Careful.

[Mangee]

I have again read and re-read certain posts. There is a possibility here that I seem to have missed. Whoever is attempting to sabotage this site is sitting back and waiting for us to make a dire mIstake. When this happens, whoever the culprit is, will suddenly pounce and start to accuse in all directions, causing as much havoc as possible. Do not make the mistake of naming names as yet. Wait until there is an absolute surety as to who is doing what. There is another possibility as well and that is a possible colition working together to confuse the issue. You blame one and the other steps in and posts in an attempt to focus the attention elsewhere. This is an old trick, but effective. I earlier retracted several statements that I made in regards to who is who. The reason for that is in order not to be waylaid by anyone. I too have my suspicions, but will not reveal them as yet, because I feel thst is what they are waiting for. There will be an attempt to reverse the situation to their advantage. When that happens the truth will become evident.  Cnt'd

[Mangee]

They now have two options, reveal themselves or disappear. The sponsors of this site are not stupid. They have many medical personell to analyze and determine where the problem lies. A pshycologist can easilly determine from statements made here exactly who is to blame. In the meantime, do not, and I stress do not, give whoever they are, any ammunition to use. Look for hidden meanings and un-uttered words but refrain from making outward accusations as yet. Our time will come and this forum will revert to it's original intent and those who are here to help and be helped will again be able to walk steadilly forward. If we remain strong, they cannot win. Let them blow all the wind they want. As long as we do not let it effect us. they, are on a dying cause that can only conclude with their destruction. In the meantime'Keep the faith."

[ScottQuit021907]

The only corollary I would add is please people - don't give out your personal info (full name, hometown, personal websites, etc.) either via the forum or IM. There's no reason to assume that everyone has good intentions.

[tink1517]

i'm with you on that. i will never again post my IM, email or anything else here, in light of everything that has been going on. it saddens me cause i have made some TRUE friends here, i just feel lucky that we changed our info BEFORE all this other **** began. EVEYONE ELSE....keep strong we need eachother and pointing fingers isnt helping anyone. i've read posts pointing out ppl, i know for a fact are who they say they are, yet have been accused in one way or another of not being so. i try to stay out of it. i am a trusting perosn by nature (always have been) but one person texasrebecca, for instance, i speak to on the phone, have her phone number and personal info. I also have Danthorpe pers. info phone and address, both have been named here as not being who they say they are. and i also have some others phone #;s who i talk to on the phone that havent been named here at all.

my opinion will stay that for now, my opinion and will keep it to myself. i just think the more we talk about it the more we feed into it. now that my girls are gone i have ALOT of time to help others the way I've been helped here, and i choose to IGNORE anyone who appears as a "bad apple".

[oxysbliss]

I agree with not feeding it...I think even talking about it on the board is feeding the behaviour...**** it ya know......ignore it and well stay safe....
Tink...girl, Im glad I have your email..and a couple of women here....Lord knows if I didnt have access to at least that...I may have left at that point.....Im blessed...everything happens for a reason...and karma however this person is or persons....They must have one **** of a boring life to come on a message board and cause chaos....what comes around goes around...

[tink1517]

WELL SAID GIRL..... couldn't agree more with you

[Mangee]

Lies are easy to come by and they cost the user nothing. However, there is a cost and that is to whoever the lies are aimed at, if it was actually intended that way. Even a slight jibe can be taken the wrong way . That is a mistake I made earlier and now regret. Suspicion carries no weight and can only cause unfounded accusations. If it is circumstantial it is useless. It is easy to take the words of someone, anyone and read into them other than the intent. One careless word can light a fire that is hard to put out. I, for one, was quick to judge without any actual proof. I therefore retracted my statement in order to allow the truth to be sorted out in a proper manner. Was I right or wrong? I do not know at this time. Little has happened in the past while and there is a distinct possibility that this could be over. Perhaps saner heads have prevailed and sanity has returned to this forum. From what I have read lately, that is a distinct possibility. Anyway, as usual, that is my opinion.
               mangee

[oxysbliss]

I believe that truth prevails...in all cases...and sometimes there is hard times to go with that...well all we can do is stay strong as a group...Keep postive feed back up.....Keep posting our check ins...our jokes...whatever...and just learn to not acknowledge the ****...

Im happy you post...You have alot of great things to say..and some great advice .........and Im happy that you stayed..in all the chaos......

[tink1517]

you are so right, lies cost the person telling them nothing. I have had my bad days and my feelings hurt, because i took something the wrong way. in our fragile state of recovery it doesnt take much for feelings to get hurt and emotions can run high. i have seen many ppl here i call "friends" hurt especially this past week or so from things being said. i to hope that ALL is behind us now and this forum will again be the supportive place it once was. before all this i remember i place where no one was JUDGED and all were ACCEPTED. thats a place i'm proud to be a part of.

luv ya,
tink