Wife bleeding during climax???

[HangOutw/MyWangOut]

Not sure if topic area is correct. Anyway, several months ago my wife discovered she had a cyst on one of her ovaries (she was in for a bad bladder infection). The Doc said it didn't look like anything to worry about. She now has insurance and plans to get it checked out anyways. She has complained on and off lately about a slight pain or discomfort in her abdomen that comes and goes. Her periods seem to be on track except for every time she thinks she's done and we have sex, she bleeds some more for another day then she's done (she says I always find her "secret pocket" and knock it loose). =P She began her period around the 15th and over the last few days we have had alot of "doggie style" sex along with her complaining of the same abdominal discomfort. The discomfort went away a couple of days ago, but last night during sex while she was climaxing, I looked down and noticed blood beginning to appear on my penis. It seemed to be quite a bit- more than when I find her "secret pocket". She has been off the pill for a couple of months (we're trying to get pregnant). Could this be because of the cyst or could it be implantation bleeding? From what I've read it's probably not implantation, but it would be nice to know that it was instead of something detrimental! Anyone have a clue? -Thanks

[oceans3]

see what happens hanging out with your wang out!!!

[mslkpage]

You're right. I tend to jump to conclusions or assume the worst, and I think it has to do with the work I used to do. I'm probably overly-suspicious at times. But, I'd rather have it that when then ever be blind-sided by something. I don't have any kids of my own, but do have two step-kids. Just last year, their maternal great-grandfather got put on probation for molesting two young relatives! (He should have gone to prison, but hired the best defense attorney in this area) Almost everyone was shocked by this, except me. Sadly, I've seen so much of it that nothing surprises me.

HangOut- we're certainly not comparing you to sex offenders...just got off on a tangent. Sorry again for misjudging you. (Hope my first two responses didn't run you off the board.)

[mslkpage]

Actually, I thought your username just reinforced my belief that you're an exhibitionist who has no concerns about his significant other. I also think that your choice of name kept you from receiving valuable advice. You come on a women's forum  with THAT name?? If you really felt seriously about this problem, then you would have chosen a more appropriate name and would have received some serious answers. If you're not concerned about this issue, then stay off this forum. Don't make a joke out of it.

[oceans3]

i will admit, you gave me some smiles but i do hear where you are coming from! people around me think i overreact because i have an almost 4 yr old who i do not want running around our yard in a bathingsuit or wearing anything revealing. there is too much going on out there (pediphiles) (sp??) and esp. after the incident in idaho which im sure you heard about. so im with you on that. however, i do just think this is a guy who was trying to take light of a situation that his wife is in and does care about her. i think he meant well and is concerned and thats why he posted. woman can be way more explicit sometimes and we tend to think its the man talking. wish my guy would write in and show concern. geeze,now that i think about it, he wouldnt even if i asked/told him to!

[JoAnnaRF]

I think you're very concerned about your wife! Sounds like the two of you share a great relationship with a very healthy sense of humor. I was not offended and took it as I've seen on many occassions where people simply pull their sense of humor out of their pockets when they are stressed and worried. The only person you need to impress is your wife and it sounds as if you are doing that!
I know you are trying to think positively that it is inplantation bleeding and it very well may be, but she needs to be seen by a Dr. before you guys conceive unless you already have.
Good luck to you both and please come back and tell us how the two of you are doing.
Laughing can be the best medicine--JoAnna

[mslkpage]

Okay, I'll admit I got a little defensive. As someone who's had an ectopic and a miscarriage both in the past 7 months, I didn't think his nickname was appropriate for a Women's Reproductive Health forum. I also tend to jump to conclusions, because I used to supervise sex offenders. I guess in my mind, he was sitting at the computer and typing with just one hand, because the other hand was busy. Sorry hangout, for judging you by your name and some of the contents of your post.

[oceans3]

i forgot to mention that i do agree w. the other poster in that i think you would have received more of a response and advice if you chose a different name. then you'd be taken more seriously. however, it didnt stop me i guess.

[oceans3]

well, its odd that the 3 of us who posted, 1 is a bit offended, the other is not, and i am feeling somewhat in the middle. the fact that you wrote in shows concern for your wife. i can tell you that my hub bub would not be the type at all. it does sound like you guys are playful yet there is that concern about her health. i like joannas last response..laughter is the best medicine. i also think that while this is a womans forum, and if a man writes in we forget that sometimes its the woman who is aggressive in bed or says certain things and we assume its your "typical male" talking. good luck, hope all is well.

[HangOutw/MyWangOut]

Thank you for responding. My wife and I are a couple of "kidders" but in retrospect I thought my lighthearted approach on this forum was a bit much. I didn't expect to get any responses, really. I guess in all the details I tried to include I didn't make clear that we do take a break from sex while she feels the discomfort I mentioned. As for the position we choose, I have to say that it is by her request. She tells me that is her preference by far and seems to respond to it more favorably. By the way, if concern for my wife is in question, I never ask her to do anything. The only question she gets asked is "What do you want tonight?"(with "nothing" being a perfectly acceptable answer). The "secret pocket" thing I mentioned was thrown in just in case it was a symptom of something she and I just don't know about. I thought maybe it was a clue that if someone were familiar with it would bring us some answers.
  The red, heavy bleeding stopped but she is still spotting brownish. I told her to make an appointment next week. A friend told her she thinks it's due to becoming pregnant. We hope...

All seriousness aside for a moment, did anyone at least giggle at my username when they saw it? We BOTH would like to know... =P

[oceans3]

as a woman, the only thing i can offer is this..doggie style hurts. i cant do that position. its almost as if my husbands, well, you know "hits" something up in there. it makes me react like i got hit in the stomach or something. so we dont do it like that. plenty of other ways to do it that dont hurt. i hear a lot of woman say they need to be elevated (like a pillow underneath). try a different position but she should still get checked out for sure by a dr.

[mslkpage]

If you are trying to get pregnant, then she definitely needs to get a more thorough diagnosis, especially if she now has insurance. It is possible for cysts to cause bleeding, but the pain should subside with hormonal changes. You sound more impressed with finding the secret pocket and all the doggie style sex than you do concerned for her health. If she's complaining of 'abdominal discomfort,' then why not take a break for awhile?? Perhaps you should wait until she receives a clean bill of health before TTC.