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[lizardlady86]

ok so i've been with my bf for 6 years. some miraculous way i recently found out i was pregnant (we have been having unprotected sex this whole time and nothing ever happened until now and i'm 23, so its not some teen pregnancy thing) he thinks i should get an abortion because we're not financially ready for this baby. we're both going to school, he just started a minimum wage job. in a way i agree with him about being financial unstable, but at the same time i don't know if an abortion is right for me. tomorrow i go to the doctor to find out exactly how far along i am and to discuss my options. i'm torn between this and don't know what to do. any advice?

[lizardlady86]

i decided to keep it =)

[avay]

I never quite understand why people don't consider adoption.  This eliminates the burden of having an abortion AND you're giving your child the life it deserves.  

[Mimi81]

Abortion is a personal choice. You are the one who knows your situation, if you feel bad about the abortion there is always adoption. Always be careful about unprotected sex, just because you haven't gotten pregnant for a long time doesn't mean it won't happen, there is 100% chance it would if you don't use protection or aren't on the pill. Good luck and trust yourself to make the right choice for you

[lizardlady86]

yeah i feel the same way about abortions. . i can't help to think that it's wrong. but at the same time i don't want it not to have a good life because i'm financially unstable. i personally feel i'm mentally ready for a child though. i think regardless of what happens, it might hurt the relationship, on one hand i'll have to live with the regret of having the abortion, on the other hand i feel like it just wouldn't be a good environment for it. with him or not, i'd be able to provide the loving environment the baby needs.....but yes, thank you for making me think more  about it, it's really helping =)

[DTSteele]

Well, if you did abort the child, you have to think. Would this hurt your relationshi9p with your boyfriend, or help it? Would you regret going through with an abortion after you have it done? Would you be able to live with yourself? Yes, if you had the baby when you're financially unstable it would not have a good life but it would still have loving parents. I myself am against abortion. To me, its like murdering someone. The number one question to ask yourself though, is "Are YOU ready for a baby?" Whats best for your child? I personally think you should wait until both of you are ready for a baby. Its a two-way streak. Try discussing it with your boyfriend. Hope this helped in the least bit.