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miscarriage or not ? ?
My close family members gf told all the family she was pregnant. She knew for weeks she sed she was bout 12 weeks but wouldn't go see a midwife or dr. Even wen she told me she had been bleeding (first thing a pregnant woman does is c a dr if she bleeds Right??). About 4 or 5 days after she said she lost the baby (after sum1 threatened to report her to social services as she has had her other children taken off her).she wouldn't go into hospital or see a dr. After about 12 hours of persuiding she said she went to the out of hours dr and they sent her to the hospital in which she stayed all night so she says neway. She says my other family member took her. But wen I asked him he said he took her to drs but didn't go in wiv her and then after bout 2 hours of waithing he took her to his home where she lives wiv him and my ova fmily member and he sed she stayed there all night. (So she lied about going to hospital) she said she went to a certain hosptial when I no they woulnt send her there as its not in our area she would av gone to hospital closest to us. she was out early next day shopping and has been laughing about and everything. (Not something someone who had miscarried wud do )She even told me the hospital ran tests on her n told her she can't carry girls but I no these tests take weeks to come back not hours. And also a out of hours dr wouldn't do these tests. I think it all sounds dodgey I think she is lying but dunno what to do about it.
I avnt sed no more. But she's keeps on about it saying things and telling me not to say nuffing to him. I don't want to really as he's going through enough as it is with other problems. I suppose I just av to wait for him to open his eyes.
COMMUNITY LEADER
If it's your brother and you have said what you have to say, that she is apparently lying, then leave off telling him more. He heard you.
Not sum1 I av a romantic interst in coz like I sed its family n I don't c my family members in tha way. Its my twin brother we are very close. He already been thru it b4 a girl lying saying she lost a baby wen she didn't. And I don't want him hurt. I've already made my opinions clear and its like he don't wanna hear it. Its hard to let go tho wen he's hurting ova this. I've been thru m/c so I no what its like. Its heartbreaken.
COMMUNITY LEADER
What is your interest in the family member who thinks he was the dad? If it's just some family member, you really shouldn't be in the middle deciding whether the person is lying or not. If it is your brother, then just lay out why you think she's lying and then shut up and back out. If it's someone you have a romantic interest in and you think this gal is lying to keep him hooked, I can see why you care so much. But if it's just some cousin or whatever, then why get so tied up about this? Let it go, she says there is no baby, so let go of your interest in the situation.
Yeh that's what I thort whenn I was pregnant 9 months ago I bled n wen str8 to the hospital.But they couldn't do much as it was l8 in the nite and had to book me in for a scan for the next day in which I was told I had a m/c. And yeh maybe but its stil strange how she acts I was devestated and was in so much pain I couldn't move but yet she was out and about shopping and going to cafes ect. My family member doesn't no she told me she got sent to hospital as she told me not to mention it to him. But I mentioned it to the ova family member and he said she didn't go so there wouldn't b ne records. And tbh they wouldn't b able to give info to him if there was as there's no proof he was defo the dad and its patient confidentiality. Well it matters coz its not fair on my family member thinking he's lost a child who I don't believe was even there. And she told me she had a test and they said she can't carry girls. She has a few boys already and had sed she have had 3 m/c and wen the hospital ran tests they told her that she cnt av girls. She wen very l8 at nite aswel so I no she wouldn't av had a scan there n then (I didn't til the next day ) and they certainly didn't offer tests until a few days l8er when I had a d n c.she is lyin about a few things which is making me disbelieve her
COMMUNITY LEADER
Why does it matter, is she saying someone is the father who feels obliged by all of this? I'd write it off as a stunt, otherwise. If the father wants to see the "tests," he has the right to.
What does "the hospital ran tests on her n told her she can't carry girls" mean? There is no test that says one can carry boys but not girls, if that is what she said.
What does "the hospital ran tests on her n told her she can't carry girls" mean? There is no test that says one can carry boys but not girls, if that is what she said.
well if a family member is having a baby by her they can call the hospital and get the records. if she isnt in the hospitals system your family member would know she lied.
well there isn't much you can do... some women do bleed while pregnant but normally they go to a doctor right away just to make sure everything is okay.
It sounds like she is lying but who knows maybe acting like it was no big deal is her way of coping with it
It sounds like she is lying but who knows maybe acting like it was no big deal is her way of coping with it
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