sex use to be great

[igotbaby?]

ok when me and my b/f started having sex it was 2 or more times a day, everyday for about 5 or 6 months. then we started to just have sex once a day which is good. but we have almost been goin out for 2 years this oct and he have sex like once a week now if that. im not ever in the mood anymore. he is though and i feel bad. the only time im really i nthe mood is when im on my period and we cant have sex then. well we can but we dont. and also it hurts alot of times when we do have sex. can u help me.

[Aruba417]

Yeah, I'm on birth control. I'm scared to get off it because my husband and I aren't ready for a baby just yet. And I've been on it for the last 2 1/2 years now (since we've been married). I don't know what else I'd do. I kinda don't trust condoms because my sister got pregnant that way. So I don't know what to do.

[capsbaby1017]

oh man...me and my FI been together 9 mos next week...had sex 5-7x"s a day...when we moved in together, wne to 2 times a day...now its 2 times a day, but only every 2 or 3 days...some times its cos only 1 of us wants to, or we're both sooo busy, we just dont have time...and we've agreed,(given we're open about our sexual pasts)that its only the 1st or just 2nd time we've actually enjoyed making love, versus, just the f-word...(u know, when ur young lol), so we'd rather have 1 or 2 good times a few days, rathre than hot heavy and short all the time... lol hey i feel ya'll...

but i'm not pg...and if he is it aint mine lol...jk...but i relate to the topic of ofteness...mine was norm due to orthoevra, and it just made me not want to

[igotbaby?]

well first of all im not on any meds. and second im only 19. i would have thought this wouldnt have happened until way later. but you r right. usually when i do have sex its to make him happy and im not in the mood. but there is something else. i use to love to have fore-play. we use to do it all the time and that got me in to it. but now i never want it. he will start and it will either hurt or i jus tell him no i dont want it. and i use to be up for new things and now im not. i usually tell him lets jus hurry up and get this over with. and that makes me feel worse. he asked me one day if he turns me on anymore. i didnt know what to say. o and yesterday we had sex and after words i took a **** and it burned and then i took a bath and it hurt worse.

[girl522]

Are any of you girls on birth control?  I had the same problem start about a year after I got on birth control.  Google and you can find some articles about it.  I've been off birth control for 3 months now and my drive is back.

[Aruba417]

I'm in the same boat....totally sucks, huh? And it's not like I can get off of any of the meds I'm on. But I'm not 100% sure it's only the meds that cause it, though....*sigh*

[jgonzales]

Now that I'm pregnant.. 19 wks today.. my husband is always in the mood, and I'm not, I'm always tired, no energy nothing, but he does put me in the mood by rubbing me, my back, and starts kissing my neck and stuff,When it gets hot and heavy I start to feel sick where I feel like I'm gonna throw up, so we take it slow for where I can take it.

It's normal on how you are feeling right now..  trust me:) just take some time off of having sex, and try new things...
take care..

[Adevotee]

The pain could be from not being "turned on" enough. If you are not "turned on" you cervix will be in the way during sex and cause pain. If you have alot of foreplay beforehand and get "turned on/excited" then your cervix should not be in the way. I had this problem and as long as I was really "turned on", sex would not hurt.

Take Care

[oceans3]

honestly...i think it/sex goes through stages. its like a "honeymoon period" if you will. especially if you are a new couple, you do it ALL the time. then reality kicks in. work, kids, activities, and so on... depending on your situation and what you do in life. once you get comfortable with each other in a relationship, then you are "able" to say, i'm tired, i'm not in the mood, no energy. then if it goes on where you are not having sex for a while, that becomes sort of a "habit" and you get used to NOT doing it. can ya tell i am talking from experience? its called...LIFE. i wouldnt compare then and now. it happens to the best of us. if its hurting its probably because you havent been "active" just use lots of lubrication and if you are of age, wine sure doesnt hurt!!!

[cBeth87]

ME TOO!! I'm in the exact same situation as you- except we do have sex on my period. It is VERY rare that I'm in the mood and it kills him, I think. He's not mean about it or anything, but I know it bothers him. It hurts me too, usually and I think it's b/c when we do have sex, I'm not really all that into it and a lack of natural lube makes it hurt.

I've found that it gets better, but not completely, when I'm not taking my medicine. Make it causes sexual side effects? Are you on any medications that may?

I know I'm not much help- but sometimes it helps to know that your not the only person in your boat.

Maybe when you are in the mood you could ask him to do things that turns you on. Men usually like that, too. It hurts my guy that sometimes he can't turn me on... when really I'm not turn-onable. :o\