what does my son have?

[cheriserene]

My son,4, is very social but annoying to others his age and older. He does not pick up on social cues to keep his hands to himself. He also has difficulty concentrating and listening. He is average as far as learning. WHy does he continue to bother other kids even though he knows they don't like it? The teacher says he is at the bottom of the class and no one wants to be his friend or play with him. Are these symptoms signs of ADD?

[wilson49332]

Hello,

I can say as a child social worker, that other responders are correct. It sounds as though your child simply needs more motivation to do better. Simple rewards should help in this case, see if the teacher will agree to do this at school as well. I wouldnt worry at this point, unless other aspects are tried first. Give her time to adjust to school.

[shaz71]

I agree with the other posts a lot of people i know are diagnosing quite young i know sometimes there is something going on, like my daughter isn't diagnosed but i do know something is going on, she had a lot of problems with social queing when a bit younger she still gets a bit in your face and in personal space but is better at it, she is quite behind in education she is also 2yrs immature so like a 5yr old. I find myself constantly repeating myself to her, she has poor memory, she didn't sit her sats as she couldn't read the questions, she is now on the special needs register and as a couple of ieps one that i definately know about as the speech therapist as set it up for her. Just see how he goes, i know a mothers intuition is always right, as i know from past experience. My daughter is 7 i am going on a parenting course to help deal with the behaviour although i have a feeling i am already doing it as i know what works with her, i can just about manage it i just wish i could stop it, but i do know what her tantrums are caused by change, lack of understanding, she has just been diagnosed as having reflux, still waiting to here from her peadiatrician, she also has a lot of bad dreams and even runs in her sleep. There is a lot going on and i am going to get to the bottom of it, she is also very anxious especially in groups. Sharonx

[jljohnson740]

I soooo agree with the above post.PLEASE don't let some lazy teacher influence you. my grandaughter was put on meds for NOT keeping her hands to herself...PLEASE..along with 3 million other kids! It's ridiculous. Teachers want the easy way out...DRUG 'EM. They have the power to destroy your child...don't buy it...please!!  I will pray for your child and you.

[margypops]

Your title says 'what does my son have ' why does he have to have anything? he is only 4 years old, most children of this age dont listen too well, do you see many 4-5 year ols sitting quietly for any length of time, they want to play and do things, I am surprised that the teacher has them still for too long, stimulation is the key ,playing reading, He is average as far as learning, what is she teaching 4 year olds ....Math  .No In my opinion no disorders, he just wants more stimulation and interest than this daycare /school .Focus on his positive side.