Dr. won't give me a hysterectomy

[twinner1234]

Was seen by a new gyn. (I have had endo for years and 4 laps., from ultrasound, radiologist thinks I might have adenomyosis). Somehow, I knew the gyn. wouldn't want me to have a hyterectomy.  But he hasn't had my life. I had my first period at 11 and I missed SO MUCH SCHOOL  and phys. ed. I am now 37. Have tried being on a normal birth control continously for about 2yrs. and at the end I kept having break-through bleeding, or spotting or just pain. Pain for masturbating or sex or esp. times when I had anxiety (have chronic depression and anxiety disorders).  I have, basically little to no quality of life...I used to weigh 130 or around there and am now 180 and can't seem to get it down, too sore to exercise. Have trouble with fatty liver now since they had to remove gallbladder. This new gyne said I couldn't be put on birth control pill anymore because of my liver.  I don't have a love relationship, I barely leave the house because I have trouble with what he thinks is ibs and what i think might be endo. I am so tired ALL THE TIME.  I WANT TO LIVE AGAIN. I'm not a teenager anymore and with my nerves being as they are (on anti-depressents) and tried to get off them slowly twice and had nervous breakdowns, with having adenomyosis, which usually puts women at high risk pregnacies, WHY IS HE PLAYING GOD WITH MY LIFE?? Does anyone know of any endo specialists in Edmonton, AB, Canada??? I can't seem to find any. This new gyne wants to give me an iud called minera and says to his patients to not take it out unless they can't possibly stand the effects....what does that say about it??? Do I have to be 65 to have a life again or will they think that's too young...sorry, very frustrated.

[twinner1234]

Sorry for the confusion, I was diagnosed with endometriosis after my first laprascopy but was told it was near the back of my uterus, in the pouch of douglas and near the colon. These new symptoms however, being that they involve my urinary tract, is what I am uncertain that the cause may be endo cells in that area. In other words it could have spread to my urinary tract. But I won't know without more tests, unfortunately probably another another lap. I guess i didn't word it right...sorry.  Hope I worded it right this time...lol.

[thatquietgirl]

Have you had an ultrasound or any procedure done to find out if you have endo?  One place you said "what I think is endo" and another place you're acting like you do have it.  Could it be you used this mixed signal type language with your gynecologist?  

Either way, it is YOUR choice to have a hysterectomy or not.  It's your body and your life.  It's not like you're asking because you just don't like having a uterus.  At 37, you know how important or unimportant having a kid is, too, so it's not like that should be a huge factor.

I would write a formal complaint to the hospital he works at telling them you feel he is not listening to or considering your needs, and if you don't know for sure you have endo (as in have not had a formal diagnosis), that he refused to provide the tests to find out what is causing this pain.  Best of luck!