Sounds like you have been to get her help a lot, As she has so much Professional help could you try to kind of let it all go quiet for a while, if she hears so many things about her problems ,and if it is all problems its possible thats all she knows and how to behave,When you want her to do something is there a better way than demanding or telling her to do it can you ask quietly ,or say beforehand it'll soon be time to put our games away etc Can you relax the Rules and kind of ignore them if she anwers back does it matter so much. Do you guys play games with her does to do sports ,is she interested in Hobbys you can get her more motivated in, maybe shes plain bored.A lot of kids find Homework a chore, they come from scholl and Whammo its more school ,how about a Game first or a nice Chat. Ask her Why does shenot like to do as you ask at her age she will answer. Good luck