And Jenn,
For me the swelling starts almost immediately as soon as my boyfriend is inside me. Within 30 seconds or so. Is this the case for you?
The second part of what you said about extreme, uncomfortable tightness doesn't relate to me. He always has to finger me before fully inserting his penis, however an inserted finger never is painful to me. I heard something that you reminded me of called vaginismus. Check it out and see if it applies to you?
This was happening before I was on birth control.
But we will try the possible allergy to soap. Thanks for your advice!
Your birth control pill can cause vaginal dryness and make your vagina more sensitive. You may want to see about changing to another type of pill and see if that makes any difference.
You might also try washing his penis and rinsing very well just before you have intercourse. Maybe you are allergic to his soap.
I am glad you have posted this because I have been dealing with the same thing for a long time now. I have talked to Doctors about it and they imply i'm having rough sex or sex for too long. I will keep an eye on this post so maybe I can get an answer as well....
Though I have noticed its not as bad some days as it is on other days. My swelling often reminds me of the pain i had the first time i had sex because everything is so intensly tight. Sometimes the tightness is so bad its painful to jus insert a finger....