helpppp!! teenage relationship!

[me27]

ok so im 16, very confused, and need help
i recently have started dating a guy (not my first boyfriend but first one i really really like) his nearly 19. the thing is he is already asking to sleep over he is saying he just wants to spend more time with me thats why he wants to spend the night but im unsure. also my parents are very strict and dont no that we are dating. they would deffinatly nnot want us to share a bed, one more thing i feel like im  ready to loose my virginity but everyone else is saying im too young what do i do? help please!

[wolfwolfiepup]

As the Mom of 3 teenaged girls, one 17,one 16, one 14, I'll tell you what I tell them. Unless you are totally sure without one bit of doubt about how far you want to go with this guy, then wait.  Not all, but most 19 year old "men"  are just looking for sex and I'm sorry to say that if this man keeps pushing about sleeping over, then he more than likely falls into the horndog catergory. lol Still the decision is up to you and I wish you the best.

[2timesnow]

At risk of sounding like a prude, I think that you may want to hold off a little while as it sounds like you aren't as sure you wish you were.  Realize that when you do, your relationship is at a completely different level, it may create a lot of drama and can even change how you feel about yourself.   Also the first time isn't always as wonderfully romantic and beautiful as you may think, I think most often for  a women's first time it tends to hurt.    As the others said there is no reason to rush, just make sure you are comfortable with the decision and all the possible outcomes.    And if you decide too but then change your mind that's okay- your allowed too-!!   Either way first thing to do is make sure you know what kind of protection you will use and since you are "thinking" about it, if your not already, get yourself on birth control pills.         All the best to you!

[littlegnome]

I think you should maybe get to know him first if you haven't known him for very long then  you don't know the full person but if you really love him go for it have fun.  

[amc567]

If you are certain then great, and if you are almost certin then theres no harm in holding off until you are, even if its a few days, or a few months.  As long as you will be happy with your decision when its happening, right afterward, and when you're older. Also think about if things dont work out with this guy, are you still going to be happy losing your virginity to him after the break up?  I mutually lost mine with my boyfriend at 17,m we had been dating for about 4 months. we went on to date for 2.5 more years, and even though that relationship is over I dont regret it, though if it had been anothe ri guy i might have. I regret even almost sleeping with a guy 6 months ago, and it didnt actually happen yet i hate that it might have, and i definitly was not a virign then. Just something to think about and good luck to you, im sure you will make a decision you are happy with either way!

[me27]

thanks for the advice, ive heard alot about people waking up the next day and regretting it and i really dont want that to happen, but i am almost certain i am ready and have thought about it a lot lately.

[amc567]

If you are unsure then there is no need to rush. If your boyfriend cares, no matter how badly he may want to have an "innocent" sleepover with you, he will wait. If he wants to spend more time with you in the meantime then go on a day trip. Its also not worth tension between you and your parents. Also, you know when you are ready for sex, and it is your decision not anyone elses. However the fact you have to ask usually suggests that you have some uncertainities about it.  Its best not to follow through with sex until you are completely positive, with no doubts, that it is the right choice for you at that time. When you're ready you will know. And its always better wait just incase if you are worried...think about when you are 20 or older and looking back. You will be much happier telling the story of how you lost your virignity to your girlfriends if it was a good experience and you have no regrets. Just remember, guys come and go, when you want to have sex do it for YOU, not for a guy and what he wants, and also you have all the time im the world to wait.