Relationship Question??

[Penelope14]

As Im sitting here in my recovery { 5 days off methadone & loving it }, Im begining to think about some of my choices I,ve made in relationships in my past & Im finally seeing things in a whole new light, I have had many boyfriends in my lifetime, to many, sure maybe but it is what it is, I cant change that, but what I noticed for the first time is how I was always attracted to the bad-boy, the functioning alcoholic the pill addict, the guy that I could take care of & fix. I had one relationship with a guy who was in law-school, great guy with everything to offer a girl, who is now a big shot attorney in Arizona, but what did I do? I dumped him for a coke dealer, talk about stupied! & I basically carried on this way for my whole life, I am curently married to a alcoholic who is financially stable & runs a business that is very successful, but I have to question the future?  I just cant see living a life of sobriety & staying clean with someone who is self medicating?  I go to NA meetings, he goes to the bar! Is that not insane? & Does anyone out their relate to this?  Thanks Penelope

[bubbaganoosh]

this is my second day on about 15mg feeling fine :) I have a system at home where i am measuring out it

[bubbaganoosh]

5 days wtg. My take on this is he is an alcholic as in full on or managable? You say you have an ok life buisness etc, if you love him maybe when you feel stronger you can help him too. Let him to go the bar and you NA stranger things have worked. I guess it all depends if you want to be with him , Id love to see American Arizona is supposed to be nice and i love the show medium lol.. I am in a r/ship with a non user doesnt even smoke drink, real tea totler but that's a good thing and only motivates me to give this junk up.

[newmanagment]

seems women alwayz wanna be wit an outlaw... till the see the real hell we cause to those that love us. then the next thing is they keep falling for the outlaw, hoping they can change us and mold us into wut they want us to be. problem with that is no one changes till they are ready, and in my experience by then it is too late. while i cant help ya with your problem, just know that it seems like alot of women are attracted to the bad boy, i have dated alot of women that dint use, were beautifull, and had great jobs and alot of offers from guys that could do better by them. i think maybe its also a safety issue, an outlaw will alwayz protect ya, cept from himself...

[worried878]

I suck bad at relationships so I can not help you one bit in that area...when u figure it out..please let me know as i am a relationship cripple....with men in that arena...with friends/men or women, i have no problems and have many...but congrats on how well u r doing...u r truly an inspiration to many

[FLaddict]

I relate... I did that for years.... all the men in my life always used and abused something.. booze, drugs, gambling, money, sex, even me....

Then I met my now husband.. never did a drug, drinks socially, is a hopeless romantic, is in a band, has a great job..everything I girl could ever want.  
Eventually, you stop putting yourself through it.. you open your eyes to what you really deserve. And to what you really want.

[pinksapphire]

i'm sorry..i cannot relate to it because we do the drug together, but i can understand it.  i know you love him but you still have to take care of yourself.  good job going to meetings.  you'll be okay.