need a ansewer

[lost60]

I have been with my boyfriend (50) for almost two years. The sex was far and fue between. I thought when he got read of the room mate and i moved in,things would change! Wrong! It has gone to none! I have been caring about the penis thing not working right! But he doesn't seem to have any sex drive. He does work 3rd shift and i work 1st,so time together is on the weekends. Please help me before i go crazy trying to figure out whats going on?


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[AnnieBrooke]

If the sex was few and far between originally, things have pretty much followed the same course, so it doesn't sound like he is cheating with someone else.  He might have ED, he might not be that interested in sex with a woman, he might not be interested in sex for other reasons, maybe he masturbates a lot and doesn't want actual sex much, who knows?  If he won't tell you, nobody else can.  You certainly can't "figure out what's going on" without asking him.   Just ask at a calm time, in a sympathetic way.  If you are thinking of leaving, you need to give him the chance to discuss it.  

[lost60]

Thank you for the advice. I think it time for a chat and a visit to the doctors. I feel that becauce of the ED hes afraid of a disapointment of not being able to perform. That would be a good reason for the problem we are having in the sex department.