Hi Geri, I don't have any experience with Oxy but have learned a lot about it from being on this forum. It is a drug from heaven or hell depending on its use. Its sad that so many people have had such great relief from chronic pain but its so easy for others to abuse. I hope the drug companies find a way for it not to be abused I know they are trying. I just want to send you a little cyber hug and tell you that you are a wonderful mother!!! Your son is lucky to have a mother who cares. I am a mother of a 20 month old little boy so I can appreciate other moms love!!! I hope you aren't too hard on yourself and I wish the best for both of you. I don't have a lot of wise adivice but here is your hug and I will always be an ear here for you if needed (((((((((((((HUG))))))))))))!!!!! Your new friend, Jules
Dear Frank,
We are disappointed in your attack on Dr. Steve. He has donated countless hours and expertise to this forum for the past few years, asking nothing in return.
We don't think you realize that there are thousands of people who visit this forum, without posting and find it very helpful.
We would have preferred to have you work with Dr. Steve & Med Help to improve this forum, rather than opening your own forum. However, we wish you well and would appreciate it if you would not use this forum for free advertising of yours.
Cindy Thompson
Med Help International
I thought what Frank said was very well put. Even restrained, given the cavalier treatment we've received from Dr. Steve. And I would venture to say the overwhelming majority of the people posting and lurking here agree with him. The problem is Dr. Steve is not helpful. He's not even here most of the time and the truth is sometimes lives hang in the balance. Literally. We have no other way to let people know that there is an alternative except by posting our URL. And they want an alternative. If you truly care about the people here and their recovery, you will let us advertise our forum. If one person commits suicide because they couldn't reach someone here or their post was deleted, wouldn't that bother you? It would me.
We've post your forum's address on our site. We don't have a lot of ego invested in this. We're primarily concerned with people recovering and we don't care where they find the help to do it. I wonder why you would.
Cindy,
So the logic is because Dr. Steve has put in countless hours, and thousands of people visit this site, I have no right to be critical? Come on Cindy.
I think I was constructive - if you read the post I noted Dr. Steve has done some great work in the past (I've read his stuff). It just seems like this has become a bothersome chore rather than a labor of love.
Dr. Steve at this point is not posting substantial advice. I would like to ask anybody who has recieved advice from him in the last 6 weeks to go on record as recieveing substantial advice. His answers are pat. You would be better off in my opinion, going back to your original format and letting people visit and share. If someone wants specific medical advice ( with your caveats) they could ask Dr. Steve and then he wouldn't have to come in weekly and give meaningless refains.
I simply feel, and I am not alone, that he has done more to hurt this board ( threatening to close it, posting simply "delete") than to help it - that is my criticism.
Yes, I want to help people. If that means occasionally letting them know there is another site, so be it. You can call it advertising although it's a little odd. We sure ain't making money off it, it's labor intensive as you know, and we only started it because your Dr. Steve threatened to close this one. And, as Kstuebin says, we have listed your site on our board and we will continue to do so. God, this is not about competition. I just feel he is doing this place, which I said has helped me, a disservice.
So that's my two cents worth. I will stay off your board for a while if that will help. But I must tell you, I still care about this place. That was why I posted.
Frank
Dear Frank & KStuebin,
Geez! This is getting frustrating! I believe I said in my previous posting that we would have preferred that you work with us to make this a better forum, rather than taking public pot-shots at Dr. Steve for thousands of people to see!
Regarding publicity for your forum - you do not have any qualified medical professionals working with you and therefore, Med Help cannot, for the sake of our commitment to medical quality, support your forum.
In addition, we told all of you that if for some reason Dr. Steve chooses to leave the forum, Med Help will do everything we can to see that it continues, yet you decided to start your own forum.
As for the "delete" comments you see under Dr. Steve's name, these are software errors - not Dr. Steve being arrogant! We're working on correcting these.
This is a week during which America traditionally gives thanks -
We ask all of you to take a moment and really think about the words you are putting out for the world to see. How would you feel if your credibility was being attacked by annonymous people? Wouldn't it be kinder to offer suggestions for improvement?
Think about the thousands of people who have been helped by Dr. Steve and ask yourself, doesn't he deserve better than remarks like:...
"His rash of short brain-dead responses this weekend, coupled with is audacity to post "delete" ( I thought that was up to you) has sounded the death knell for your board."?
Dr. Steve has supported you - now is your chance to give a little something back! Talk to him - support him!
Cindy Thompson
Med Help International