dry intercourse

[super diamond]

I am having a problem well I think it is a problem, most the time when my bf and I are having sex I am always dry, even right after he proforms oral sex and he gets ready to do his thing I get so dry and it hurts during and after, at first i didnt mind it but after some time he started to use his finger and after he does that it hurts and when he puts his penis in it hurts even worse, i dont want to not have sex with him but it as become a bad experience with us having sex over and over and I am still dry. What can I do to not be dry whenever I am having sex, I really would like to enjoy sex much more. ALso I know I am not the only one as a problem having a orgasm, can someone help me in finding a way to get a orgasm during intercourse, i want to enjoy it like everyone else.

[Myron_Long]

I bet every women on this forum thats complaining they can't get wet before sex or stay wet during sex or reach an orgasm are women who can get off on their own (self-pleasure)

Even though it's considered normal and healthy, You be surprised what psychological effects you can get from masturbation (self-pleasure) from doing it for years.

If you're one of these women that can get off on your own but not with real sex, you need to refrain from self-pleasure for at least 30 days to re-programmed your mind on how it thinks when it comes to sex.

This goes for men too! You know... The men that say they can maintain an erection or reach an orgasm thru self-pleasure but they're a dud in the bedroom when it comes to real sex.

I use to masturbate all the time, experiencing bad erections and performance anxiety, but when I decided to quit masturbation for at least 30 days, all of that nonsense stopped.

Till this day, I DO NOT MASTURBATE.

GL!

[snoopy820]

Hun, you would have far better, wetter sex if you learned to punctuate.

[stevensgurl]

I have the same problem. I actually jus got done having intercourse and I couldn't orgasm and neither could my bf. He finally asked me today "do I not turn u on?" I kinda felt embarrassed. This has been happening for 3 months now. I really love him and I don't understand why I dry out so bad during intercourse. I get completely wet before and we have tried foreplay but it doesn't work. I don't want him to feel like its his fault and I want to make him happy. I also thought it was jus me cuz I don't drink enough water. But reading ur comments I think I will try the lube.

[bexy84]

found this category and thought i may be of some help. Had similar problems, went to doctor after doctor about it and nothing worked, they told me to stop using perfumed shower gels, use lubricant etc. etc. Finally went to a specialist when it started causing problems in my relationship (totally went off the idea of sex as it hurt so much) turns out i had an oestrogen deficiency, no one picked it up before because its very common in menopausal women, but i was only 24... also, i was on a very low oestrogen pill - so that wasn't helping. Got a localised oestrogen cream whcih really helped and have now come off pill, it is no longer a problem. It may be worth checking for this.

Hope this helps, i know it can be extremely upsetting x

[mararee1]

well, im now 19 yrs old, and i've been sexually active for about five or six years.  When i first start having sex, being wet was natural, and the men loved it.  I always had orgasms, the men always had one, so we both were satisfied.  Now, its like what the hell.  I could feel myself getting dryer and dryer with every sexual incounter.  I heard about astroglide, so i went and bought some at a local cvs, for about eight dollars, and i haven't used it yet.  I messed around with a guy from sixteen to eighteen, and we haven't had sex since.  Well now he's back in my life, and wants to have sex, i want it soo bad, but im scared the astroglide wont work! Someone that has used it, please let me know whats the longest you've lasted using the product.  I havent had sex since i was eighteen, im going on twenty, and im going crazy! the tips will be so helpful..

[missmess8]

I've been doing various internet searches, trying to find an answer to my problems. (I wonder how people dealt with life before the internet. Seriously...) I deal with all of the things that every one has mentioned. Too dry for sex. Not turned on. Stressed out. Mind elsewhere. Not confident enough. Don't think I'm sexy. Too afraid to show him how to do it right. Too embarrassed to do it myself. The list goes on. And I still haven't found a fool-proof answer to anything (except that lube does work). But one thing that I've found is that it feels REALLY good to know that I'm not the only one. I feel so relieved just knowing that there isn't something "wrong" with me and that lots of other women all over the world are dealing with the same issues.