help me!!!

[mae0508]

i haven't tried to have sex but i used to do it with my self (even if i know its not good for myself) and i'm not sure what is the feeling of musturbating and orgasm i can't define the difference between the 2. anyone can help me? thanks!
actually i want to stop doing it by myself even with a partner coz im too young for this but i can't stop watching porn.:((

[Aquarielle]

That was a good answer from the doctor :) If you ever get itching or burning or it smells bad, though, you could ask the doctor here about it and/or see a doctor, since it's possible to get a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis from anything being down there; this probably sounds silly, but washing your hands well before touching your body down there can lessen the chances of those or general irritation. I know you're trying not to do it, but if so, that will at least keep your body healthy.

   I can see why you're afraid to see a counselor about it. You sound like a strong person who really wants to be healthy, so I bet you can do a lot for yourself that they would do. It must have been difficult to even ask for advice here! There are some things you can do on your own, such as finding good resources online and in books that could give you some ideas on how to work on controlling it and feeling better emotionally.

    Different types of addictions have some things in common, so reading about how people become addicted to various things and what helps them could be useful to know. I found some information on this website; I don't know if any specifically address your concerns, but it may still be helpful. Some people even have online journals, and reading about how they feel might help you feel less alone-- I imagine you must, since it's embarrassing to talk about. I'm not sure how much you know about pornography addiction, but it's something many people struggle with, including young people. I know you can get better, though!

http://www.medhelp.org/addiction

[mae0508]

really thank you doc for your help! i'll update what is going on to me

[Bhupinder Kaur, MD]

Hello,
The white discharge from vagina during orgasm is the normal discharge. There is nothing to worry.
It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.

[mae0508]

thanks doc! when the female masturbate, is there any white thingy in the vagina? thats what i am confusing. orgasm is a satisfaction i think so. but i reached it already. my question is, why whenever im going to do it by myself there is white thingy my vagina secretes. what is that white thing, is that normal? thanks for your answer!

[mae0508]

thanks for your reply! im afraid to see a counselor about this. thank you so much for your help. i'll control myself to not watch porn. i really have to coz i know i'm the only one who can control this. i dont want this feeling coz i'm too young but it seems i'm so addicted to porn.:((( but whatever happens, i'm going to control myself. and don't worry i'm not abused by somebody.actually i am very protected by my parents so nothing to worry about abusing. i'll do everything to control this. thank you!

[Aquarielle]

   You sound very upset :( I'm sorry you're feeling so unhappy. A lot of people do have stress and confusion about these things. If you can't tell the difference between the two feelings, then you probably haven't had an orgasm. I think it's very good judgment to not have sex since you feel you're too young; no matter how old you are, it's not a good idea to have a sexual partner unless you feel ready and healthy about it. I'm concerned about how unhappy you are, and that it's sounds like you don't want to watch the porn but can't stop watching it, and how you feel that you shouldn't be doing anything sexual yet and don't want to, but can't stop yourself. Is there an adult you can discuss this with, such as a relative, maybe an aunt, or a school nurse or counselor? Any person-- of any age-- has a lot of trouble trying to address these problems on their own.

   I know it's an embarrassing subject, which is probably why you're asking about it here-- and it's good that you are looking for information to help yourself feel less unhappy and confused. I think, though, that some type of counselor could really help. I'm not saying you're crazy or anything bad ;) but many people see counselors about worries like these because they're the experts-- and also you don't have to worry they'll think anything bad about you, as you probably think people you know will.

    I don't mean to be too personal, but if you've been sexually abused, it could be the cause of these problems :( I really hope you weren't, but many people don't realize the connection between sexual abuse and confusion, sadness, or worries about their sexuality and interests until they're in their 20s and 30s, and their lives could have been much happier if they'd gotten help earlier. You sound very smart and it's so great that you want to understand yourself.

    One more thing; if anyone bothers you privately here or anywhere you ask about these things, please please report them, block them, whatever-- and maybe don't mention that you're young or a minor. It's easy to become vulnerable when you're upset, and I don't want anyone who seems nice or helpful, but really has other motives, to make any of the problems worse :/  

[Bhupinder Kaur, MD]

Hello,
Masturbation refers to sexual stimulation, especially of one's own genitals (self masturbation) and often to the point of orgasm, which is performed manually, by other types of bodily contact (except for sexual intercourse), by use of objects or tools, or by some combination of these methods.

You should do masturbation gently and at a comfortable pace. If anything hurts, stop and readjust till it's comfortable.You can hurt yourself if you masturbate in a face-down position. Masturbation should be performed on your back, although you can try it sitting or standing once you've learned it on your back.

It is very difficult to precisely confirm a diagnosis without examination and investigations and the answer is based on the medical information provided. For exact diagnosis, you are requested to consult your doctor. I sincerely hope that helps. Take care and please do keep me posted on how you are doing.