls. I can't imagine one of my girls reaching out to stranger's & not me. You are so right with all you said! Good luck to you!

[beach23]

good luck to you too. i feel a little the way you do. i get annoyed because there are so many young girls on here that are pregnant and need help and there are so many ladies on her ttc with no luck (including myself) these young girls throw away what so many of us cherish. best of luck to you!