sexual health

[negrisz89]

Hi I'm sorry I know its late but I was wondering why does my uterus, ovaries and butt hurt like a Sharp pain ( NO WE DIDN'T HAVE ANAL SEX) after we have sex? He doesn't use a condom n I've been in the pill since 2009?

Could it be because I changed my birth control pill to a different one?

I have gone to an gyno and she said everything seems ok. Also my breasts feel pretty tender after sex too is this normal or should I have other tests done? Please help I'm really scared.

Thank you

Erika

[Bhupinder Kaur, MD]

Hello,
What you are having is dyspareunia and can be due to infection of the vagina, cervix, tubes by bacteria, yeast; lower urinary tract infection; endometriosis (deposits of the inner lining of the uterus in the pelvic cavity); ovarian cyst and tumors ;remnants of hymen; vaginismus (reflex tightening of the muscles at the opening of your vagina);vaginal dryness etc. Other possibilities are sexual response problems (such as lack of desire or arousal; emotions like fear, guilt or shame etc).

You can use water-soluble starch based lubricant such as KY Jelly and if the symptoms persist then get it checked from a gynecologist.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.

[ducky406]

No problem. I know how frustrating it can be to have sex be unpleasant. The ultrasound is definitely a good idea and I think it should show if it's caused by hemorrhoids. (So no point being too worried.) Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if that's the main problem for you, so be sure to talk about it with your dr.  

[negrisz89]

Well he is kinda big and I don't think they are too big I'm a size 34 b so I'm not sure if that would be considered big. And to answer the other question yes I do have problems with my bowel movements. I recently went to my gyno and she wrote me a prescription to get a transvaginal ultrasound, so I'm going to try and do that as soon as possible.

Thank you so muh for all your help, it makes me feel better to know the pain isn't in my head and someone understands what I'm going through

[ducky406]

Well is he very large or sex rough? My hubby is a little big so unless he's careful he can hurt me pretty badly. Maybe try to find a shallower position so he can't go in as deeply.

Do you have large breasts? Sounds silly but they can flap a lot during sex so maybe next time try adding a bra. Does the difference in support help?

Finally, a little on the gross side.. how are your poos? If you have frequent constipation or sometimes have a difficulty getting them out maybe you have hemorrhoids. These are typically no problem, definitely not dangerous, but can be painful. Internal ones can go unnoticed until one is ruptured and it looks like you popped a balloon full of blood, because you don't have many nerve endings inside your anus so can't feel them. If you think this might be a factor, try increasing your fiber. This can be done by adding psyllium husk, oat bran, or wheat bran into your cereals/porridge/yogurt or adding a glass of metamusil into your diet. Make sure you are getting your fruit and vegetable intake, and that the veggies are nice leafy or high in fiber and not all starchy. Also make sure you're having enough water, personally I try to manage 2 liters a day. But then again, I rarely drink anything but water.