adult child passive agressive behavior?

[abaihya]

I have an adult child who is depressed and also believes he has ADD.  He has seen a NP but he is so passive agressive with me, the mom, that I am at wits end.  In this economy he is living at home, jobless, angry with life and his circumstances.  How have some of you dealt with the threats and angry behavior that he is exhibiting. My tums bottle is almost empty.

[sakers70]

I was diagnosed with ADD a few years back.  All my life I've always felt "different".  Although I've scored fairly high on IQ tests I failed and skipped school and exhibited alot of antisocial behavior when I was a teenager.  I got into ALOT of trouble.  I was always bullied and picked at when I was a kid and called stupid.  I even had a teacher recommend to my mother that I be placed in "special" classes because she believed I was retarded.  I ended up in an abusive marriage which I fled.  Life is a daily struggle and since other adults around me either don't know or don't understand maybe they just don't care it makes life even more difficult.  This can definitely lead to depression and anger.  I suggest you find him some counseling if you can.  It helped me alot.  Also by growing older they tend to mature... eventually and someday he'll look back and thank you.  However, don't let him push you around.  
Confrontation doesn't work with people with ADD.  There are many great books available one of the best if from Dr. Amen.  Study up on this and it'll help you know how to deal with him the best way you can.  You can't baby him and let him get by with everything he's doing, however there are effective ways to deal with him to improve his outlook and his attitude which will help him in life in general.

[LetaB]

I dealt with my sociopathic son by going to court and signing papers for his removal. He had quit school (though gifted), smoked pot all the time, threatened his younger siblings and then finally ME! Not only could I no longer find the strength to try and fight that losing war, I knew with out a doubt that he would NEVER change without a fire being lit under him. If your son's an adult do NOT let him guilt you into supporting his nonproductive behavior. Give him the ultimatum! You've given him everything =- including his very life! HE OWES YOU not the other way around.