My spouse is currently in rehab (he went willingly) for an off and on opiate addiction that he's struggled with over the last few years. He's doing really well, and his recovery sounds promising. During the rehab, as many of you may know, they offer a family course where we stay for several days and take part in lectures/meetings with our loved one. Part of the therapy, is to conduct an honest and transparent conversation about their addiction and their wrong-doings. I'm currently 5 months pregnant, and my S/O feels it would be too much stress on my body/the baby if I take part in the meetings, although he said the decision to partake is mine in the end. My questions is this...am I better off not knowing? If we want to start over and leave the past in the past, isn't it better to leave those "wrong-doings" in the past as well? I've forgiven him for the deceit, and I am willing to help him through this, much as I would if it were any other disease. He hasn't stolen from me, mistreated me, or done any of the other things I've seen/heard other addicts do. However, I compared this to him being unfaithful (he’s NEVER been unfaithful but I feel the same betrayal). If he had cheated, would I want to know all the dirty details? Or is it better to leave the woman (drugs) in the past and move forward with a clean slate? I'm not one to dwell on someone's mistakes. We're human. We make mistakes, and I firmly believe he has learned from his. I’m afraid knowing the details may cause more harm than good. But if it’s an essential part to his recovery, I will do my part and listen with an open mind.