30 weeks pregnant and get no help around the house

[keilabeans]

I don't quite know what to do here..... here's the situation. My bf and his sister and I are living under one roof. I do all the strenuous cleaning like scrubbing toilet, bathtub, sinks, dishes, sweeping, mopping and vaccuuuming as well as laundry and cooking meals and cleaning them up after. I ask my bf nicely if he can help out and he "forgets". The bathtub was black and he lefft it there until I did it ( he had said multiple times when asked to do it that he would and lo and behold two weeks go by and I'm left to do it). I clean the house and do all of this daily, he comes home and says thank u, then messes it up again. We also have ants in our home so I ask him to clean up any food on counters etc and he leaves it there. He has no hygeine, wears dirty clothes ( and I mean DIRTY) all the time even when there are clean ones. He gets food all over himself and the carpets and just leaves it there. So this morning he left food all over the counters and I kinda bitched at him for it b.c yet again, I'm gonna have to clean it up. He tells me to go eff myself and that he's sick of walking on eggshells around me. maybe he wouldn't have to if he actually made an effort to help out around the house, I am a high risk pregnancy with severe anemia and I STILL do everything. The sister is living off us and gives no help either. I'm leaving him.

[newmommy88]

If he doesn't stick by his word...I'd start by making breakfast, lunch and dinner for myself and myself only. They can fend for themselves if they don't want to help out. Especially the sister. I know what you are going through though. My bf works more than full-time. His dad lives with us..yes he pays half rent. But they don't help out at all. They can't use the 'you don't work excuse' on me because when I did work...I still did everything. And I'm doing online college. My bf cooks dinner every night tho because he is picky. His only chores are trash and clean Kitty box. He's gotten so slack on the litter box. I cleaned it the other day and he just stared at me the entire time. He knows I can't mess with that. He also leaves his clothes and shoes wherever he wants and I'm tired of tripping over them. :( I've given up on asking anymore.

[Castillo025]

I wish you the best and hope he helps more around the house. :)

[keilabeans]

He said he sees my point now and that he will help out more around the house. I hope he keeps his word. I don't want baby to be fatherless b.c if this.

[keilabeans]

No I can't go to my parents.... don't really have any in my life. I asked him if its this bad now, what will it be like when the baby comes? He just shrugs it off and says I make him walk around on eggshells. I've tried putting my foot down nicely but he constantly "forgets" to do what I asked of him. B.c he works a full time job ( throws that in my face) he's exempt from any household duties. I can't live with a messy, ant infested house. His sis is looking for work.... (not really trying too hard+) and she lives off us. Only one income for 3 ppl plus a baby on the way? What a mess I've gotten myself into.... my mom is one of those suck it up its a woman's duty type so no support there. My man is such a pig, if a man is even what I should call him.. idk what to do. I just cleaned the house again, and I know that as soon as he walks in the door it'll be like I didn't do anything at all. His sis is being picky about what kind of work she wants to do and she already told us both yesterday she doesn't give a shite and she's going to do what she wants to do... I'm one snotty remark away from picking them both out and locking the doors. We just moved provinces too so I have no one out here.

[AnnieBrooke]

I don't blame you for leaving, frankly.  If this is the way he is now, it is not going to get better when the baby arrives.  Can you go home to your parents?

[MrsMuldrow]

Im sry youre going thru that but if I were you I would put my foot down. I am high risk also and cant imagine not having help. And his sister living there? Tell her to woman up and help or she can kick rocks. You dont need any extra stress on top of everything already. I hope everything works out!