virgin alert

[LeighAnn18]

Hi i am a virgin and I've been dating this guy for about a year and 2 months now and we are so in love with each other. We desperately want to make love and i just want to know from all you married women or non virgins any tips i need to know? Or things you all wish you did differently such as waited till marriage?

[LeighAnn18]

I understand what you saying. Just hormones lol hormones and love can do great things but also do  bad things haha my worst fear is getting pregnant and if I got pregnant I wouldn't want to aboard it because I love who im dating and it would be our first but at the same time I dont want tk be pregnant through high school:( so I thought that I would wait until marriage so I wouldn't have any worries and we could do it naturally without any birth control such as condoms because I want to be as close to him as possible and I wouldn't have to worry about getting pregnant however marriage is a long ways away:(

[Mrsharder]

Ppl all see it different but for me kinda both I guess but mostly cuz now that I'm bout to get married to a very sweet respectful man which by the sounds of it ur boyfriend is too I would of liked to have my bout to be husband be the first one the make love to me;) but u sound very inlove too so if ur being safe and respectful with ur body lol and of course ur heart too it's up to u

[LeighAnn18]

Well I guess im wondering why do you wish you would have waited until you were married? Would you say that your first time was rushed or you just wish that you gave yourself to that one person that your spending the rest of your life with?

[Mrsharder]

I totally understand the feeling ur having it's so hard to wait but I agree I wish I would have waited till I was married and also everyone is different and can make there own decisions and yes some say that their first time was uncomfortable but for me can't say that but everyone's first time is different but just don't ever do it if u don't feel like it only when ur fully ready;)

[LeighAnn18]

Sorry I ment both of us feel that we can not see each other end up with different people. Like we belong together.

[LeighAnn18]

Well we are  in high school and we have discussed getting married countless times. Both of us feel  we  see eachother with different people like beong together. We have been though many things together  we always makes it work. He knew coming into this relationship that i wanted to wait until marrige however it is really hard to wait. He is patient and is leaving the decision up to me but i think i am putting now pressure ob myself than he is. Im just so in love with him and part of me is afraid the first time will hurt and i don't want it to hurt on my wedding night. I also don't want to plan it and i feel like if i wait it's planned for my wedding night. We act like we are married  we are so in love and it is just really hard to wait because i want to give myself to him fully and completely and he feels the same.

[tatita1993]

Honestly I wish I would have waited to marriage I regret it everyday not have waited. If your partner loves you he should be a bit patient and give you the respect of waiting til marriage or asked you to marry him but thatsan opinion. I always say everones different and you should do what you feel is right or when your ready. Listen to your heart :)