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Should my mom press charges
My boyfriends morphine addiction led him to stal not only my credit card but my mothers as well. My mom filed a police repost and is pressing charges. It has been over 2 weeks since I found all this out and since then he has been trying to make things right. He went back to work and has been paying us back. But my parents what me to stay away from him. I think this is the main reason my mom is pressing charges. I don't know what his son and I would do if he went to jail for a long period of time. I Love him and want him to have a fair chance to prove that he can do this and make everything right. Any advice?
No one judges addicts quite as harshly as "ex" addicts. So it's not surprising.
Your right, neither of you can make the other do what you want them to do. I suppose you can tell her that if she loves you she'll listen to you and trust you to do what's right. After all, she raised you and taught you, so if she can't trust your decision in this it shows a failing in her lack of faith in her teachings of you growing up.
Your right, neither of you can make the other do what you want them to do. I suppose you can tell her that if she loves you she'll listen to you and trust you to do what's right. After all, she raised you and taught you, so if she can't trust your decision in this it shows a failing in her lack of faith in her teachings of you growing up.
Don't be to harsh on your mom. Nobody understands an addict like another addict. Stop stressing. You can't change the situation. You can't change if charges will or won't be pressed. You can't change the deal he may come to with the DA. The only thing you have control over is how YOU respond to this situation. You can freak out or you can stay calm and deal with what cards life gives you.
A wise man once told me you can either spend time wisely or waste time...either way you won't ever get that time back. Focus on the possitive and take care of the kid and yourself. What is going to happen is going to happen.
Take a deep breath and remember: Don't die on the small hills.
Stay strong,
Greatgreebo
A wise man once told me you can either spend time wisely or waste time...either way you won't ever get that time back. Focus on the possitive and take care of the kid and yourself. What is going to happen is going to happen.
Take a deep breath and remember: Don't die on the small hills.
Stay strong,
Greatgreebo
Savas that is a great and very true point you made. Parents cannot tell thier daughters what to do in this situation only guid them in the right direction. My mom hung up on me yesterday and since then has not spoke to me. I am not even back together with him but because I let him come over and talk the other night she said I broke the rules and refuses to talk to me. I am 25 and it is my own house and I think I am smart enough to make some decisions on my own, with help and guidence from all of you! I can not chose between my parents and someone I love so much. I know my mom is looking out for me but this is not the way to handel it. BTW my mom is an ex addict. well ex for most and she still does somethings. But shooting up use to be one of her drugs of choice and she got away from it so HOW CAN SHE JUDGE MY BOYFRIEND?????
Yes, and we all know that by pursuing this and pressing charges for revenge and in an attempt to control her daughter's life, she's going to do EXACTLY the opposite and it will push them closer together and make her determined to stay with the guy.
Considering how many movies and books have been made with this plotline, you think people would have learned by now that's how this kind of thing tends to go.
Considering how many movies and books have been made with this plotline, you think people would have learned by now that's how this kind of thing tends to go.
Hi Hun...
I have to agree with Bear on this one.The thing is if he is just paying the money back,whos to say it wouldnt happen again?If the addiction is not treated.....it will progress.If you have a broken bone,but all you do is take pain meds,it may make the bone feel better for a while but it wont heal.The bones is still broken.Does that make ANY since?LOLI guess what im trying to say is drugs change people....if he doesnt seek drug treatment then you will never know what he will do next.He does need to pay the money back,but he also needs to get to the root of the problem.I do believe in second chances.You also have to understand from a parents point of view....we want the VERY best for our childrens.You may be in love with him,but love also puts blinders on some of us.It is so easy for people in love to see the good and overlook the bad,but not as easy for someone,like your parents,that do not love him the way you do.......
I do agree that if he is getting drug treatment as well as paying you back he shouldnt go to jail....Thats just my opinion.....
Good Luck to you and let us know how it works out.....
what2donow
I have to agree with Bear on this one.The thing is if he is just paying the money back,whos to say it wouldnt happen again?If the addiction is not treated.....it will progress.If you have a broken bone,but all you do is take pain meds,it may make the bone feel better for a while but it wont heal.The bones is still broken.Does that make ANY since?LOLI guess what im trying to say is drugs change people....if he doesnt seek drug treatment then you will never know what he will do next.He does need to pay the money back,but he also needs to get to the root of the problem.I do believe in second chances.You also have to understand from a parents point of view....we want the VERY best for our childrens.You may be in love with him,but love also puts blinders on some of us.It is so easy for people in love to see the good and overlook the bad,but not as easy for someone,like your parents,that do not love him the way you do.......
I do agree that if he is getting drug treatment as well as paying you back he shouldnt go to jail....Thats just my opinion.....
Good Luck to you and let us know how it works out.....
what2donow
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