Trying not to get pregnant - different types of activities

[mmmeadows]

I'm currently on Depo right now and have been on it for more than a year now.  I'm 25 now.  It's side effects are starting to become more apparent, like reduced libido, and I get spotting at months at a time.  I think its affecting my mental health too, and would like to get off of it, and take some time off before I choose another form of birth control.

My boyfriend and I would still like to remain active, but he's allergic to latex and even I don't like how it feels with the condom on.  Even with the condom I'm concerned about getting pregnant, but I want to learn more what is safe without the use of a condom.

I am hoping someone can address these questions, all that involve no condom, but may involve contraceptive jelly.

Is mutual masturbation safe?
Is oral sex safe?
Is anal sex safe, if he ejaculates inside?
If I touch his member during mutual masturbation, can I still touch myself?
If he kisses me after oral sex, can he still do cunnilingus?
After he ejaculates, is it safe to lie next to him naked?
Is contraceptive jelly necessary to be safe with all of these activities?

It took me a long time to finally post this question, so I'd really appreciate your feedback.  Thanks!!! ^_^

[kcam]

of course there's a chance to get pregnant if your not using a condom and he simply pulls out...what if he doesn't do it soon enough? do u really trust him to? and then there's the pre-***...of course, if you guys are using condoms then there's less of a chance...but still a chance...it could break...well, that's my opinion...I would just go on the pill to be safe...2 forms of bc are better than 1...all the best to you...

[greasy571]

Me and my boyfried using condoms, and he always pulls it our when he is cumming, is there any chances to get pregnant still?

[cugirl]

I was on Depo (had 2 shots) and decided to stop right before I went for my next shot.  My doctor then presribed a low hormone BC.  The Depo caused me to have major mood swings, gain weight, etc.  The first three months were fine and then after the 2nd shot I would bleed for 3 days be fine a day and the cycle repeated....it was horrible.  Why are you not switching from Depo straight to BC pills?

[Jenni6485]

You could try a diaphram, spermacides, female condom.. And since the Depo isnt working for you, get off it and go to the pill. But the best way to not get pregnant is to practice astinance. Dont have sex if you're worried about the consequences.
Ofcourse the natural feeling without protection feels the best, but you need to realize, that even know it feels good, are you willing to deal with getting pregnant?

[monkeyflower]

cd is right. All of those activities are safe. Pretty much the only way you really can get pregnant is to have him ejaculate either on your vulva or in your vagina. Other than that, no worries :-)

[cutiemama]

I agree with Shylo- if you don't want to get PG then refrain from having sexual intercourse vaginally until you decide on another b/c method.  No, you will not get PG if you do any of the sexual activities you listed. Good luck.

[cd28]

1. Yes
2. Yes
3. Yes
4. yes, but wipe off your hands if they have semen on them.
5. Yes
6. Yes
7. No. It is necessary only if you have vaginal intercourse.

Jelly is not terribly effective by itself, though. Should be used with another form of contraception for maximum effectiveness. There are non latex condoms available.

[shylo]

If you don't want to get pregnant and don't want to use condoms DO NOT HAVE SEX.....There is no way you can get pregnant if he cums and you lay next to him naked how silly is that.. If you don't want to get pregnant stick with the anal thing if that's what you enjoy...