stay at home moms

[1twinmom]

Hi, I'm looking for support from other stay at home moms who didn't realize what a challenge it is to be here all the time. I have four kids (two sets of twins) 3 & 1. I'm going out of my mind with the tantrums and power struggles. Any advice. I love my kids and they can be the sweetest things on earth but they push my buttons all the time. I feel guilty about not wanting to be here.

[gatorfrog]

Two sets of twins, all 3 yrs and younger - I can't even begin to imagine.  I have five boys, they are much older - ages 12 to 22.  However, when I had all five at the youngers ages, it was very hard. I was a stay-at-home the whole and even now, with 3 still at home, I only work part-time while they are in school.  My biggest advice to you is find a Mom's Group or Mother's Morning Out group.  If they have any in your area, it would be a godsend. I joined those groups when I had my 2nd son, and it literally helped save my sanity.  20 years later, I still have many of those same moms as my friends,including my best friend ever.  You learn so much, you share so much and if you are lucky to have a Mom's Morning Out to go to, you will leave them in capable hands and enjoy some free time of your own. It is very important that you get some alone time - time to do whatever you want or need to do.  My groups were at the local Catholic church I attended.  I hope you have help (mom or mother-in-law, etc.) I am sure you could use it. Good luck to you!

[ksanden]

i feel for you. twins that must be hard. iam also a stay at home mom. and yes it is really hard its like you never have a break at times i feel overwelmed and want to cry because of it. i have a 3 month old boy he is colicly and crys alot. i have my step son almost full time his mom drops him off for me to watch while she works and he is a year in a half and i have my four year old daughter. i never thought of how hard it owuld really be untill NOW. it is really stressful what helps me at times is just to take a shower when theres someone for the kids. that is my get away a shower lol. i dont get out and when i do i dont take the kids with it is to many of them and to hard. so all i do is stay home all the time. i swear i go wall crazy at times.. i forget days and times i never no what the date is and i forget so much stuff its not funny... but yeah thats my story.. dont feel bad for not what to be there. i say it myself its just stress. we all love our kids its just not always easy to love them at times. they can be brats lol... take care if you ever need someone to chat with i am ALWAYS around lol...
ksanden

[firstbaby07]

WOW! 2 sets of twins! You must be busy and pulling out your hair. I just had my first baby 4 weeks ago. I am also a stay at home mom, and although my life isnt as hectic as yours. I agree, it's hard. I love being home with my daughter, but it's tiring. My husband works 70-80 hours in 1 week! And he works rotating shifts, weekends, all the time. Remember, you still need time for you, so twice a month, once a month, once a week, whenever you can, you should go on a walk by yourself, walk around the mall, have dinner with friends, have some time for yourself. Anyways, I'm on here lots, so if you would like to talk leave me a message, I can give  you my email to if you want it.